In the past 2 years, nursery illness has ruined

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Every bank holiday bar one. Maybe 15-20 weekends? Both of DH’s birthdays. A weekend away. Too many occasions and plans to even count. I am so done with it, another weekend ruined and I just want to cry.

My 3 year has been ill a lot since starting nursery last September. He somehow got glandular fever and tonsillitis together in December and since then his immunity seems to have weakened. He's often got a cold or cough. Two weeks ago he brought home hand foot and mouth and baby dd caught it too.
So I know how you feel.

Yeah, same for us. Didn't happen with elder ones, but 3.5 yo has not had an illness-free month since her nursery reopened after covid. Like yours, she runs a high temperature when she's ill (and throws in a febrile convulsion occasionally just for fun). Our GP says the same as yours, this group of toddlers / pre schoolers are getting loads of stuff, and average was already 10 bugs a year so for them, plus the normal number of outlier kids, it's even higher 😭

I tried to ban soft play but there was a mutiny led by the 7yo

No idea why people are being superior about it. Hooray, your child didn't get ill that often! Good for you!

Yes but that's not the same as missing out on 20 weekends, several holidays, every bank holiday and so many more the OP can't even count.

Plus those 12 illnesses will cover things like chicken pox etc which it doesn't sound like the OPs child has had. I really do think the OP needs to take her child back to see someone if not for the temperatures then at least for the fact she has an inhaler which isn't working.

I sympathise, my 5 year old has had so many things since starting school in September. Before he had Covid in January he had several coughs that meant he couldn’t go to school until he’d had a negative test. He’s had 3 sick bugs, tonsillitis, chicken pox, and many more coughs/colds. It’s draining.

That’s over 2 years mind

That’s over 2 years mind

I appreciate that it's over 2 years but it still seems excessively high and she really does need to see someone about her wheeze and the inhaler.

The wheeze is gone - it was a night time cough she had for 6 months but she doesn’t have it now

We are in the same boat! He's been in nursery since he turned 1, and has been ill every single week in June. He is always ill, just yesterday i took him for blood tests to see if we can find out the cause but one of it is his tonsils. Check your one's tonsils, that may be the cause for you well. It is so hard with work!

I feel you op! Our toddler has been absolutely knocked for six after the restrictions were lifted. HF&M, chicken pox, numerous bouts of d&v, temperatures, coughs. As soon as he recovers from one thing, he gets another. Nursery say it's pretty typical at the moment and to be fair he's been a lot better in the last couple of months, although that could be because it's summer. Absolute nightmare!

My little one has had numerous colds since starting nursery. Just this past two weeks she has had a stomach bug and a bad croup type cough and temperature straight after. I do feel your pain!

I don’t know, OP. I have a lockdown baby, and he isn’t unwell as often as this. How old is she?

You are not alone and I can totally sympathise with you on this. My little one was consistently poorly for around 6-8 months after catching covid last summer. He had that, then hand foot and mouth, then a viral and vomiting bug combined and that was before he even started nursery 😫 …. since nursery he’s had tonnes of time off as well. He even caught chickenpox a few days before our first holiday abroad so that was cancelled.
I have always made everything fresh and home made, lots of vegetables and a really well balanced diet 🤷🏻‍♀️
I think lockdown has definitely played a part in it as he didn’t have so much as a sniffle before he had covid at 8 months old… but I also think it is a bit of luck of the draw unfortunately 😢 it will get better, they just need to build that system up and it seems to take a very long time!

Feeling a bit bitter about the people who haven't had this. We have a toddler who brings everything home and babies, so every illness lasts 1-2 weeks minimum. It feels like we are never without one bug or another at the moment. We have childcare support but it is never enough and our work has really struggled.

It's just so depressing to have to tell employers over and over again why you were up at night or can't function.

Completely get this. I have a 1 Yr old in nursery and 3 yr in school pre nursery. It feels like we are constantly having to juggle work around some bug/illness. At one point it was basically every other week. Since January we have had covid twice, dnv twice and a few other bugs. Was not prepared for them to have so many periods of sick. When my oldest started nursery, there was the occasional bug, nothing like this.

This isn't too far off our experience too. DS has been in nursery since September and we've had hand foot and mouth, chicken pox, scarlet fever a couple of DV bugs and a couple of nasty colds with high temps.
We've been told much the same as you, that it's a been a particularly bad year of bugs circulating post covid lock downs.
I don't think our experience is unusual as many friends with similar age children tell the same story.
I can't see that there can be too many things left to catch now so hopefully next year will be better!

It doesn't sound "normal" to me at all.

Did keep your baby away from others during the last 2 years of covid? I have twins and have never been precious about taking them out places, allowing people to hold and cuddle them and other then chicken pox and covid and couple bouts of V&D they've been fine - they are in childminder/nursery setting so mix with 8 other kids

I can compare - I have two in nursery - 1 and 4. Since the youngest started nursery - we have had so many bugs including a hospital trip and two lot of antibiotics.

Lots of weekends ruined and three separate stomach bugs.

I keep being told it's due to the end of lockdown but I do truly despair

I'd want her immune system looked more closely at tbh. Regular temperatures that last days at a time aren't normal and I'm saying that as someone who always spikes a fever when ill.

Temperatures are an immune response but it shouldn't take 3 days of it to clear every cough and cold. The longest I've ever had one is 22 hours with Norovirus and that was hovering around 39 - 41 degrees.

I forgot about the chicken pox and the croup too. Dd coughing until she vomited. God its like my mind glossed over those particular hellish moments. Our nursery told me that the local council are investigating a major upsurge in reports of d and v cases in the last few months, and investigating outbreaks at nurseries as part of that. And her room leaders comment that she does seem to be felled by everything going.

Ds has also had a cough at night for weeks, and is being assessed for asthma. Dh has it, and every time they bring a cough home it takes him twice as li g to recover as anyone else.

Also I now have a temp of 38.6 myself, so thats just brilliant.

Think it depends on the baby tbh. DD was born in the beginning of 2021 and started nursery jan 2022, since then she had had coughs/colds but has only actually missed one day of nursery due to high temp & she's there 4 days a week.

The first 3 months or so she did often have a cough/runny nose etc. One suspected chest infection which she got antibiotics for but that's about it. So I think it really depends.

My eldest was susceptible to viral wheeze after one of the ‘colds’ she got was bronchiolitis - that was a game changer.

I would say your DD needs to be seen maybe for a preventor inhaler? Mine started it at 2.5, she was just like yours. It was really the thing that solved so many problems. Up until that point gosh I feel like ages 1-2 I was out of work more than I was in.

My little girl was like this when she first started nursery - the first few months were hell, I thought I’d lose my job. But it did settle down. She attends a Forest School now, and not sure if she’s just got a more robust immune system or it’s all the time spent outside, but she’s (touch wood) very rarely ill. Solidarity though, it’s brutal.

My DS was like this as a toddler. He was always poorly, ended up in hospital with croup more times than I can remember. Always hit his chest and had horrendous temperatures of about 40° which made him cranky. Luckily I was a sahm at this point, so could take the hit, but it was exhausting. On many occasions we did just dose him up and carry on with what we could. He was diagnosed with asthma at 5 and was put onto a steroid inhaler too which has helped. All blood test came back within normal ranges during this period too.

There is light at the end of the tunnel though... he is 11 now and has a very robust immune system. It will get better, but it's horrible to be in the midst of it.

You are not alone. Since returning to school and nursery after various lockdowns my kids (5 and almost 2) catch EVERYTHING and are seemingly ill constantly. So are all their peers.

Your post comes across very judgemental @tirednessbecomesme

I did keep my DD away from people and was very cautious who held her. We knew nothing about covid two years ago when she was born. And despite what your post insinuates, anecdotally, it hasn't held her immune system back.

Can't believe on a parenting forum we've got people suggesting others abiding by rules (and the law, social distancing meant holding other people's babies was not legal at points) in a global pandemic, and possibly exercising what is arguably reasonable caution, as causing their kids to have shit immune systems..! Fuck me.