Or am I just old and out of touch?

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DD 15 has a group of friends consisting of all girls except one male. He's a lovely kid. I guess if I described him I would say good kid, loner, long hair, skinny. He's a nice boy but not particularly sociable.

So we're chatting about her friends and she says her male friend (we will call him Jack) is pansexual. I had to Google this to discover it meant he is attracted to both sexes. She then told me, in all seriousness, he is Aromantic.

I had to pause for a second and confirm she meant he does not like/do romance to which I got another honest, straight faced 'yes'

So wait, there is a 15 year old boy in your friendship group (all girls except him) that is attracted to both (all?) genders and is not interested in romance. In other words, he wants to shag but not date?

I swear I don't get it. She cannot see any irony in the term 'aromantic' for a teenage boy. And I want to stop the train and get off!

They have obviously been studying in the school of Philip Bunce.

I’m going to drop these phrases in to conversations with my 3 teens and I would be surprised if they knew the phrase aromantic.

Bisexuality doesn’t exclude attraction to trans people. Plenty of us are bi and attracted to cis and trans people.

It’s personal preference I guess but people I’ve know describe it have said that pansexuality is more attraction to the person regardless of their gender, whereas with bisexuality, the gender still plays a part a bit. I don’t know. Whatever people are more comfortable with I suppose.

I completely agree! Unlike a huge number of boys/men (and can be women too, not denying that, just it's a male in the context of this post) who pretend to want relationships in order to get sex.

Yes.

Why the fuck does googling greysexual bring up an article on medical news? Does that really need to be a thing?
Genuinely, stop the ride, I can't take anymore, I want to get off now please?

Unless I'm misunderstanding what aromantic means, this means we are teaching girls that men who just want sex and nothing else are a distinct identity that should be respected, encouraged and accommodated?

Did we not used to call them players and it was a bad thing?

I suppose there is a scenario where two people are completely upfront about what they want when consenting to sex without strings, but I think we have all learned from experience that often this doesn't work out so well.

Omg, my kids are only 2. I can't imagine how many options they'll have for gender/sexual preference by the time they're adults. I hope it goes full circle and back to something I understand.

''Unexpected baby in the "uterus haver" being the least of it.''

Sorry, i have a dark sense of humour, but that really made me laugh 😂

I think that boy needs a nice long conversation with a middle-aged woman. Preferably the mother of one of the girls he's knocking about with.

So basically a fuckboy who isn’t fussy….🤦‍♀️

I also want to get off the crazy train op, you’re not alone

It is a label, and with each label there is a flag to wave for it. I know someone who makes badges, and she gets so many orders for all these different flags.

Wtf. That's worrying for a med student.

You like cock, or you like fanny. Or you like cock and fanny.

Anything else is just over egging the pudding for speshul points.

All teenagers think they know everything and that us adults haven't got our finger on the pulse and just don't understand.

When in reality, we understand just fine. But we're a bit older and wiser.

When mine were that age and talking/lecturing me on things someone of my age couldn't possibly understand I used to find saying, "That's nice." or "That's interesting." was useful.

Men like this have always existed but now they can feel ok about it because it has a name and classes as a sexuality rather than just twat.

Back in the day, you slept with some people and said no to others.
You didn't need a badge or a label to declare your allegiance ahead of time.

I don't get the need for classification. It's so backward! In an attempt to get away from society's boxes, they've designed a whole bunch of other boxes and a complicated jigsaw network to match. Madness.

Pansexual+aromantic= confused.

He's sounds like another confused teenager trying to figure out himself, these kids come up with all sorts of fancy terms nowadays. I had a client tell me the other day he was "polyamorous" because he likes to shag different women with no strings attached. In the old days he would have been a "shagger" but "polyamorous" sounds fancier.

You like cock, or you like fanny. Or you like cock and fanny

Anything else is just over egging the pudding for speshul points

agreed 😂😂

I read that as aromatic and assumed he wore a lot of perfume 😬

Our teen DS knows his parents are bi-sexual, though in a committed relationship to each other. He's come out as Pansexual

Feels like a game of Top Trumps

Weird how so many adults are triggered by a 15 year olds sexuality.

It's "aromantic" 😂

Yes this happens in my DC class and they get detention if the get the label wrong. 🫥

Weird how so many adults are triggered by a 15 year olds sexuality

Weird how you think people having a chat on a forum = being triggered.