Argument

[Lanalou76]

Husband shoved the bench out we were sitting on at a restaurant

I said that's a man move
As my son and
I had climbed in without moving it.
He said 'I have a sore knee you know'...... I said 'that's because you're
old'.. He 'replied at least I don't look old'

I got up and left restaurant at this point and went home, leaving him and his parents sitting there..

He said I had shouldn't have made people feel awkward.

I explained that he made a very personal comment and i was not going to sit there and put up with it. He said his comment was the same thing as my comment;
I said 'no, as his comment was particularly personal.. shall we ask FB? , he said' don't because everyone already thinks you are mad enough..'

What are peoples thoughts on this?

Is there a punchline ?

So your husband wanted to be able to sit down easily and comfortably and you chose to make a sexist dig about it and then continued to barb him with the 'old' comment and stropped off when he returned the favour? And somehow in all this you think he's the one in the wrong?

How petty and silly are you?

What did it matter if he moved the bench to make access easier for himself? Are there some special rules that everyone must do as you do and climb in?

Yes you are unreasonable and yes you made people feel awkward starting with the very first comment to your husband calling attention to the fact he'd done something as simple and unremarkable as move a bench to sit down.

You started an argument because he moved a bench to sit on it, you called him old, then stropped off when you didn't like that he said something back. You owe him and his family an apology for being a drama queen.

Also why on earth would you suggest asking Facebook

Yabu

Have a word with yourself op.
If you can't take it then don't give it

YABU and were rude. Such an overreaction to something you started. You owe him,your son and his parents an apology.

You made a sexist comment, then an ageist one, in front of his parents. Then offered verdict via jury of Facebook?
Yabu. Awful example to your son and very disrespectful to your DH’s parents

You made two daft remarks and he responded.

That you flounced made you look even more daft.

Don't dish out what you can't take. You started it then got upset that he responded in the same manner.
I think you owe an apology, not least to his parents...

wow , you really have to ask if your being unreasonable lol your poor husband

His poor parents.

Don't start being rude if you can't take it?

So own it and apologise for it - to everyone not just your husband.

Yabu, want equality but cant take equal comments. You sniped at him first, then again. he sniped back once and you have a over reaction to it and storm off. Get over yourself

Also sniping people for no reason is horrible. So he moved the bench, not the worse thing to do in the world, i would also move the bench to where i wanted it to be. no need to throw digs his way.

You need to ask those who witnessed, you were being unreasonable, not a bunch of strangers. I've a feeling your family's verdict would be unanimous. Check yourself, OP.

Really petty thing to walk out of a meal on. You owe your husband and his parents a big apology.

You were criticising him in front of his parents, first about the way he moved the bench, then calling him old when he explained why he did it , then you walk out of a meal! You sound exhausting! Everyone must have felt so awkward.

You were being unreasonable OP.

It’s low to make comments on someone’s appearance but you started it. You made comments referring to age first.

Is everything else ok? Walking out of a restaurant for that sounds extreme.

Wow, I'm cringing in embarrassment for you!

Jesus get a grip. Life outside and all that.

Good grief. Such ridiculous drama creation.

You both sound like squabbling children, especially you.

Is this the behaviour you model to your DC? This has to stop.

Why are you so rude to each other?

Look at cause and effect here, it's not as if your DH just randomly told you that you looked old, he took two snipes from you and then cut you off at the knees, not fun for you but you did cause it.
I've had similar scenarios with my H and have managed to learn not to start it, cos if I do, he will definitely finish it - there's a nastiness there that I could never / would never compete with.
However, I can silently think whatever I like and there's no backlash 🤗