For having taken a covid test

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Help me out here. DH is annoyed with me for having taken a test without checking with him first. He has always been twitchy about testing because of the need to isolate- he always said he would rather not know the result so that he could carry on life as normal. I said I would rather test if I have symptoms because if I am positive then I would stop carrying on life as if I just have a cold and perhaps avoid meeting people who might be more at risk (I am due to meet a couple tomorrow who are in their 60s for example).

I'm right in thinking there are no restrictions right? So if I am positive everyone else in the family can just carry on with life but that I perhaps take time off work whilst still unwell? DH is worried that he has a really important work meeting on Friday and says I shouldn't test because it affects him attending. Does it?

YANBU you do not need his permission!!

You’re right, he’s wrong. And one of the reasons Covid is still spreading is because of people like your DH.

Absolutely this

Well it was positive and I am feeling like shit and now he is giving me grief for testing

There aren’t any restrictions.

If he catches it, there’s no rule to say he has to test so he can legally go and infect his whole meeting.

Or, he can legally test and still go and infect his whole meeting.

He sounds horrible. You're a grown adult, he doesn't get to dictate your actions especially when it comes to your health.

You're doing the decent thing by taking others into account while he doesn't sound like he even gives a shit that you have symptoms and have now tested positive for covid.

Does he have form for being a selfish prick?

Well, isn't he a selfish bastard! All "me me me!" not giving a shit about the people he would happily infect while he had a highly transmissible virus. He's fully aware he could pass it on to someone who isn't as lucky as him, who could literally DIE from it, right? WHY is he okay with potentially risking killing somebody by his own sheer selfishness? No work meeting in the world is so important it trumps protecting other peoples lives.

There isn't any legalrestrictions now although work places might have their own for positive employees husband isn't very informed 🤔 I hope you feel better soon.

I'd hope he'll be keeping away from you if he's not going to be testing or isolating

No one in your household is obliged to isolate. I'm sorry your husband is being difficult about this - does he work somewhere that's particularly concerned about COVID?

You are doing the responsible thing. I have covid at the moment and tested once symptoms developed. No requirement for those without symptoms to test, although my 14 year old did before going to school/guides.

I only just tested - he's out and I phoned to tell him I was positive and he is really annoyed with me for testing in the first place. I don't understand why he is being like this, he has got some MH issues at the moment but his uncle died of it two months ago. I can't believe he would be happier that I had not tested and passed it on

No one is legally obliged to isolate in England anymore. Chances are you’ll be testing negative by Friday though. Obvs he should probably test if he feels rough in the few days…. But if he’s caught it off you, he would have done anyway, and now he knows to stay away from you.

YANBU to test OP nor to isolate if positive.
DP and I have just had to take 2 weeks off work sick with covid and delay moving house - costing us hundreds of pounds in extra rent thanks to selfish idiots like your DH.
I can't believe after 2 years of lockdowns and 1000s hospitalised and killed that some people are still not taking Covid remotely seriously. Its baffling.

Ah I see. So he doesnt care about spreading it but he cares about other people knowing that he knew and chosen not to tell them he may pose a risk to them?

There is absolutely nothing stopping him attending his meeting. You aren't obliged to isolate (though I did when I had it two weeks ago) to isolate andas a contact he certainly doesn't.

If he gets symptoms between now and Friday, it's entirely up to him whether or not he tests and whether or not he goes to his meeting.

Oops. Please excuse the soppy editing above.

sLoppy!!

Really? How very 2020 of you. It's spreading because that's what viruses do. All of them. We can't stop them spreading and blaming "people like blah" is really very silly.

It's because of selfish idiots like your DH, that those of us who are vulnerable are having to still be very cautious. It may not be a legal requirement, but it IS common sense.

Right?! People must have some stamina to be this ridiculous about covid at this point.

You don't need his permission.

However, there is no benefit to anyone taking a test.

I take one before I see my elderly relative. There is benefit to her.

I took a test because I have friends and family who have holiday plans that they'd be gutted to cancel. And I'd feel absolutely awful if they'd caught Covid from me and werent able to go.

He sounds like a idiot. Surely one of the advantages of testing is that he can keep away from you to avoid catching it and can go to his meeting on Friday. Alternatively he can already have caught it and feel too rough for his meeting.