Not sure if I'm being unreasonable or DH is.
Last week my 10 yr old DS was invited to a birthday day out for one of his best friends. DS friend's family will be taking the birthday boy, my son and one other friend along on a day out- think something like a theme park, visiting a tourist attraction kind of thing. We are not invited as the parents, just the kids. The venue is around a 50 minute drive from where we live and they will be out all day- DS is getting picked up at 11 and likely dropped back at around 7pm.
For context the kids have been friends for the last few years so I only know the other family in so much as that our kids are friends, the parents don't stay when the kids come round to each other's houses and we don't socialise together - so I guess they are friendly acquaintances to us more than anything.
When my DS was invited I thought it sounded like a lovely day, DS was super keen to go and so I agreed, sorted all the arrangements etc. All good until last night when my DH got wind of the exact details of the day out and he had a major problem with our DS going.
He is super uncomfortable with our DS being driven on a long journey and then being under the care / supervised all day by "strangers". He says how do we know these people will watch him properly? How do we know they won't drink drive etc? He doesn't want me to cancel it but has basically said he will be worried sick and anxious all day until DS returns home.
I think he's being ridiculously OTT and this is part of growing up and something we have to deal with as parents. He thinks I should never have agreed this as our DS is too young.
So basically the AIBU is:
YABU: I am too lax in my parenting and should not have allowed my DS to join this day out.
YANBU: DH is overreacting and it is reasonable to let a 10 yr old to join his friends family on a day out.