"He eats meat, but can't eat any processed meat."

[Flangelica]

If someone said this to you when you asked about dietary requirements for a child, would you think they were massively w*nky/snobby, or is it socially acceptable and fine?

*Perhaps parent might think that the child's medical history is confidential and they feel that saying "please don't feed Fred any processed meat" is good enough.

And it should be! As other posters have pointed out, its not hard to roast a chicken or throw some chops or similar in the air fry*er.

oh please. I don't want a child's medical history on a play date. God alive.

But if they've got an allergy - say "they've got an allergy". That's it if I'm taking responsibility for food.

Clearly, it's not about allergies.
Yes it's precious.

Anyway it's no problem, it's beans on toast or Margarita Pizza always for play dates. God I'm not roasting a chicken, they're only here for a few hours.

I think it’s fine. And sensible.

In short no-one on here really seems to know what the hell they are talking about or what risk they actually understand.

I know what diet DH was told to follow at cardiac rehab; and what an independent dietitian is telling me about what DD should be eating - but then what concerns us most is cholesterol; and second artificial additives, preservatives, etc!

I would expect to be given notice and would probably do veggie food.

I think that it is unreasonable to expect other parents to cater to a preference of another parent (though I have no issue with catering to allergies and the preferences of the dc).

Pasta with tomato sauce isn’t very exciting for children. Atleast serve them pizza.
Its one of those meals my children would dread being served at a friends house sorry..
and toast for dinner?!

Processed meat, pork in particular, is one of the things that sets off my IBS. I risk bacon once or twice a month. 😅

The OP mentioned not letting their child in a house with asbestos. If they are planning to come back to the UK they may wish to avoid schools that have older buildings as many schools are riddled with asbestos.

For a playdate I never serve anything other than snacks, juice, granola bars, things like that. Sleepovers would be different and I usually try to get something that both my child and friend would eat.

Definitely a preference. My husband will not eat cold meat i.e. he will eat ham on a ham and cheese toastie but wouldn't touch a slice of cold ham on a salad. If I have left over chicken I have to warm his in the microwave before serving it 🙄

I had breast cancer last year and on a Maggies Cancer Centre nutrition talk they said we should avoid food with 'sodium nitrates' on the packaging. This is in almost all processed meats so I'd avoid them. I think it sounds fine 👍

If you ask the dietary requirements then I guess no matter how "snobby" it sounds you should agree to abide by them.

Not sure how that parent manages when their kid goes to birthday parties at play areas though, as it's all processed chicken nuggets, fish fingers and other crap these days. I'm not a fan of feeding it to kids on the regular either🤷‍♀️

Or tuna pasta & sweetcorn pasta! That's always a good quick and easy play date meal for kiddos who's parents are avoiding processed things :)

100% this. No biggie. Kid would probably love a turkey twizzler or a McDonalds though 😂

I'd say fine, same here.

Possibly due to allergies? Issues with additives that are commonly used in processed meat? Therefore yabu.

So you would not pay attention to a vegetarian or a Muslim as you consider these preferences only?

I'm dying to know how you're going to stop your kids being friends with kids who may live in a house with asbestos @Flangelica. Are you going to ask people how old their houses are before you let your children go over there?

I wasn't being literal 😂😂 i was just thinking of it in terms of how i feel about other known carcinogens 😂

This made me laugh out loud 😂 You have won the thread! Nobody else needs to bother posting, we have peaked!

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I worked in a school and coming up to the time for Christmas lunch, it was turkey. However, the container said "contains turkey product". I don't even know what to say about that. WTF is "turkey product"?

I’d say pack your own meat, I’m vegan😂

^ and that’s why. Yuck! Lol

I’d ask for clarification and to give me a few ideas of acceptable meals.

My adult son has been hospitalised recently after two serious allergic reactions. He's been told to avoid food that is high in histamines. It's a long list and high on it are processed meat products. If the parents have given that info I'd assume there's a good reason for it.