Tell me your life's top tip

[browniesandcakes]

I'll go first....

If you are feeling low, do something for someone else. Not because you have too, but because you can. I promise you will walk away feeling more inspired than you did before! Just be kind in life, it's so rewarding.

“A wise man goes when he can. A fool goes when he has to.” 😁

Walking is the best exercise. Shortly followed by yoga.

Buy low, sell high

Always check if someone is selling one before you buy it new (unless its makeup or knickers or similar🤣). Put the difference in a pot for holiday spends.

There is absolutely no reason to drive like an arsehole. Absolutely none. You see people driving badly/too fast just to save themselves 5 seconds. It’s just not worth it.

You have food at home.

Can you say more about this?

I needed to read that just now 🤣

I needed to read the bit about not apologising! I’m going back to work next week after mat leave round two and already feeling like I need to apologise, but I won’t now!

I wish I’d read this earlier 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

No. I actually think this is pernicious. People are allowed their pain. It’s ok that some things cause pain. Your quote is trying to make people believe they are wrong to feel pain, as the pain is outside them. No. The pain is very much inside them and that’s normal and they have not ‘failed’ to do trauma ‘’properly ‘ because they feel like that.

There was nothing in my list to say I am telling people to go through life blaming others and conceptualist themselves as perennial victims so no idea why you brought that up. In fact my post was quite explicit about people coming to terms with what has happened and continuing to live.

Reframing works very well for some things but not everything. There is no ‘one size fits all’ for anything in life.

Acceptance is important. Accepting and coming to terms is important, so that you can continue to live. But demanding that people just need to reframe everything is actually quite harmful.

Take beta blockers if you have a fear of public speaking, rather than spending your career avoiding presentations. Being able to present will propel you further and faster in many careers. Don’t let your cave woman flight or fight brain hold you back on this when there is an easy fix.

Speak to yourse

Don't sweat the small stuff
Wanting what you have, not having what you want

Don't get married.

Don't share your finances.

Don't buy a house with someone.

Mine is about trying to be as kind to yourself as you are to others. If you wouldn't say it to someone you love then you shouldn't say it to yourself.

I was going to say my top tip is keep your bathroom cleaning stuff in the bathroom but then I realised you’re all being deep and meaningful…

So I guess mine is “stop caring”. Stop caring about what others think of you and stop caring about the drama, don’t get involved in it- just realise it’s all batshit and walk away.

If you suspect, or the school says they think your kid has autism, follow your gut/their advce and ask for/accept a referral. Especially if the school is supportive.

your kid may be coping now, but god help you when they get to the point when they can not cope. then there will be a two year wait. and the school they are in then may be complete arses and not do anything without a diagnosis...

It is not a label it is a diagnosis... they will not get a diagnosis unless they do have autism.

Be your own best friend. Be that person you like hanging out with, enjoying their company and has your best interests at heart. I like being friends with me, I give great advise, I laugh, and make myself happy. I'm cool and as I spend so much time with me and am definitely my own best friend.

I like the one about being who your dog thinks you are. My dog is also cool as fuck and thinks I am awesome.

Oh, and you know all those lovely candles you can't bring yourself to burn because they are so pretty.......just burn them!! Don't be outlived by a candle.

Remember your parents are people and (if they are generally alright) try to be friends with them.

People usually get the job/partner/treatment they think they deserve, not what they actually deserve, so try to raise your expectations for yourself. Metaphorically speaking (or literally) aim to be the ugly happy woman with the gorgeous kind husband, not the miserable beautiful woman with the ratty looking shithead.

And one I often need to remind myself and others: it’s only work. It’s not your life or who you are.

Why did I never think of that?! 😂

Don't open the secateurs until you're clear which stem you want to cut.

Be that person who smiles and chats with strangers.

When you're faced with a daunting task remember that the longest journey starts with a single step.

Don't be afraid of cutting off shit family members.