Tell me your life's top tip

[browniesandcakes]

I'll go first....

If you are feeling low, do something for someone else. Not because you have too, but because you can. I promise you will walk away feeling more inspired than you did before! Just be kind in life, it's so rewarding.

I would say my life's motto would be

Love many,
Trust few,
Always paddle your own canoe.

In retrospect very wise words

Strangely enough, this made me cry as I've lost my kind person. Kindness is better than looks or money.

Don’t be too proud or too scared to ask for help when you really need it.

Just to mention I did none of these and as I've got older they bit me on the arse

Learn to drive early
Don't start smoking
Make excercise an enjoyable part of life
Don't prioritise a man in your life over friends and family (presuming you like your family- if you don't then leave out the family bit)
Always have some cash in reserve - even if it's relatively modest
Don't automatically say yes to things you aren't 100% sure of or not sure you can afford-expensive hen nights, staying over at weddings , house moves , holidays
Eat well- if you have a modest budget then change your eating/cooking habits to still eat well -
Don't marry anyone till you have lived with them for 3 years

Set your boundaries early- don't just presume they must know them-

This is so wise! And so succinct!

@Dozycuntlaters Ha- I like that- I would want to be friends with me!! I'm kind, generous and know a fair bit about a lot- but then I am 60 and have lived a bit!

LOVE this ♥️.

Righty tighty, lefty loosy

Two of mine which are related:

Life's too short for boring hair - Coco Chanel
I live by this quite specifically vis-a-vis hair - I am currently sporting a very bright coloured lob with my name shaved into an undercut 😂

But I also apply this more generally - life's too short to be boring, to be safe, to err on the side of caution.
So my second top tip is the Musicians' Law: If it feels good, do it

Have a cocker spaniel. I have had wonderful, wonderful dogs all my life, but I have never laughed so much, felt so loved, or had so many embarrassing tales to tell as I have in the past three years since we adopted our first cocker.

Do something everyday which your future self will thank you for

Don't breed with a chauvinist.

You don't have to be their best mate or an almighty dictator but you have to let your kids know that you are "on their team".

At work - lead by example and don't expect others to work harder than you are prepared to work yourself.

Also, invest time and respect into all work relationships at all levels. It massively helps staff retention and morale and (as I found last week) when you are up shit creek with a seemingly impossible brief to fulfill, all the people who respect and admire you will come forward and step up. Actually feel a bit tearful about that one - in a good way!

Don’t be a knob

1. Be kind. You generally get back what you put out there.

2. Go out of your way to help the good people. The world needs every good person it can get. But don't give the ar*eholes an inch.

3. Don't compare yourself to others. It's a one-way ticket to misery and pain. In any case, you have no idea what is going on behind closed doors.

4. Be very careful who you allow into your life. And trust your instincts.

5. Don't pin your happiness and self-esteem on the world out there. Happiness really does come from within.

6. Read the classics. Even if you find parts boring, or heavy-going, they WILL repay your effort. Jane Austen, Dickens, George Eliot, Hardy, Woolf, Plath, Wodehouse, D. H. Lawrence...it really doesn't matter. The canon will comfort you, guide you and heal you. Best thing I ever did was give up newspapers and self-help books and read the classics instead.

Smile, about everything. Just been stung by a wasp, smile as soon as you can. Just gad a car hit your car. Smile as soon as you can. Smile at check out assistants - the service you will receive will be super.

Breaks the anger, pain and negativity setting in.

No matter where you’re going, always take a good book with you.

So very sorry for your loss, Migs. Big virtual hugs.

If the game takes longer to play then it does to clear up, it was totally worth it.

(My mantra when faced with a room full of toy chaos but the kids have been playing happily all day).

“If you have lost something, it is usually under something else”

~ My father

Has helped me find lots of missing items!

Never go up or down the stairs empty handed

Don't shag your boss

Wear sunscreen

Everyone fed, no one dead = a successful day as a parent.

Don't hollow yourself out for a job. You are not indispensable to them. If you die they will advertise your job before you're buried/cremated. This is to remind you to prioritise the LIFE, in the work/life balance we're all supposed to achieve.Your employer will prioritise WORK all by themselves

But also my 3 dating rules in life:

No doctors
No married men
No one called Terry regretted that when I met a gorgeous, single, non-doctor Terry, but one rule had to be frivolous

Don’t marry someone unless you’re on the same page around core beliefs / future goals / finances / children.
Don’t stay in a relationship that is no longer working.. leaving might not be easy, but your life will be exponentially better if you do.
(Connected) don’t jump straight into another relationship, take some time to be single.
Do something you love every day.

Nobody cares about your happiness (or lack thereof) as much as you do.