"He eats meat, but can't eat any processed meat."

[Flangelica]

If someone said this to you when you asked about dietary requirements for a child, would you think they were massively w*nky/snobby, or is it socially acceptable and fine?

No, it doesn't @Lola4321

Doesn't mince meat have nitrates and preservatives in it? At least that's what I've read. And some chemical that makes it look really red and fresh, that they add to old mince to 'refresh' it

I think if you buy meat in a supermarket, you really don't know what you are getting, but I buy from a butcher and he just picks up a chunk of meat and sticks in the grinder

Doesn't mince meat have nitrates and preservatives in it?

No, it's just meat.

Ask if it’s medical or preferable.

if the parents aren’t there that child will probably eat more chicken nuggets and sausages than any other child !! 😂

I think you should accept the parent's preference to not feed their child processed junk. Some people prefer to be healthy and eat wholefoods as much as possible. It's actually really sad that people these days find it "wonky" if a parent wants their child to eat healthy and as natural as possible....

'Can't eat' means that.

If you'd like to starve the child go ahead and give him the chicken nuggets.

Honestly, no need to interrogate if it's an allergy, etc. And questioning as snobbery/ wonky is just not nice. You clearly don't like this parent- hopefully you are nice to their kid.

At least the parent didn't say "DS only eats clean food" I suppose. 🙄

Or "DS can only eat organic".

It's not wonky it's wanky to ask for someone on a play date to cook a whole roast chicken or whatever other people have suggested!

I'm a mum of 3 and cook healthily for my gang all the time but I don't expect someone on a play date for tea with multiple DCs to do anything but pizza or whatever ... a one off won't hurt and it's ridiculous to expect a cooked from scratch meal for multiple school friends coming round for tea! I work! If someone said this to me, I'd do it the one time but not in urge that child again. I'm not a restaurant. I'll be careful around allergies and stuff THE CHILD dislikes but I'm not catering for parental preferences because jacinthia or Hubert should eat .. yada yada...

Biut *not invite that child again (who's parents made a wanky request)

So you would not pay attention to a vegetarian or a Muslim as you consider these preferences only?

Yup
And your point is?

Of course you'd respect a vegetarian who doesn't eat meat, and someone whose religious beliefs mean they cannot eat certain foods. That's a given

Would I be happy with a parent saying well s/he will only eat unprocessed ie expensive meat as it's my preferences as a parent, I'd be thinking "oh no !"

I don't use processed meats much when I'm cooking but for a play date for tea for 4 or more children over and above my own 3 DCs, it's pizzas or spag Bol or picnic type tea. Because ain't nobody going to be home in time from work to cook 2 roast chickens for all the children and your own family! Sheesh way to make a play date tea untenable!

Oooh that poster meant the opposite that those are food requirements we would stick to!

Considering all the recent research that has linked processed meat to disease and in particular cancer, then I think it is perfectly acceptable to specify this as a dietary requirement.

It isn't though really is it? For a one off play date of tea at someone else's house?
It's a bit entitled
It won't hurt a one off dinner that might have some processed meats in it

Unless you don't work and have endless time to cook from scratch for the extra 4-6 children for tea round your house whilst you also have your own DCs and family to cook for? It must be lovely to have that kind of spare time, not out most of the day in a busy (/professional) job

Unless it's an allergy , a vegetarian or religious reason, or will make someone sick as various intolerances, no parent dictates to this like this to another parent for a play date one off meal

Never eaten mince made by a butcher from a block of beef or sausages made by a butcher or even a brand like Debbie & Andrews then?

Processed meat to me is cold cut compressed rubbish or meats you find in cheap ready meals...

I agree, cheap meat products are crap. Sorry you had them as a kid, but don't write off all meats tgat are processed cos the closest to unprocessed as you can get is from a farmshop off the farm or from a good butcher, not from a supermarket!

Never eaten mince made by a butcher from a block of beef or sausages made by a butcher

My local butcher is so fucking expensive, as if I'm going to pay that.

The parent is very precious.

If you offer them a coffee they might say " only if it's not instant"

There are loads of quick things someone can knock up without having to serve processed meat. It doesn't involve cooking from scratch; humous, cheese, baked beans, eggs, to name just a few. If you don't have time to boil an egg, cut some cheese, heat some beans etc., then I really don't think you've got time to be hosting play dates.
I would never dream of not checking what a child I was caring for could or couldn't eat and I would always cater for their parents preferences if inviting them over., Parents have every right to dictate what their child does and doesn't eat, and if they don't want them to eat something that is harmful to their health, then that is their choice, and should be respected. One offs accumulate and they also give children a taste for the foods that parents don't want them to eat.

A boiled egg, sliced cheese and some beans are not a meal.

There’s loads of veggie things to eat I would probably always do that for kids coming to me I think meat is a hassle re cooking and food safety so would make vegetarian food anyway.

A boiled egg, sliced cheese and some beans are not a meal

Based on what definition? And regardless, what's the problem with a child eating this as a meal on a play date one time?

Beans on toast? Egg on toast? Mashed potato, egg, beans, bread and butter? Not a meal???

DM is 80 and this is what she eats! Aside from fish and chips and Sunday dinner minus meat.

You don’t have to eat meat with every meal for it to constitute a meal ffs. This is a play date?

Talk about first world non problems.

A boiled egg, sliced cheese and some beans are not a meal.

They totally are.