In the past 2 years, nursery illness has ruined

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Every bank holiday bar one. Maybe 15-20 weekends? Both of DH’s birthdays. A weekend away. Too many occasions and plans to even count. I am so done with it, another weekend ruined and I just want to cry.

@DrinkFeckArseBrick i agree if I had a high temperature I wouldn’t want to swan about doing normal stuff, I would be tucking myself up on the sofa with a lemsip. I would take DD with a runny nose or a bit of a cough, but not if she feels genuinely poorly, that’s just cruel

it does get easier - my two are now 19 & 12. Since each around 3.5/4 even when they moved from nursery to school they very rarely ill. My eldest near enough 100% or 100% attendance at secondary school!!

I do agree I think lockdown knocked immunity My eldest in recently was poorly and needed antibiotics twice for chest infection for the first time since she was 3! She hadn’t had antibiotics for many many years!! She shook covid off twice with not even a cough! My youngest has picked up a couple of nasty virus with high temp and even a trip to a&e due to the temp being so high!! (She still never tested positive for covid but has had two jabs)

Hopefully that will be it! But I still remember the stress of a poorly child and work and balancing it all!!

Ignore all the people implying you're exaggerating/lying/abnormal/neglectful. It's just shite and it's not your fault! X

thank you, hope your DD feels better and that there are no runny bums tomorrow!

Are you and your partner sharing the responsibility of looking after your sick child?

Also, is your child that sick? I know you say she has a temperature but how high is that temperature? I think we’re all hyper aware of raised temperatures since Covid. Before Covid we didn’t check so frequently and didn’t worry so much about it. I don’t think you need to worry about anything less than about 38.5. A temperature is just your body dealing with an infection. It doesn’t actually mean they’re feeling very ill.

@OperaStation yes we take off every other day each when she is unwell, without fail. And he pulls his weight massively around the house. I can’t fault him.

her temperatures are usually in the 39s

I have a toddler too, and I don't think lockdown was good for their little immune systems, now all restrictions have lifted we seem to constantly have something and it hits her like a train every time. It's exhausting!

We're are currently on a soft play ban, everytime we went I ended up with a poorly child.

It’s not bizarre or abnormal, if you simply Google the nhs website says the average number of colds or illnesses for babies in the first year is something like 8 so obviously some people will get more than 8 and some less. My LO had about 11 in the first year, it was just bad luck nothing wrong with her immune system and I know this because me and my husband got every one of those 11 colds too! (And she was checked multiple times by GPS). It’s rubbish, just poor luck. I had a friend I remember saying when her 1 year old had caught her first cold, I was in total shock! But she was a proper pandemic baby so never really went anywhere for that first year. Fingers crossed it gets better soon x

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This is unreasonable.

Yeah my kids get a bit snotty and some cold type stuff but it's rare it stops normal life or nursery attendance - twice so far this year.

Have you had her checked for asthma?. In my daughter it always comes with a cough and temperature. Maybe if it's mild asthma, the breathing is not as obvious maybe check her oxygen levels with one of those finger oximeters next time. Triggered by a catching a mild cold or allergies. It did mean my dd got ill a lot more than other children.

You have my sympathy OP, that is a lot to deal with! I do think some kids pick things up more easily compared to others. One of my friends sons picked everything up it seemed poor kid, he had frequent chest infections, had to have inhalers and a nebuliser at home. But there was never anything ‘wrong’ with him and he’s doing so much better now he’s 5. The nursery years were by far the worst!!

Oh I empathise, my kids are constantly riddled and it’s ruined so many things this year including Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, the end of our holiday, Easter and February half term off the top of my head and that’s just this year. My eldest son was sick last night (who is actually at school and doesn’t tend to be the bearer of illnesses!) and it’s my middle sons birthday tomorrow, so I’m having to take him for the planned day out without his dad so he can stay home with eldest. Luckily I managed to get a friend to come with us and her son whose the same age, but it means dad still misses out. It’s also my eldest sons birthday Friday and his party on Sunday and I just hope we’re all healthy for those. we also had to cancel their joint birthday bbq with family today. It’s exhausting and never ending and each illness just makes me more and more anxious.

OP are you not treating your daughter's illnesses with medicine? If your child has a temp and is cranky with it, it's because she's uncomfortable, this is what OTC medicine is for, just as adults would take paracetamol (and generally then feel loads better, and get to work!) You need to give your daughter medicine so that not all plans are ruined. I appreciate you may have some plans at times that get cancelled but it shouldn't mean a compete disaster of a weekend when a little one has a viral illness, you give them medicine as appropriate and it should alleviate symptoms enough that the weekend isn't ruined?
If your lo has temperatures that AREN'T reducing with medicine then absolutely you need to get her to the doctors for them to check it out/investigate, that's not normal.

You need to give your daughter medicine so that not all plans are ruined.

If your child is ill with a high temperature you can’t just load them with calpol and send them off to nursery or take them to a playdate regardless. In fact some nurseries and schools specifically ask you not to do this.

Sure calpol is a good idea to make them more comfortable and will help if you need to take your unwell kid to the supermarket but it’s not a magic cure that stops them being ill.

OP are you not treating your daughter's illnesses with medicine?

i mean forgive me for being rude but did you genuinely think I don’t/didn’t think to give her medicine?! We alternate calpol and nurofen if she’s very hot and just one if she’s under the weather

@ChickenBurgers i know what you mean about the anxiety. That sick feeling you get when it first dawns on you that they’re ill again. I break out in a sweat.

How nice for you

I’m going to see a counsellor about it I think because the anxiety is just getting too much.

My eldest has been okay in himself all day so I think he’s going to be okay but all I keep thinking is what if my middle and youngest catch it now? Middle ended up admitted to hospital three weeks ago for a stomach bug because he was so poorly (only a very short admission in the end but not the point) and my youngest is only 6 months. I’m pissed off that we’re playing dodge the stomach bug for the third time in less than a month and once again it’s ruining things for us, last time Father’s Day and our holiday, this time potentially 2 out of 3 of my kids birthdays. It’s exhausting. And people saying to dose her up and get on with it is exactly why kids like ours end up ill all the time, because people can’t keep their sick kids home. I really empathise, it’s actually exhausting.

Have you forgotten what the covid rules were until quite recently?! You literally had to stop all plans and stay at home for a cough.

@BiasedBinding most schools and nurseries were sensible about not every cough and sneeze being covid so no, you did not have to stay home for every cough.

I think your poor DD does sound more poorly than a lot of other children. How old is she? Coughs and snot are normal but it does sound she’s on the worse end of the spectrum. It’s very unlucky for you and frustrating. :(

I can only sympathise op my DS is similar, he is sick with cold symptoms about once a month, a temp of at least 38c is not uncommon.

I think nasty bugs at least once every 2 to 3 months so vomiting, diarrhea etc.

It's eaten both my dh and my annual leave, but fortunately my job is quite flexible so worst case scenario I can take time and work it back.. I am also off in Wednesdays due to condensed hours.

It was a lot worse when he just started nursery up to 18 months I swear he was ill every 2 to 3 weeks, now he's gone 2 he's not as ill but I know how you feel.
It ruined Christmas for us last year as he had a vomiting bug and was completely miserable.

I will admit there were a couple of times where we just dosed him up with calpol and sent him in, just because his temp was not as high and we were completely screwed as neither of us could book time off at the last minute.

Ours wasn’t,

PCR if they coughed more than once

I really feel for you OP. It’s absolutely horrendous balancing it with work - I just don’t understand what parents are supposed to do?! I’m lucky (touch wood) that my DS isn’t TOO susceptible to illness but I have a friend with a DD the same age who just seems very prone to getting temperatures and she has never spent a full month at nursery. Her mum is at breaking point. She’s a perfectly well-fed, well-cared for healthy child but she just seems to have a dramatic immune response to viruses.