My partner and I are planning a wedding for this December, this is of course quite a fast turnaround (due to family illness) but we've been lucky to get a venue, DJ and photographer booked with relative ease so it is all going ahead!
We've opted for a hot buffet for the meal - likely a Christmas carvery type situation (a nice one!) because we felt that was a bit more relaxed and also, honestly, it was cheaper. I also thought people who have particular food habits (like members of my family!) might find it less stressful than a three-course sit down affair. We're serving plenty of wine and soft drinks etc. It's a twilight wedding so I don't think anyone should be going hungry.
I've just had a reaction from a family member who seems to think this is akin to serving beans on toast, and it's thrown me into a panic. Will everyone hate this and think we're being stingy?
I'm trying not to get sucked into everyone's expectations as I know that's how costs get out of hand.
Aibu to serve a buffet?
AIBU?
Aibu to serve a buffet at our wedding
MimosasInFrance · 18/06/2022 10:00
KosherDill · 18/06/2022 13:56
Do many people really have such selfish clods in their circle? That would grab what they could regardless of others yet to partake??
I honestly know of no one who'd behave that way.
rookiemere · 18/06/2022 13:31
I think that all sounds good but simple over catering doesn't quite address the issue of the first set of guests taking all the tastiest morsels. I'd see what the venue recommends - replenishment and some serving is possibly the way to go.
Thebeastofsleep · 18/06/2022 20:18
And whilst yes, it is your wedding and people shouldn't be complaining about free food, weddings are usually in reasonably isolated places and it can be hard to get food elsewhere. I've been to weddings where the wedding was at 1, so we've had an early lunch at 11 or so, and then not got fed until 6.30 or so, to then not get any food, would be quite a pain and being hungry would spoil my enjoyment of the day.
SurfBox · 18/06/2022 19:17
Then my hungry son was called greedy by the groom for being keen to explore the dessert buffet before the interminable speeches
What age was son and how did the groom know? What was your reaction?
DoubleHelix79 · 18/06/2022 13:11
Just make sure the veggie stuff is not hoovered up in minutes by all the carnivores who suddenly decide that they fancy the nice looking vegetarian options as a side!
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PyongyangKipperbang · 19/06/2022 01:36
As someone who has worked in the industry for years I catered for 120% at my own wedding. The event "manager" tried to insist that we should only cater 70% of guests but having worked events where the buffet has always run out I did it how I knew it should be done. Yes there will be times when only a small amout of guests eat (usually a full day event where the buffet is served a couple of hours after the big dinner) but more often than not, it ran out and there would be a pissed off B&G dealing with hangry guests.
At my wedding there were left overs but not much, and not a hungry guest in sight. Over cater, always. Never listen to the manager who wants your cash and doesnt actually give a shit about you or your guests.
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