to go to Glastonbury?

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DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray!

We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after!

People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

OP is winning - she’s going anyway, regardless of what we think.

Well why can’t we be happy for her and tell her have a good time

Because she wanted to know what we all thought, and we are telling her!!😂

I assumed Macca would be doing the 'aging legend' slot on the Sunday but that seems to be Diana Ross who we were treated to at the Jubilee although we had no idea why.

Wonder if her mic will still be turned down!??

You mean Mumsnet is not a hive mind who will all agree on a parenting topic? Who would have thought.

And as for all the "but what if she were a MAN" bollocks - given it's a field with no phone signal, I'd have less judgement if one parent was staying. I don't care if that parent has a penis or not.

We can but hope.

My two have fine curly hair so it’s important we don’t let it mat x

@DashboardConfessional i never mentioned any men x

Not you. Hence the new paragraph. I'm not starting a new post to make a second point. Except now you made me.

Just go and have fun.
Your child is young and won’t care as long as he’s fed and clean.

Omg go and enjoy it. It is you that will feel it most being away but it won't hurt your baby who will be with loving grandparents. I think it is easier for them when they are slightly younger (if not bf obvs 😅). They are less aware at 12 weeks imo

Sorry I’m new to mums net haven’t quite grasped the format of posts yet sorry about that xx

Have you ever been to a festival or been 39 weeks pregnant, in labour or a few days post partum. How any of those is compatible with the first I cannot fathom.

I'd have done if I had rollover Glastonbury tickets. However I wouldn't arrive on Wednesday (because my camping tolerance at festivals only stretches to 3 days!) and would leave the option of extending until I worked out whether my parents needed a break.

Enjoy yourself

I left dd (3) for 5 days to go to Glasto with my parents...she was pissed off with me but she is going herself this year (age 14) with dp and a bunch of mates!

There’s people here saying don’t leave the baby then in their next post they’re saying don’t take the baby. The op can’t win

It's not an either/or. There is the option to stay with your small baby. Or one of them to. It's not like you have to go to Glastonbury. And if it did what it did one of the times I went and was knee deep in mud it wouldn't be safe at all for babies.

3 years or 3 months?

Is Paul McCartney their grandad or something? Why on earth would they need to see him 🤨

@MrsTerryPratchett

But they want to go. The baby will not be harmed by them going.

So why shouldn't they?

If the dad was going for work for 6 days would you judge?

Or 3 months? Or a year?

I couldn't. I'm flying to London (from Scotland) this weekend for an overnight for a concert. Leaving 2yo and 8mo with grandparents and I've been ill at the thought for weeks.

It was a good idea at the time but I've been hoping it gets cancelled since!

The baby will not be harmed by them going.

Inconsistency by primary caregivers could absolutely cause harm. And one person going off for a few days isn't the same as both. Frankly, a primary caregiver could be a grandparent or nanny. But you shouldn't chop and change.

Are we really pretending that present, consistent parents aren't a good thing for children? Buggering off for almost 10% of the child's life? Not great.

You're trying to pretend it's sexist. It's only that way because in most cases the primary caregiver is female. But the same applies it it's male.

Well I was breastfeeding then so wouldn't have been able to. But I honestly wouldn't have wanted to. But you do you op 🤷🏻‍♀️

The 16 week old babies?