Absolutely ridiculous argument about pizza

[Dinnerdoldrums]

DH makes dinner on Fridays (read: puts frozen pizzas in the oven). He forgot my pizza this evening, remembered his and the children's.

When dinner was ready and there was none for me, he offered to put my pizza in the oven so it would be ready 10 minutes later. I told him not to bother as I don't much like pizza anyway (which is true) and he knows I only eat it with them because everyone else likes it.

Now he's sulking because he thinks I'm being ridiculous and I'm hiding in the kitchen.

So am I being unreasonable?

And bonus points if you want to tell me exactly how ridiculous this argument is!

I don't think YABU at all.

I don't have a dp who lives with us, but I do have 3 teenage dc, & the house rule is that each of them cooks one night, I cook once or twice, we usually have something batch cooked from the freezer once, & at weekends various people are out anyway so it's either fridge foraging, barbecue or takeaway for whoever is at home.

One dc is a marvellous cook, one does acceptable but boring pasta & a good salad, & one just delves into the freezer & sticks random stuff in the oven.

Like you, I eat whatever is put in front of me without complaint. I haven't had to cook it, is the main thing.

If I was forgotten/left out, I'd be a bit pissed off but just get myself a sandwich or open a tin of soup or beans or something.

I'd be really annoyed to then be sulked at by the person who hadn't fed me as per the house rule! OK, cock up my not very exciting dinner, whatever. But don't then get salty with me for sorting myself something to eat...that really is adding insult to injury.

You look forward to shite food you don't particularly like because it's something upu haven't cooked then get annoyed that he hasn't even managed to cook shite food for you this to my mind is perfectly understandable now he is escalating it by sulking and not putting the tuppaware in the dishwasher......why do you think its YOU who are hard to live with? Two simple tasks and he cant do either strategic incompetence or just being a twat? It's up to you what you live with but this behaviour would really start to get on my nerves

Why are you not even worth a shite pizza

You live in a country where there are no decent ready meals and take outs? Forget fretting over pizza - a business empire awaits you!

Without asking you to lie on a sofa, is there a reason for that? The thread seems a huge over reaction from both sides so in the (sometimes over reacting) spirit of MN - is there more to it than this?

If he's 'cooking' why are you organising?

I'm difficult, I only enjoy the food that he doesn't prefer.... Spicy food, fish, stir-fry, rice. I wouldn't ask him to start making that on a Friday night.

None of those things are particularly exotic so why are you framing it as you who's the one being difficult, not him? Presumably you compromise all week long by cooking stuff tailored to towards his tastes, yet you'd see it as a big deal to ask him to whip you up a stir fry just one night a week? Sounds to me like a "she divorced me because I left the pizza out of the oven dishes by the sink" kind of scenario that's only ever the tip of the iceberg.

He sounds a bit of a knob tbh.

Get him to make you smoked salmon and scrambled eggs on really good toasted bread while the pizzas are in the oven.

Is this really about the pizza? Or about your relationship...? 😬

For forgetting a pizza? That OP doesn't even like. 🙃

It sounds like a little bicker OP.

(The old Spago in West Hollywood used to have a signature smoked salmon pizza, with caviar, red onions, dill creme fraiche, and chili-garlic oil.)

I can see your point that there was no joy in sitting eating pizza alone if the point was to eat together and everyone else would be done once yours came out. (I assume you don't like the types of pizza they had - otherwise they should have offered you a share). Unless you were nasty to him about forgetting the pizza, what difference does it make to him if you said no thanks and ate something else?

I cook a chosen pizza each, but it's not 'our' pizza, we all have some of each. Well apart from df ed but we love her vegan jackfruit pizza so she 'shares' with us. I am not fussed about pizza either tbh, though really do love Chicago towns stuffed crust margarita one.
But how could he forget yours?

It is a bit silly tbh. Go and make up and then have a good weekend!

Eh…the OP didn’t seek particularly bothered that he forgot her pizza? So why so many people suggesting she is being difficult!

I would be pissed off if my DH forgot my pizza to be fair 😂

OP were you sulking in the kitchen?

I couldn't cook 4 pizzas at once as there's only 3 oven trays .

My DH did a take away order and forgot to order mine (no idea why) , but he shared his with me without me asking , (vegan wrap -I had the side dishes ok )

I have never let him forget this

My DH once ordered me boiled rice when we were getting a Chinese meal. I’ve still not forgiven him

I'm not 100% sure that it does.

Where do you live that salmon pizza is an option? I'm really mostly curious about where you live. And I think you should have a bowl of ice cream for dinner.

The far east. Parts of north america. A swanky restaurant or two in London town.

Does he do anything else around the house or is that his sole contribution

salmon ice cream is lovely btw

He did it on purpose. Nobody knows there's 4 people to cook for and only puts 3 in

Sounds like you have bigger problems than pizza. A sulking husband who doesn't pull his weight. How unattractive

This reminds me of my DH. I do everything to care for DD, except one small part of the bedtime routine, which he does. He changes her nappy, puts on her owlet monitor, puts her in her pjs and her sleeping bag. Despite doing this every night since she was born, he always forgets at least one of these steps. EVERY NIGHT. Every night, I have to "check" his work, to figure out what he's carelessly forgotten this time. Sometime, men are such careless creatures. It's because they know we'll always fix it for them: wilful carelessness, because someone will already fix their laziness.

I got as far as @Bluetrews25 saying she's eaten and enjoyed a tuna and banana pizza and my brain then refused to process any more information.