To not give something away to someone without manners?

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Put something on FB for free.

Man comments 'I can pick it up now'

Sends DM asking for address.
. No please or thankyou. Brand new, sealed item that would be £25 ish.

AIBU to wait and see if anyone else messages and at leasts uses manners?

Even my illiterate grandmother for whom English is a 3rd language and has never had any formal lessons knows how to say please.
She may put it in the wrong place but she says it.

Most languages have an equivalent, so people would know something was missing. They wouldn’t just barge in.

Stop insulting those of us who speak multiple languages and comparing us to rude **s.

@JiggleJiggleFold sorry wronf message! I meant to reply to PP before you who said they don’t know where to put it!

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I answered a "wanted" post on freecycle and gave a load of hardly used baby stuff away. I even delivered it. When I arrived the woman answered the door and aggressively asked "WHO ARE YOU?!" but I politely explained and carried all the stuff upstairs to her flat. Then I realised she had literally nothing and was 7 months pregnant so I offered her more things and arranged a time to bring them. She didn't even answer the door that time so I ended up leaving everything in the stairwell.
At the time I felt like I was doing a good deed, but since then I have just felt like a total mug!!

Not the OP's problem.

Plus learning please and thank you, in any language, is about the third and fourth word you learn when studying a new language!

My response would be "Sorry, it's already gone!"

I put a load of cine equipment on Freecycle. I had two extremes of replies - "I guess I can take it off your hands - what's your address?" and "I am an enthusiast and have been searching for that particular thing for a long while. Unfortunately I would not be able to collect it until after this date." You can guess which one I chose!

Well, it is if she’s unable to get rid of stuff from her house unless people can display a standard of literacy she deems appropriate.

You're funny. Must be tiresome though.

If you think 'super polite' means please and thank you, well you're wrong. That's basic manners.

I've mostly only had people answering in an ordinary and polite way when I've given stuff away. The rude ones were the people doing it on a sort of 'professional' basis.

I wanted rid of the stuff so they had it, but it left a bad taste tbh.

Really? 😂

I'd have replied 'manners?'

I once had a messages that just said "postcode?" They didn't even ask if the item was still available. I ignored them.

wow. Don't blame you.

I think your world view must be very narrow if the idea that people 1) don’t always have English as a first language or 2) struggle with literacy is so laughable to so many people.

I already explained upthread why it’s not just as simple as learning three words, it takes ages to learn nuance and context in a new language.

I’d rather be tiresome than ignorant, tbh.

The poster bending over backwards to excuse a fictional non English speaker struggling with nuance is cracking me up 😂

No way ! Our local free Facebook page rules asks for a 'yes please' only and the rules state no direct messages or sob stories!!

I’d rather be tiresome than ignorant, tbh.

Luckily for you, you haven’t got to make the choice.

Rubbish. If you have the sense and ability to look for free items on the internet, you know how to use the most basic of language/could find out how to say something.

Rubbish. Particularly when English doesn’t have a formalised version in the same way Spanish and French does, it’s very easy to make mistakes under the vague heading of ‘polite’. So if it’s polite to say please once in a sentence, saying it four or five times must therefore be SUPER polite. But it isn’t, because then it looks sarcastic. These subtleties take ages to learn.

Reasonable to wait. If you then give it to someone else, tell them why.

Or should I say, please tell them why.

My favourite was the lady who said "I can collect now." it was 11pm! And she was most affronted when I said that it wasn't convienient!

I realise I'm possibly cutting off my nose to spite my face but when selling stuff on, say Vinted, I'd rather not sell and give an item to charity than sell to a rude bugger who sends me a ridiculous offer

Pumperthepumper Do you tell people to 'be kind'?

It's simply not advisable to be nice to every rude cunt that tries to take the piss out of you, it gives them more leeway and it makes you a fool.