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A question for the pro-life members of MN

654 replies

SemperIdem · 28/06/2022 16:28

The biggest argument always boils down to “taking a life away, acting like God”.

So - how does IVF sit with you? Are you anti it, because it is “acting like God”. Are you for it because acting like God to create a life is somehow fine whereas taking one away is not?

Do you understand that many IVF pregnancies are high risk and may ultimately require medical management aka abortions?

I’m firmly pro science and think access to both abortions and IVF is a wonderful thing, for avoidance of doubt.

One never sees protests outside fertility clinics and I wondered why.

OP posts:
stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 19:01

stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 18:59

That's why you are using the term 'benefits babies' because you are in support of mothers and families on a low income.

I get it. Excuse me if i see straight through it.

And I don't agree with forced birth ....gun violence etc.

Your thinking is skewed.

AmbushedByCake · 28/06/2022 19:01

tictoc76 · 28/06/2022 18:52

I don't agree with abortion and I don't agree with IVF. This was hard for me as we had fertility issues but for me personally I cannot pick and choose what I will and won't accept and just rationalise what I want.

I also don't think I have the right to judge anyone else but yes was absolutely delighted that Roe v Wade was overturned.

I work in the emergency services and have seen the result of a woman forced to carry a pregnancy she didn't want and would have been shamed for. If you had seen that, perhaps you would have a more nuanced perspective on R v W. You cannot ban abortions, it's never been achieved in the history of the world. You can only ban safe abortions that don't end up with women bleeding to death or dying from sepsis or throwing themselves down stairs or taking dodgy drugs then hemorrhaging because they won't seek medical help. You're looking at women going to jail for miscarriages. Hope that delights you.

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 28/06/2022 19:02

Very little of what the Religious Right (particularly in the USA) claim to believe makes a lick of sense.

ReneBumsWombats · 28/06/2022 19:03

BeyondMyWits · 28/06/2022 17:47

Would you think it was a moral issue if a healthy woman aborted a healthy baby at 40 weeks, or does being vehemently pro choice have its limits?

When did that happen?

ancientgran · 28/06/2022 19:04

Herbyhippo · 28/06/2022 18:43

I’m presuming that viagra is banned in these states, surely the inability to get an erection is Gods will?

Viagra isn't normally used to end a life so nothing like the equivalent.

Cartoonmom · 28/06/2022 19:04

@stayingpositiveifpossible - oh my, I've never been called right wing or a troll before in my life. Fwiw, I'm a Bernie Sanders supporter. I spent an hour this morning writing to my Senators demanding they do more to ensure federal access to abortion.

Not sure what I said to make you so upset?

ReneBumsWombats · 28/06/2022 19:05

It would be interesting to know how many pro lifers believe that organs should not be harvested unless the person gave permission before their death.

If you think a corpse deserves more bodily autonomy than a woman...

Tandora · 28/06/2022 19:08

SarahProblem · 28/06/2022 17:41

YABU only for using the phrase pro-life. Don't let them get away with that euphemism.

This. It’s forced pregnancy and birth. It’s about controlling and enslaving women. Has nothing to do with IVF.
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stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 19:08

Cartoonmom · 28/06/2022 19:04

@stayingpositiveifpossible - oh my, I've never been called right wing or a troll before in my life. Fwiw, I'm a Bernie Sanders supporter. I spent an hour this morning writing to my Senators demanding they do more to ensure federal access to abortion.

Not sure what I said to make you so upset?

'Benefits babies' ? and I quote.

stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 19:08

And I'm not 'upset'.

Lucid. Aware and clear.

Pumperthepumper · 28/06/2022 19:09

stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 19:08

'Benefits babies' ? and I quote.

That wasn’t Cartoon mum. It was QOD.

LynneBenfield · 28/06/2022 19:11

stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 18:50

Meaning Cartoonmum is trolling.

Fairly clear if not crystal that some despicable right wing twats will be seeking to voice themselves on this forum.

'Benefit babies' is the pits.

Mods?

I think you are getting confused. @Cartoonmom didn’t use the term “benefits babies”, @QOD did (and you replied to her).

I’m not sure what you think @Cartoonmom has said that’s so awful? Calm down and read back @stayingpositiveifpossible

hangonsnoopy · 28/06/2022 19:12

ancientgran · 28/06/2022 18:57

That is very dismissive. I'm well past the age of justifying IVF because it affects me but I have no issue justifying it. If you are a person of faith it is straightforward to believe God gave us the ability to do it just like heart transplants or chemotherapy and I see it as something positive.

I imagine prolife supporters have a spectrum of beliefs and most would follow the doctrine of having an abortion to save the life of the mother. I don't imagine many people would believe the woman should die and inevitably it would result in the death of the baby in those cases although I am old enough to remember when more people did believe that.

Ectopic pregnancy, septic uterus and retained miscarriage don't fall under the Catholic church's teachings against miscarriage.

hangonsnoopy · 28/06/2022 19:12

Against abortion, I mean.

stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 19:15

Still here. Re read the thread.

Cartoonmom · 28/06/2022 19:15

Thank you, @Pumperthepumper . Just to be clear, my post about abortion not being a political issue was in reference to separation of church and state. If more religous people in America understood that doctrine, we would not be in the place we are today.

LynneBenfield · 28/06/2022 19:15

stayingpositiveifpossible · 28/06/2022 18:31

what is the expression 'benefits babies'?

I have never heard that before.

My guess is that you are discriminating and being hateful to people (and their familes on benefits).

I don't know if you are in the U.K. but we are in the middle of an economic crisis and the number of people having to rely on food banks and benefits is massive and growing.

What exactly do you mean by a 'benefit baby'?

I have reported your post as this expression is hateful and discriminatory.

@stayingpositiveifpossible (today, 18:31)

ancientgran · 28/06/2022 19:16

hangonsnoopy · 28/06/2022 19:12

Ectopic pregnancy, septic uterus and retained miscarriage don't fall under the Catholic church's teachings against miscarriage.

I don't really understand what you mean, does the Catholic teach anything against miscarriages?

ancientgran · 28/06/2022 19:18

ReneBumsWombats · 28/06/2022 19:05

It would be interesting to know how many pro lifers believe that organs should not be harvested unless the person gave permission before their death.

If you think a corpse deserves more bodily autonomy than a woman...

I thought it was the next of kin who had to give permission not the "corpse."

LynneBenfield · 28/06/2022 19:18

Cartoonmom · 28/06/2022 19:15

Thank you, @Pumperthepumper . Just to be clear, my post about abortion not being a political issue was in reference to separation of church and state. If more religous people in America understood that doctrine, we would not be in the place we are today.

That was what I took from that post, @Cartoonmom. If more people who held pro-life beliefs understood that they could apply them to themselves and their own situations but not impose them on others, that it would be a great improvement.

Songoftheseas · 28/06/2022 19:19

Thescentoftheocean · 28/06/2022 16:44

Believe me, plenty of pro life people are anti IVF. The two things go hand in hand when you think about it.

How exactly do they go hand in hand? IVF helps to create new life, abortion terminates it.

I had IVF to conceive my DD and am pro life (also pro choice in certain circumstances). I am also an atheist.

Pumperthepumper · 28/06/2022 19:19

Cartoonmom · 28/06/2022 19:15

Thank you, @Pumperthepumper . Just to be clear, my post about abortion not being a political issue was in reference to separation of church and state. If more religous people in America understood that doctrine, we would not be in the place we are today.

Yes, that’s how I understood your post and I agree.

Metabigot · 28/06/2022 19:19

doadeer · 28/06/2022 16:41

Those I know who struggle to accept abortion on Christian grounds would say that every life is sacred and a miracle.

Usually until its born

Lesserspottedmama · 28/06/2022 19:20

LadyAnnabelsTapestries · 28/06/2022 16:42

Don't agree with abortion.
Don't agree with IVF where embryos are held in stasis and sometimes destroyed or used for science either.
Don't agree with surrogacy.
Don't agree with sperm donation.

I think I'm consistent in respecting the value as opposed to the disposability of human life.

But I did not always think that way. I've come to it gradually over time.

This. 100%.

Lesserspottedmama · 28/06/2022 19:22

Also, not all pro-lifers are religious. I’m not, nor are my numerous friends who share my views.