My partner and I are planning a wedding for this December, this is of course quite a fast turnaround (due to family illness) but we've been lucky to get a venue, DJ and photographer booked with relative ease so it is all going ahead!
We've opted for a hot buffet for the meal - likely a Christmas carvery type situation (a nice one!) because we felt that was a bit more relaxed and also, honestly, it was cheaper. I also thought people who have particular food habits (like members of my family!) might find it less stressful than a three-course sit down affair. We're serving plenty of wine and soft drinks etc. It's a twilight wedding so I don't think anyone should be going hungry.
I've just had a reaction from a family member who seems to think this is akin to serving beans on toast, and it's thrown me into a panic. Will everyone hate this and think we're being stingy?
I'm trying not to get sucked into everyone's expectations as I know that's how costs get out of hand.
Aibu to serve a buffet?
AIBU?
Aibu to serve a buffet at our wedding
MimosasInFrance · 18/06/2022 10:00
MimosasInFrance · 18/06/2022 10:00
My partner and I are planning a wedding for this December, this is of course quite a fast turnaround (due to family illness) but we've been lucky to get a venue, DJ and photographer booked with relative ease so it is all going ahead!
We've opted for a hot buffet for the meal - likely a Christmas carvery type situation (a nice one!) because we felt that was a bit more relaxed and also, honestly, it was cheaper. I also thought people who have particular food habits (like members of my family!) might find it less stressful than a three-course sit down affair. We're serving plenty of wine and soft drinks etc. It's a twilight wedding so I don't think anyone should be going hungry.
I've just had a reaction from a family member who seems to think this is akin to serving beans on toast, and it's thrown me into a panic. Will everyone hate this and think we're being stingy?
I'm trying not to get sucked into everyone's expectations as I know that's how costs get out of hand.
Aibu to serve a buffet?
Portiasparty · 18/06/2022 11:21
I'd love this. It makes the whole meal thing better, so you can get up and chat to other people in the queue, rather than being stuck with mad Aunty Ethel for the entire meal. And also the food in those sit down meals is always underwhelming.
MimosasInFrance · 18/06/2022 10:14
Sorry to hear that this happens to you! I might do a sticker system or something for those with dietary requirements so that other folk don't swoop in!
1VY · 18/06/2022 10:11
YY, I cross posted with @whiteroseredrose
Let vegetarians go first though. I went to a 'do' where all the meat eaters decided to give the vegetarian option a try so there was nothing left for me!
I am gluten free and this always happens to me. The people who go “ Oh look there’s something gluten free, I’ve always wanted to try that “ .
Then I’m left with a plate of lettuce and white rice. And an apple for desert.
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