Absolutely ridiculous argument about pizza

[Dinnerdoldrums]

DH makes dinner on Fridays (read: puts frozen pizzas in the oven). He forgot my pizza this evening, remembered his and the children's.

When dinner was ready and there was none for me, he offered to put my pizza in the oven so it would be ready 10 minutes later. I told him not to bother as I don't much like pizza anyway (which is true) and he knows I only eat it with them because everyone else likes it.

Now he's sulking because he thinks I'm being ridiculous and I'm hiding in the kitchen.

So am I being unreasonable?

And bonus points if you want to tell me exactly how ridiculous this argument is!

I think your reaction may be a result of other areas in life where you feel invisible. This was probably just one example. Meanwhile, if you both work equal hours, he should be putting in more than one day per week in the kitchen.

I thought this was going to be about pineapple as a topping.

It is a shame he forgot your pizza but, speaking as someone who has certainly done similarly silly things, entirely by accident, it does sound as if he offered to fix it straight away by popping yours in the oven to be ready in ten minutes.

I think your 'don't bother' was intended to make him feel even more guilty, and nobody responds well to that.

And now, because he's grumpy, you are talking about how you are so hard to live with, which makes me wonder whether you are someone who does unnecessarily escalate arguments.

But life is certainly too short to fall out with people you love, so I'd draw a line under it and have a lovely weekend.

OP appears to eat pizza on a Friday night because she cooks all week and this is her night off and so he 'heats up' frozen pizza. Maybe just maybe she doesn't have a fucking sandwich and gets him to actually cook a fish trout to something.

Doing something on purpose is bad but using the excuse of 'I didn't mean it' or I forgot is not an out, particularly when she gives everyone else their dinners all week. @CallOnMe you need to up your game if this is shit you put up with, there is a fairer world out there.

I can’t quite get my head around cooking four individual allocated pizzas rather than pizza for everyone. But if I were cooking a pizza each, I would definitely be able to count out the right number of pizzas, so he was unreasonable to not manage that. But “don’t bother” is usually said in that martyr-ish tone and then I assume you have been hiding in the kitchen too. So overall he seems useless and you are having a strop.

It was me who was sulking and being unreasonable. If there's a next time I'll just wait that extra 10 minutes and not make a big deal out of it. Thanks for everyone's posts.

And for the doubters, here is the link to the salmon pizza - www.carrefour.fr/p/pizza-au-saumon-carrefour-3270190217190

Probably because she’s made a drama over something he offer to solve

A cheese toastie is just a pizza with a lid

Isn't that a calzone?

Friday night bowl of cereal for tea?somryhing so comforting about doing this op.

He should have offered you half his/ divided up everyone's then shared yours when it was done. Nobody likes a sulker (the dishwasher pettiness is top tier though!) it was friday, probably both worn out from work all week.

If you’re in France, Picard do some delicious ready meals to cook from frozen which I’ve had from Ocado here in the uk despite them being a French co?

I literally love this reply 😂

Second the Picard recommendation. I want to try their paella but would need to sort out an Ocado order, which I've never done before.

It's not just a 10 minute wait anyway as you need some cooling down time, plus it's the principle. It's not like he's unaware that he has a wife or that she might like dinner each evening.

Plus it's just such a low effort. He probably thinks he's doing his share of food provision because he makes the absolute minimal effort once a week. Where would he be if the OP thought that all she needed to do was stick any old crap in the oven once a week?

Tosser should have given you his

FGS - you should be thinking that there WONT BE A NEXT TIME ... because you don't like pizza so won't be eating it ever again!
Just get yourself a snack / sandwich / soup / bowl of cereal / whatever on a Friday night.
Stop being such a martyr.

I understand why your DH does pizza if the DC and he like it. But I don't understand why he forgot you tonight, or indeed why he consistently serves up a meal he knows you don't like (assuming he does know you don't like it!). He could easily make you a 10-minute meal that you prefer, e.g. frying a piece of fish and chopping up a bit of salad, or even warming up a tin of soup and buttering a bit of bread.

I speak as one who is a very poor cook (my DP does almost all of the cooking), but even I could manage either of the above.

Assuming you both work full time, it seems unfair that you cook 6 nights out of 7.

However, I suspect, as other posters have suggested, that this problem may just be the tip of the iceberg.

I wish you well, OP

Duchess - yes! (Sigh …pizza)❤️

Forget his dinner next time

I was going to recommend Picard. I see others have beaten me to it. At the very least you would get a nicer pizza.

You cook for him and the kids 6 nights a week! And all he can manage to do once a week is heat up 4 frozen pizzas! And this time he only heats up 3 and claims he forgot!

YANBU to be upset at all. A pp earlier in the thread had the audacity to suggest that he was doing you a favour. No he is not. He is barely pulling his own weight. He showed you no consideration at all.

You cook him 6 dinners every week. Where is his gratitude. He should be making a much bigger effort than putting a frozen pizza in the oven for you.

Maybe it’s time you forget his dinner once or twice a week and save yourself the effort to include him.

TheWayoftheLeaf · 24/06/2022 23:53
He did it on purpose. Nobody knows there's 4 people to cook for and only puts 3 in

I agree with @TheWayoftheLeaf

Always a Salmon pizza for me. But Carrefour frozen pizza not exactly what the French are famous for. Is your DH my ExH? Such a disappointment for a Frenchman. And he'd eat 2 pizzas alone.

YABU because he made a mistake and tried to rectify it straight away.

I get it OP. My dh also cooks once a week and usually half-arses it. In fact I think I have posted something similar! Also - how do you fit 4 pizzas in the oven?

I once saw a trick where if you cut two of the pizzas in half you can get 2 pizzas on one shelf so can cook 4 pizzas at the same time although you'll probably need to do some rearranging after a few minutes so they all cook evenly.

Alternatively, you just share the pizzas as they come out of the oven so no one is left without food but you'd need to agree on the selection of toppings.