To not give something away to someone without manners?

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Put something on FB for free.

Man comments 'I can pick it up now'

Sends DM asking for address.
. No please or thankyou. Brand new, sealed item that would be £25 ish.

AIBU to wait and see if anyone else messages and at leasts uses manners?

He is definitely English, when he sent me a message I replied and realised I actually know him from school. He's one of my kids mates dad and very much English (and a bit of a nobber)

Oh that’s lucky then! And any learning difficulties that you know of?

I dont get people need to laud things over people expecting them to grovel to their standards.

Its pretty pathetic, to me polite isnt please and thank you forced in convosation its just a general nice demeanor, I dont expect be to beg me for stuff Im getting rid of.

Your not 'better' because your giving it away for free, if you could get £25 then go do that or take it to the charity shop but lets be honest you aren't clearly because you deem it a hassle there for they are doing you a favore by reducing your amount of work.

Not saying 'please' does not alone indicate bad manners (its an unnessacery additive word) however it IS ill mannered to be petty, judgemental and vendictive to others.

Someone will come along in a minute and tell you to " be kind". 😂

so you would rather fill a landfill than let someone reuse something because you're on a power trip... imagine choosing to be that kind of awful.

i wouldn’t give it to him either OP.

@mam0918 , yo’ure gramma aand punktuashun iz atroshus babez hav u bin drinkin?

Maybe check your SPAG before you criticise others?

At least get your/you’re sorted! X

Horror stories

'Oh my god what happened?'
'He didn't say please'

Some people don’t have English as a first language.

Some aren’t NT.

Some have learning difficulties and/or mobility issues that make typing difficult.

Some are distracted and make mistakes.

’Don’t be a total cunt’ is generally a more proactive motto than ‘be kind’ I think.

And now learning difficulties have been suggested 🤦🏻‍♀️

And some people are just plain rude, no?

If I was selling it and someone didn't use manners I wouldn't reply either.

It's one word .... please!

It's not typing up a super polite email!

Your use of commas is incorrect here, as are the double exclamation marks.

Do you know when to use please in Japan?

*Japanese

I generally find the sellers on there much ruder than the buyers. But I've had both.

I never offer anything free. It attracts all the annoying bastards.

If I lived in Japan it'd be one of the first things I'd find out.

You might learn the word pretty quickly - it takes literally years to learn the nuance of when to use it.

😂

anazing. Maybe they’re too depressed to be polite. Is this peak mumsnet?

Fortunately here, it's really easy to learn when to use it. And it's already been established that the guy in the OP was English.

it might be one of those generic FB marketplace responses that you just click on?

Afraid not; it includes choices like "Is this still available?" (and that doesn't include a please either - but the sentence he used isn't one of them

Anyway, glad it's going to a good cause OP - if you get further messages asking why you didn't reply, just ignore