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"He eats meat, but can't eat any processed meat."

548 replies

Flangelica · 04/07/2022 11:33

If someone said this to you when you asked about dietary requirements for a child, would you think they were massively w*nky/snobby, or is it socially acceptable and fine?

OP posts:
LAtalante · 05/07/2022 15:50

You're making the classic MN mistake of thinking everyone is talking about what you think they are a talking about

It's a nebulous concept and you havent a clue what other people are thinking of when they see the term

🙄

I have literally given MY OPINION on what this thread is about. Let. It. Go.

Alternatively...shall we do a straw poll to see if people think this thread is:

A. mainly about Turkey Twizzlers/cheapo sausages et al, or

B. mainly artisan air-dried proscuitto et al?

Jeeez.

motogirl · 05/07/2022 15:55

@Flangelica there's only extra ingredients if you buy ready made foods. Fresh meat etc is just meat for instance. If you don't have a dairy intolerance basic products like cheese are minimally processed so fine.

I'm not sure where this junk free utopia is because I've been to many places and never found one!

LAtalante · 05/07/2022 15:55

In short no-one on here really seems to know what the hell they are talking about or what risk they actually understand

...except you?

I guess my work with the Consorzio del Prosciutto di Parma was a vivid dream. And now I'll probably have to bloody name change Grin

CupidStunt22 · 05/07/2022 15:57

LAtalante · 05/07/2022 15:55

In short no-one on here really seems to know what the hell they are talking about or what risk they actually understand

...except you?

I guess my work with the Consorzio del Prosciutto di Parma was a vivid dream. And now I'll probably have to bloody name change Grin

No, including me, as I don;t know what other are rabbiting on about when they are talking about the problems with processed meat when they are unable to define what meat they are talking about and what they think the issues are.

Your work, such as it may be, makes no difference to that point, another you seem unable to grasp.

CupidStunt22 · 05/07/2022 15:59

LAtalante · 05/07/2022 15:50

You're making the classic MN mistake of thinking everyone is talking about what you think they are a talking about

It's a nebulous concept and you havent a clue what other people are thinking of when they see the term

🙄

I have literally given MY OPINION on what this thread is about. Let. It. Go.

Alternatively...shall we do a straw poll to see if people think this thread is:

A. mainly about Turkey Twizzlers/cheapo sausages et al, or

B. mainly artisan air-dried proscuitto et al?

Jeeez.

Christ. That's the actual point!
You think they are talking about A, yet they are all identifying supposed issues that are actually related far more to B! Do you see?

"I don't eat A because I'm concerned about nitrates, even though they aren't really found in A. I do eat B because I think they are fine, even though the thing I am worried about are found far more in B"

Do try to keep up.

LAtalante · 05/07/2022 16:04

Cupid you're verging on funny. Go and squabble with someone else, yes? Please? I was enjoying this thread before.

Sausages are not the only fruit.

sunglassesonthetable · 05/07/2022 16:14

In fairness "processed meat" is not clear. It just isn't.
It seems a bit like saying 'clean food'.

I'm not saying there are not benefits to avoiding it etc

And definitely I would go with whatever any parent asked re feeding their child but back to the OP ( and not the health benefits of avoiding "processed meat" ) - I'm still cringing a bit for the parent asking it.

Again I still think it's like saying " coffee, but not instant" or " fruit but not imported" or "cake but only homemade ".

Why didn't they just say "no nuggets please?"

CupidStunt22 · 05/07/2022 16:18

LAtalante · 05/07/2022 16:04

Cupid you're verging on funny. Go and squabble with someone else, yes? Please? I was enjoying this thread before.

Sausages are not the only fruit.

" I was enjoying the way it made no sense so I could boast about my work in Italy, then you had to ruin it by pointing out none of it was worth posting on due to no-one having a clue what they were talking about".

apintortwo · 05/07/2022 16:34

I suffered from IBS and also agonising stomach acid very regularly

OP, I also try to avoid processed food as much as possible.

But surely, one thing is to do this at home, and another to demand that someone's mum caters for this expensive and time consuming choice during a playdate. The odd sausage won't make anyone ill (unless there is an allergy or another valid health reason involved)

Willyoujustbequiet · 05/07/2022 16:58

Tbh I would probably think anyone who finds it wanky/precious as being a bit uneducated.

Probably the same type of dismissive attitude to second hand smoke a few years back. We know better now. Or at least most of us do.

LAtalante · 05/07/2022 17:13

I was enjoying the way it made no sense so I could boast about my work in Italy, then you had to ruin it by pointing out none of it was worth posting on due to no-one having a clue what they were talking about

What in God's name are you talking about? Confused

Actually, I don't care. Just stop now please.

Anxiernie · 05/07/2022 17:15

I agree with Cupid

Svara · 05/07/2022 17:22

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable request. Easy to serve something veggie or an affordable meat option such as mince or chicken thigh fillets. Might only be a problem if you were intent on a processed meat option and they also couldn't have a processed fake meat alternative. There's always beans on toast though!

MarniAf · 05/07/2022 17:34

LAtalante I don't think you realize how SERIOUS this matter is to one poster anyway 😂😂

Sausages sausages sausages

WestendVBroadway · 05/07/2022 17:57

I am a lapsed vegetarian, I still don't eatn much meat as not overly keen
However I do not eat any processed meat eg bacon , ham sausages. Apart from not being good for you I cannot digest them well.
I would not consider the child to be fussy.

TrixieMixie · 05/07/2022 17:57

We eat meat but not processed meat

tttigress · 05/07/2022 18:01

I try to follow this diet, but it is for long term health reasons (I don't want to get cancer).

I don't think you can technically be allergic to processed meat as opposed to non processed meat.

Ortega888 · 05/07/2022 18:03

I would cook whatever the child wanted and it wouldn’t be an issue.

Rhaenys · 05/07/2022 18:06

It seems easier to just serve a vegetarian dish and not think about it. It does seem a bit rude though unless they’re allergies.

sunglassesonthetable · 05/07/2022 18:13

T*bh I would probably think anyone who finds it wanky/precious as being a bit uneducated.

Probably the same type of dismissive attitude to second hand smoke a few years back. We know better now. Or at least most of us do.*

Sorry I'm educated. We don't eat a lot of processed by choice. We make healthy food choices.

But I still find it a bit precious.

And I'd contend that scientifically it's really not the same as 2nd hand smoke.

I'm trusting WHO on that one.

hangrylady · 05/07/2022 18:20

Willyoujustbequiet · 05/07/2022 16:58

Tbh I would probably think anyone who finds it wanky/precious as being a bit uneducated.

Probably the same type of dismissive attitude to second hand smoke a few years back. We know better now. Or at least most of us do.

You'd be wrong. I don't feed my kids a lot of processed foods but I'm not going to get all precious over a sausage roll at a friend's house. It's called balance.

justfiveminutes · 05/07/2022 18:25

I don't eat processed meat and am educated.

But I do think it's wanky to stipulate your food preferences when you are a guest.

Food intolerances and allergies, specific items you hate - fair enough.

A preference for non-processed meat - seems a bit wide-ranging and ridiculous, a bit hysterical, like you read a Daily Express article about it causing cancer and are now rabid about avoiding it. Also quite rude to the host.

Lots of pp saying it wouldn't be a problem, lots of easy meals and veggie choices, are not really addressing the fact that, even if it's easy to comply (for you, not everyone, maybe not the mum who's already bought the sausages), it's still a request that shouldn't really be made by anyone with manners.

beallrightdahlin · 05/07/2022 18:28

Quite. And they are a bit tired of having to explain themselves too, then having to counter argument when people think they know better…

apintortwo · 05/07/2022 18:30

I would cook whatever the child wanted and it wouldn’t be an issue

Really? 🙄Even if they asked for A5 Japanese Wagyu Kobe Sirloin Steak at £624/kg? It may be what their DM serves at home every day

www.tomhixson.co.uk/product/a5-japanese-wagyu-kobe-sirloin-steak-bms-9-2512?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-ISXraLi-AIVROvtCh2YmghCEAYYByABEgJ3bvD_BwE

Rosejasmine · 05/07/2022 18:37

Have you considered that the child might have a reaction to the sulphites or other allergens or chemicals in processed meat?

even if not, I would respect the parents wishes.