For having taken a covid test

[plasticcanister]

Help me out here. DH is annoyed with me for having taken a test without checking with him first. He has always been twitchy about testing because of the need to isolate- he always said he would rather not know the result so that he could carry on life as normal. I said I would rather test if I have symptoms because if I am positive then I would stop carrying on life as if I just have a cold and perhaps avoid meeting people who might be more at risk (I am due to meet a couple tomorrow who are in their 60s for example).

I'm right in thinking there are no restrictions right? So if I am positive everyone else in the family can just carry on with life but that I perhaps take time off work whilst still unwell? DH is worried that he has a really important work meeting on Friday and says I shouldn't test because it affects him attending. Does it?

@lolil - I'm really sorry you've been the target of frankly the most despicable poster I have ever had the misfortune to encounter on here. Please accept some virtual hugs.

To say I have been horribly ill is an understatement and I think I will be fatigued for months to come

Why on earth do you think that? You're more likely to wake up on Monday morning feeling right as rain, most people do.

I know several drama llamas with 'long covid' who told me they expected to get it from their first positive test. Low and behold, six months later and they're still harping on about their long covid. Strange that.

Thank you. Yes the exams were spread out by 10 days I think to allow for 1 to be missed, she will be marked on the other paper she took for the subjects. She didn't seem too disappointed and thankfully it seems like a cold so she doesn't feel all that unwell. Some schools had different policies though and did allow covid positive students to sit the exams. (I emailed the EO at the school to find out our own schools procedure)

But the whole NHS and all who indulge it should be ashamed, covid or not. It kills people daily. I can imagine it must have been hard, I trained in the NHS in the 90s when Blair was lobbing cash at it and watched so many elderly people die in corridors and worse, bed blockers dying of malnutrition sometimes just because their mouths were gummed up from never being washed. Am I bitter about that? Oh yes. So I do get where you are coming from to an extent, I think it's just the implication that covid isn't an issue because it gets rid of the old people that was upsetting. My hairdresser was endlessly saying stuff like that and I got her sacked.

Yes that was my (insert profanity) new phone correcting everything I (profanity) type. I typed THOSE

Aw some people are still hung up on covid. I'm with your husband tbh. It's common sense to avoid people if you are feeling unwell, why do you need a test to tell you that you should?

@SusieSimpleman
I know how ill I feel thanks, and even though I'm not certain I will be fatigued for weeks to come it is looking that way at the moment. I've certain not woken up any morning feeling right as rain since having it.
If I could prevent someone feeling the way I do by not going somewhere as I tested positive, I would.
You don't know who is going to be there, someone who's bereaved and immune system is weakened because of it, or someone who is vunerable anyway.
I certainly wouldn't make someone feel uncomfortable for testing and trying to protect others.

Thanks. I'm utterly devastated by the way my very basic comment about keeping someone I love dearly free from covid has turned out.

You make your decisions

He makes his decisions

Neither right, neither wrong

All law abiding!

Have some from me too @lolil

That poster is being absolutely vile, incredibly insensitive and thank fuck they aren't patient facing.

@IanOsenfrote

I'm not sure I said she didn't go out because of covid. However I'm not interested in having any sort of interaction with you. You deserve a ban for what you have said to me on here.

@wellhelloitsme

Thank you.

I'm going to step away now

Please don't take their words to heart - they are clearly a nasty little individual trying to get a rise out of people by saying the most hurtful things they can think of. You are clearly a lovely person and I'm sure your relative is extremely grateful to have you. I have reported that poster as like you, I have never seen such despicable comments from anyone on here.

My last comment was to @lolil

There have been a few who commented in a really patronising manner, aww are you wuwwied about covid type stuff. They lie in wait just dying to leap on anyone who mentions vaccines covid, tests etc. It is most likely rather dim people who have found other rather dim people on their you tube conspiracy groups. Well I pity them, they are vulnerable to so much more than a virus.

Oh I hope you're OK (as can be) it all sounds so stressful for you. He is clearly unwell and I hope the help is forthcoming soon.

Another poster here appalled by IanOsenfrote.

Also, considering how much pleasure they have in mocking the errors of others (never had any predictive text error "corrections" mess up a message?!) then it might have been expected that their original post would have been grammatically correct.

Anyway, op... you didn't have to test and could have just stayed away from people to avoid possibly passing whatever virus on, as some did before Covid was around. But LFTs were brought in because Covid was considered more highly transmissible and therefore also of greater risk to the extremely vulnerable, and Covid is still around. So whilst you didn't legally need to test, I think you did absolutely the right thing.

Your partner knew you were ill and would have gone in and risked spreading whatever virus it was. The only thing that's changed is he knows the name of the virus. Up to him if he decides he knows best and goes in anyway (and legally he can.) He doesn't have to tell anyone. It's not even necessarily a particularly bad thing to do, depending on his colleagues and their family situations re vulnerability. So why is it worse for him now he knows it's Covid? Because he has to knowingly decide to be selfish as opposed to doing the exact same thing in ignorance? That's his issue, not yours.

He's being a controlling prick and you're being the verbal punchbag for everything else in his life, I'm afraid.

Might be for the best he's going to be working away.

In full agreement with the use of appropriate phrases such as cuntybollocksdickhead but before the thread ends, thank you mods for stepping in and getting rid of the vile posts.

 for you @lolil

Many thanks also to the mods for banning that poster for the despicable things they said