Ex DP remarried

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To expect my ex DP with whom I share care of our 2 DS's to tell me that he got married? We do not have a good relationship and speak as little as possible but this seems to me to be relevant information.

At 15&19 there's no reason he needs to tell you himself. Though he shouldn't tell the kids to keep it a secret

I was wondering this @echt but i think the OP means that he married someone else when he split up with her, who he told her about.

Now he has divorced that wife and re-married this new wife-the one he didn't tell OP about.

Anyway, so what. Your children are grown, he is verbally abusive to you so let's hope this wife marks the end of it all.

Under the circumstsnces you describe I can see why he didn't tell you. The children know so thats the main thing. You want as little to do with him as possible and don't want to communicate yet are still annoyed he didn't tell you. It doesn't make sense.

Could he have been saving it to tell you later as a 'gotcha'?
My ex (who had made sure I knew he was single) is expecting and they live together, he told me on my son's birthday, he'd known about the pregnancy for a couple of months and they'd lived together for nearly a year, telling me on that day was a deliberate choice so I'd have him on my mind on my son's birthday.

There was no reason for him to tell me as we have no contact, he doesn't see the kids or pay maintenance and we live hundreds of miles apart.
It was a power play for him.

My ex husband saved telling me he was engaged until my birthday and pulled a im sorry I thought I should tell you myself to your face 🥺 so sorry for your feelings act (I was glad we were over he is highly abusive) I told him thanks for the thought I already know (for a month) this actually led to an argument over the phone (away from the childrens hearing) as he used the child support money to buy her a ring and then stopped paying as he needed to save up for "the wedding"

What an absolute jerk.

None of your business. Your kids knew why do you need to know?

I didn't tell my ex that I was remarrying but that was because I had had almost no communication with him for years and he used any communication that he did have as some kind of power trip. He hadn't paid anything towards our child and honestly I don't really think of him. I guess I should have but it didn't even occur to me. If you have a lot of communication then maybe he should have, but as others said it depends how old your children are. Everyone's situation is different.

I don't know why you care. It is literally none of your business. My ex remarried & had a baby & I wasn't told. None of my business. The only thing that annoyed me was that he didn't tell or invite the DC, who were under 10, to the wedding & told them to keep the baby a secret from me for some bizarre reason. I couldn't give a shit. Only cross the DC were excluded & used in his silly games!

Why are you still in email contact with him even? Your DC are both old enough to arrange things for themselves. All you need is a mobile number, purely for emergencies. Let it go & move on with your life. I appreciate that he is a dick, but he's somebody elses problem now!

If he wanted you to know then you would. It doesn't affect you anymore as your sons are able to see him independently
My ex is remarried.. I don't care.. and neither do my DS's( but that's my story!)

Just read your update about his email
I'd advise you to block him and let your DS's contact him directly
Tell your DC's you have done this