Tell me your life's top tip

[browniesandcakes]

I'll go first....

If you are feeling low, do something for someone else. Not because you have too, but because you can. I promise you will walk away feeling more inspired than you did before! Just be kind in life, it's so rewarding.

Don't look back, you're not going that way.

Never trust someone whose smile doesn't reach their eyes.

From the great sage, Joan Collins- never love anything that can't love you back.

Because I was a nurse and it would be a cliché. Also because I was a nurse and I saw unfaithfulness at every Xmas party (with more than just doctors to be fair to them), and had a married consultant offer me the position as his mistress, with nice flat, car and pin money to compensate for losing my morals.

I turned him down very firmly. And told him he failed 2 out of 3 of my rules...

Save nothing for good/best
So use the glasses ,dishes wear that coat and dress etc yep they might get broken but at least you have enjoyed them

I really do live by them.

The live for today was my DMs philosophy- and I like it better than live every day as your last. It might well be your last day on Earth, but it probably won’t be and you could have a long miserable life and reach 100 because you blew every penny thinking it was all going to be over soon.

Oh and I put the duvet covers, sheets and matching pillowcases in one pillowcase in the linen cupboard. Can be just handed out as a complete pack to older children to change their own beds without them endlessly asking where this and that is or messing up my stacks!

Accept what is. If you can't change it, accept that you can't change it. Holding onto resisting reality causes our suffering.

When someone shows you who they are believe them

don’t lend friends or family money you can’t afford to lose

And in your turn, you are ascribing thoughts to me that I don't have and have not expressed. Nothing in my post tells people they can't have their pain. Nothing in my post denies that some things that happen are devastating.

You are of course welcome to ignore the wisdom of the Stoics though, if you prefer.

When there’s a mismatch between someone’s words and actions, always believe the behaviour.

Own your mistakes
Get your round in
Ring your friends

Don't let perfection be the enemy of good (or even adequate).

If you fuck up, own up.

Wonderful advice, blithely ignored both among the powers that be and a sizeable proportion of “ordinary” people, sadly.

@Thefroglover I do the racing the kettle thing too! Honestly one of the few good habits I've managed to stick to.

The best tea is dishwasher tea ie: tea that had been brewing for the time it takes to unload the dishwasher.

Be mindful of the little things and enjoy them. There will usually be a "last one" and you won't realise until afterwards that you've had the last.

Eg, toddler cuddles. Cuddling my DS and realised he was a little boy, and as sweet as that little boy was I was sad that the toddler cuddles were gone forever.

Now my eldest is a hulking teenager, all legs and arms. Love him to bits but do miss the little boy I had.....

My lovely Mum used to say
You came into this world alone and you die alone so always look after yourself first.
She also used to say make sure you take good care of your feet

I love this. Such a tiny detail but so good.

The opposite of charming is antisocial, as in sociopathy. Never, ever trust a charming man.

Do your pelvic floor exercises at red traffic lights.

Buy the reduced veg and make soup.

If you’re holding onto stuff to sell on eBay or Fb when you have time, list it right now.
If you still want to put it off, take it to the charity shop today. You will count how much you could’ve made on the way there but the weight of guilt from not having done it yet will lift almost immediately and it’ll be replaced with the feeling of having done something kind for others.
When you get home to a decluttered hallway, you will be elated.

Never read your old diaries.

Recent one I read on here - don't set yourself on fire trying to keep others warm.

Some people don't want to be helped.

Other people's behaviour towards you is a reflection on them, not you.

If you're going through hell, keep going.

Don't mistake a bad day for a bad life.

I have a few!

I use the one the OP mentioned. One of my best things to do when someone has upset me, is to go onto my instagram and leave 10 nice comments on the first 10 posts to come up. Even if it's just "Looks like you had a lovely time!" or "I love that book as well!" I always feel a bit better afterwards.

My second is an ADHD fix I came up with. Meal planning for the week is something that has always really hurt my brain. So, over the course of a few weeks, we brainstormed 40 meals we liked, wrote them in a list. And I literally use a random number generator to chose for us! Of course, if there's something we really fancy that week, that's fine, but it's taken all the brain-ache out of the process.

My third is something I say to the classes I teach at school, particularly at this end of the year, when they're all getting fed up of each other and ready for a break.
"You don't have to like everyone, but you do have to be respectful and polite."

Another one, "I can't control other people's behaviour, but I can control my own."

Declutter
It has made such a difference to how we live and how I feel about our home.

Keep fresh strawberries in a lidded glass jar, in the fridge. They will last for a week or more (not that they last longer than a couple of days in our house).

It works SO well!

Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t ask for advice.