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To ask you not to tolerate the term "pregnant people"

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flashbac · 26/06/2022 22:21

It might seem harmless and kind but it is not harmless. I'm seeing the term alot at the moment due to the horrid state of affairs across the pond.

Pregnancy, abortion, menstruation, menopause. These are issues that affect women and reasons why men have sought to control us, to control our bodies. We are seen as vessels, chattels, playthings, property, servants, and then, when we can no longer get pregnant, as useless rubbish. All due to our biological function. If you tolerate language change so these things are seen as 'people' rights issues that affect both 'men' and women we lose the truthful and valid argument that bad and oppressive practices, laws, policy decisions etc, e.g. banning of abortion, are rooted in misogyny, which of course they are.

Abortion bans are because of misogyny. Especially in countries where there is no free maternal care, no statutory maternity leave or pay, no shits given about the children once they are born. This is a women's rights issue, a sex based one. And we, as a sex class, must never take any rights we have for granted.

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babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:36

Conflictedunicorn · 27/06/2022 07:25

I’d like to know this too. Maybe then all women could live as males and misogyny would be dead. Just give us the rules then

I think it involves having the confidence to assert yourself and do what you want without putting others first all the time.

Which is ironic, because asserting ourselves against male people is exactly what women are being vilified for in this debate.

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:36

Conflictedunicorn · 27/06/2022 07:33

Do what is gender?

When you call yourself a woman that’s gender

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:37

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:36

When you call yourself a woman that’s gender

No, when I call myself woman I mean I am an adult human of the female biological sex. Gender isn't relevant to me.

Slothtoes · 27/06/2022 07:37

I don’t want ‘men’ or ‘women’ to become meaningless words where it’s not certain who is being referred to, or where these sex based terms are being used to describe the opposite sex as well. That’s what the word ‘people’ is for.

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:38

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:34

The dictionary definition isn’t scientific though.

Ahahahahahaha this is deliciously ironic!

What isn't scientific is gender woowoo, my love.

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2022 07:39

No, when I call myself woman I mean I am an adult human of the female biological sex. Gender isn't relevant to me.

Me too. Societal gender stereotypes are not what makes me a women.

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:41

Conflictedunicorn · 27/06/2022 07:25

I’d like to know this too. Maybe then all women could live as males and misogyny would be dead. Just give us the rules then

I thought you were the one making up the rules. Earlier up thread you said:

”Then they have difficult choices to make. They either live as men with all that entails, or they accept they are not men and have children.”

Im still curious to know why you made up that rule and why you think everyone has to abide by it?

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:42

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:37

No, when I call myself woman I mean I am an adult human of the female biological sex. Gender isn't relevant to me.

Gender is the “knowledge” that you are an adult of the female biological sex.

334bu · 27/06/2022 07:43

The men on the right want to take away women’s rights by controlling bodies, the men on the left want to take away women’s rights by controlling the language needed to defend those rights. It’s two sides of the same misogynistic coin. Toss it, and women lose either way.

Well said!

sashagabadon · 27/06/2022 07:44

I agree completely OP and I will complain every time I come across it

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:45

Im still curious to know why you made up that rule and why you think everyone has to abide by it?

To get a gender recognition certificate you have to commit to living as your acquired gender for the rest of your life.

Nothing says "I commit to living as a man for the rest of my life" more than immediately getting pregnant and having not just one but two babies and then complaining that no one warned you you wouldn't be able to chestfeed after a double mastectomy, eh Freddy McConnell?

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2022 07:45

Gender is the “knowledge” that you are an adult of the female biological sex.

Not in my case. The 'knowledge' comes from the observation of my female sexed body.

NotBadConsidering · 27/06/2022 07:45

The English speaking world has not consented to changing the definition of woman to mean “gender/gender identity” or whatever nebulous term, from meaning sex. Only a small percentage of the English speaking world believe this change of definition, and the are trying to gaslight the rest of the world into believing the word woman has always meant gender identity. Whenever anyone sees the woman is defined as gender just read it as “We have always been at war with Eastasia.”

Now people - women and men - are waking up to this gaslighting nonsense and we are not having it.

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:45

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:42

Gender is the “knowledge” that you are an adult of the female biological sex.

Well you've just erased the existence of trans people then.

Summerwhereareyou · 27/06/2022 07:47

I totally agree op.
It's terrifying really isn't it

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:47

Freddy McConnell knows that Freddy is an adult human of the female biological sex because Freddy has grown two babies in Freddy's uterus.

Does that make Freddy's gender "woman"?

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:48

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2022 07:45

Gender is the “knowledge” that you are an adult of the female biological sex.

Not in my case. The 'knowledge' comes from the observation of my female sexed body.

That “observation” you have made is a cognitive , psychological and social process. That’s gender.

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:49

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:45

Well you've just erased the existence of trans people then.

How so?

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:49

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:48

That “observation” you have made is a cognitive , psychological and social process. That’s gender.

Trans people also know what sex they are.

If knowing what sex you are is gender, what is being transgender?

babyjellyfish · 27/06/2022 07:50

Tandora · 27/06/2022 07:49

How so?

Because trans men also know they are adult humans of the female biological sex.

According to you, that knowledge makes them women.

ErrolTheDragon · 27/06/2022 07:52

When you call yourself a woman that’s gender

No, it's a description of an adult human female. 'Female' is the biological description, purely scientific and objective. Human is my species, purely scientific and objective (all mammals and many other organisms are male or female so 'female' is necessary but not sufficient to be a woman). Adult is the age - objective, some cultural variation as to where that starts, but necessary to distinguish women from girls.

That's it. 'Gender' may sometimes be used as a euphemism for sex but nowadays it seems to mean whatever the heck people want so it's essentially meaningless.

ErrolTheDragon · 27/06/2022 07:54

That “observation” you have made is a cognitive , psychological and social process. That’s gender.

Like I said, people use 'gender' to mean whatever the heck they want. Hmm

Theeyeballsinthesky · 27/06/2022 07:54

You cannot defend what you cannot define

abortion only affects women and girls. No trans man or NB woman doesn’t know they have female biology

american liberal feminists have spent all the time cheerleading along their own erasure by siding with the likes of the ACLU in ensuring the word women includes men or that anything that affects only women is renamed as affecting “people”

meanwhile the rights of women of the adult human female variety have never been poorer

well done you clowns, well done

334bu · 27/06/2022 07:55

According to you, that knowledge makes them women.

But women = human female ,so that is their sex they are acknowledging. Their gender is transman .

ErrolTheDragon · 27/06/2022 07:56

According to Tandora's definition, if someone has a female horse, calling it a mare is 'gender' I suppose.
Er, no.

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