For having taken a covid test

[plasticcanister]

Help me out here. DH is annoyed with me for having taken a test without checking with him first. He has always been twitchy about testing because of the need to isolate- he always said he would rather not know the result so that he could carry on life as normal. I said I would rather test if I have symptoms because if I am positive then I would stop carrying on life as if I just have a cold and perhaps avoid meeting people who might be more at risk (I am due to meet a couple tomorrow who are in their 60s for example).

I'm right in thinking there are no restrictions right? So if I am positive everyone else in the family can just carry on with life but that I perhaps take time off work whilst still unwell? DH is worried that he has a really important work meeting on Friday and says I shouldn't test because it affects him attending. Does it?

Not what you were asking I know OP, but you can't possibly know that you got Covid because someone coughed on you in a shop last weekend. How do you even know that person had covid?

@IanOsenfrote

I'll rephrase it.

There is no benefit to the individual that takes a test.

Some of us choose to do things that don't only benefit ourselves, funnily enough.

Your prerogative to choose to do things as long as they benefit you but your snarkiness about people who operate differently isn't making you look as clever as you seem to think 🤷🏻‍♀️

I doubt that you cared about other people prior to 2020, so all I see in your response is virtue signalling

You don’t know me. How can you possibly make such a statement about my motives? It’s not virtue signalling to be concerned about vulnerable friends and relatives. Before 2020 I wouldn’t have gone to see a friend h forgoing chemo if I was feeling unwell. That hasn’t changed in the slightest.

@IanOsenfrote

Your last post is so fucking horrible to that poster. Reporting you and really think you've made your point now so might be best for you to stop goading people especially when they're discussing losing people.

This sums it up. I'm so sorry but he doesn't sound very nice. I lived with a guy who used to get annoyed. Thank Christ I finally annoyed him enough to find myself in a house that didn't belong to me walking on eggshells and tiptoeing around him. I slung my stuff into black bags, moved into the nurses home (yes .old) and never looked back. I hope he isn't as bad as my experience. My lovely husband gets annoyed but like a normal person, it's totally different because it's when I forget to pay the bills or scrape the side of his sports car, repeatedly because its too big for my work car park. But I am free to forget and scrape and do covid tests without being made to feel inferior. Don't live with it if it's like my life was.

Indo hope you are not a nurse. Partly because of your anger, partly your covid denial and partly for saying them swabs.

@IanOsenfrote If you could avoid being at utterly insensitive bastard, that would be nice.

He had an initial assessment and is waiting for some CBT.

The week DS tested positive and he moved into the hotel was the week everything went nuclear for him at work, then his uncle died, then he he had a massive external job to do. He admits to the fact he seriously thought about suicide.

After that he then had a breakdown and couldn't go to work. Now he has resigned and is waiting to start the new job. The meeting on Friday is to do with the new job.

The last couple of days he has been losing the plot with me over small things that he has always found annoying but when I do them he has been saying that he has been asking me to stop doing/do for the past twelve years and that I just don't listen and do whatever I want, regardless of what he is asking.

So now because he said I should have asked last time, he is really really frustrated that I didn't ask this time.

He says he wants to leave because I just carry on regardless and never do what he asks.

He has just found a flat near his new work and says we are over.

I think profanity (who actually says that) is more than appropriate after what you said. As I said, I really hope you are not in any patient facing role. Scary.

Sorry to tangent but is bastard a profanity? I would personally have used a stronger word but not a profanity because I don't live in the US bible belt and worship Jesus 😀 so would have just said good old fashioned cunt

I'm two weeks into COVID which I picked up from DH who got it from the dentist.
To say I have been horribly ill is an understatement and I think I will be fatigued for months to come.
If he wants to knowingly pass that on to people due to inconvenience then he can. You don't have to.

Well you could have said this swabs or even just plain swabs. Them swabs however, just no.

@IanOsenfrote

Swearing is nothing in comparison with what you have said to me on this thread. All in an attempt to prove a point. You are vile. Fucking vile.

I only resorted to profanity as I was stunned at the arrogance, insensitivity, goadiness and sheer lack of humanity you displayed. Who do you think you are to decide what constitutes quality of life in someone you have never met, and to say something so utterly horrible to someone trying to keep said person company? I am horrified you appear to work in health care and I hope you are lying because I would hate for anyone to ever have to encounter you in a health care setting. Your words are despicable

DD went to a concert recently. She saw online that lots of people there had tested positive so she took a test and she has got it. It meant she missed the last 2 of her gcses. She is isolating (not that we had plans but we might have gone out to celebrate the end of exams) She is also going to test before she goes back to her dance class because there are children with disabilities there and she doesn't know if they will be more vulnerable. The rest of the household has tested negative.

You think a lot of yourself clearly. Oh and as for your assertion that testing doesn't benefit the individual, if I test positive I can get the correct medical help quicker as a pregnant clinically extremely vulnerable person. So I'd say that benefits me. But you're just on a wind up and will just spout some other utter rubbish in response to anything anyone says.

@plasticcanister I’m sorry your DH has had a series of bad things happen, and I don’t doubt he is in need of support - but that doesn’t give him a free pass to take it out on you.

I hope you feel better soon. I am sure you and DS will be just fine and quite possibly much more relaxed and comfortable without being micro-managed and blamed all the time by your DH.

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm hoping the exam board will mark on previous assessments? Poor girl, they have been through so much haven't they. It's a shame people are so selfish but the vast majority of people are decent, this threat shows that. I hope she isn't too stressed. 🌷