To ask for your opinion on these messages?

[CrochetNut123]

In your opinion are these messages flirty or not? A is male, B is female.

A - Hey, how did the class go? I never made it, sorry! Let me know which one it is and I will do it tonight.
B - I’ve not done it yet, it’s tomorrow at 5.30 😀
A - ah OK, will try and jump on it tomorrow 😀good luck, get near the front 😂
B - I’ll do my best! I’m going with my friend so we’ll be barging our way to the front 😂

A smiley private chat??

Yes, that’s right - when we are in a relationship we are not allowed to smile anymore. All conversations must be with a straight face only.

WTF?!

I guess it has the potential to become flirty but that’s not a given. It all depends on context really - your relationship, his relationship status, how much you know about each other etc

I would assume the get near the front bit was meant to be a joke as i think most people wouldn't enjoy having themselves visible in a live stream exercise class (could just be me though!)

I don't think these messages are flirty, just friendly.

I send smilies on the end of my texts when I’m trying to be nice, but not put a kiss as I don’t want to appear flirty. It’s a bloody minefield!

OP, why did you show your DP the messages?

Agree, not flirty at all. Nothing at all like YT daily chats. Wondering why the conversation is happening at all tho, if such good friends, nothing at all wrong with friends, partner never mentioned this friend.

Mild, not hurtful, tho partner never mentioned this good friend who meets up regularly for class

The first post, no I didn't think they were flirty at all. Just sounded like 2 friends having a normal convo.

However, after youve added the context I can see your BFs point of view. The fact it sounds like this bloke is wanting to join the same class as you, and saying to you to get near the front (so you can be seen) puts a slightly different spin on it.

I don't however think you've crossed a line here, but with the added context I do think your collegue may have been being flirty with you. Deffinitely a little over familiar. So although you certainly haven't done anything wrong or even encouraged anything by the looks of it, I can understand why your BF is a bit uncomfortable with that conversation.

Not within this exchange, could be any gender messaging any gender. If I had to take anything from it, it would be that possibly A got confused about the class and what was needed and didn't want to admit it.

Doesn't seem flirty to me. Doesn't really seem overly friendly either. More like a colleague conversation doing something outside work or something.

"His opinion is that as our relationship is not working well at the minute (he’s absolutely right with that), I shouldn’t be interacting with other men in a flirty way. I just can’t see what was flirty at all."

It has been pointed out here many times that when a partner accuses you of something it often turns out that they are guilty of it themselves. Sorry.

Too many emojis?! WTF. I go way overboard with emojis and they are not in the least bit flirty!! I was emoji-ing all over messages to a senior leader at work yesterday who interviewed me recently. Not flirting.

It’s definitely not flirty!

Why did you show your DP that’s the only odd thing here?

Without emoji not that flirty, with emoji I can see why your DP isn't happy.

They aren't flirty but given the context I can see why your hubby might feel a bit uncomfortable.....although he has used the wrong words and should trust you. You haven't said or done anything wrong but I think your male work colleague is a bit odd for wanting you to get near the front so he can see you on the camera, I can't fathom an innocent reason why he needs to watch you doing the class that heis allegedly doing too. That would be bit of an alarm bell to me. I would stand at the back if and keep him at arms length.

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I never said 'you're not allowed to smile anymore.'
Using lots of smile emojis like that is borderline flirty, especially in the context of going to an outside-of-work event together.
It's a slippery slope and that's how cheating often starts - private chats, events together, dropping each other off, having coffee. It's important to have boundaries if you don't want that to happen/don't want the situation to become awkward.

Not flirty. But I do think all the emojis are a bit weird, but then I never use them.

Using lots of smile emojis is flirty now? Well fuck. Apparently I've been flirting with my Mum! 😱

Not in the least bit flirty. Assuming that was the full chat OP? Is your dh a jealous man?

Would I like it of my DH had a friendly conversation using (god help us) emojis with (gasp) a girl?!

If he was using the aubergine emoji, I'd have an issue. But a friendly conversation about a fitness class - no issue at all. I'm not a 'cool wife' as they like to say on here, but I certainly draw my line a bit further away than a friendly and mild conversation. We both have friends of the opposite sex and manage to maintain them by conversing, and weirdly, not having sex with them. What's a bisexual person supposd to do- have no friends at all?

I don't find that flirty really. It's reads like a conversation I'd have with some of my make colleagues.

(Also enjoy your class! I think I know what it is! 🚲 How exciting!)

Not flirty at all! My partner once accused me of flirting on text because I used the smiley that has blushing cheeks (😊) - apparently it was showing the other person that I was horny. Men can be weird. I stopped using it for a while then realized just how absolutely ridiculous he was being since I use it with my female friends all the time and I'm straight.

I’m bi and that’s what I always wonder on these threads- am I just banned from emojis altogether? Do I need to exercise alone in confinement?

Nope.

Hmmm - comment about getting near the front is creepy as I read it that he wants to perve at your arse.