To be furious with daughters school.

[Incognitomum11]

Year 6 daughter. I came to pick her up yesterday from after school club to find that they had cancelled the club and my daughter had stood waiting for me for an hour, by the side of the road, all alone.

she walks from school and I pick her up from the small village on her request, to give her some independence in preparation for secondary soon.
I have a new job and have specifically given the school instructions to contact me on my work number because I have zero reception or internet at work.

BUT the school hadn’t even attempted to contact the parents to say the after school club had been cancelled.
they had only sent an email.

When I later looked at the email it clearly says “Please can you reply to this email to confirm you have received it.”
and normally they phone to check if they dont hear back.

but they hadn’t, they had told her I had been made aware and let her leave at usual time.

AIBU to be furious with them?

I know some of you may think that year 6 she should be able to deal with this but she had no phone and no money.

and in future, yea I will make sure she has a phone with her to school.

This happens all the time in secondary so it’s worth using this to form a back up plan.

however. She’s primary not secondary and they absolutely should have rung

Did you miss she’s at primary. You shouldn’t need either

Your daughter probably needed to tell the school you weren't there. I would expect a child that age to walk back to school and ask them to phone you. Mine once walked home on a day I was collecting them, then walked back to school when they realised I wasn't home. The school was frantic. They did the same at secondary school with mobile phone. We just had to make them understand that school is the best place in this situation.

That is so shocking! x

No child NEEDS a phone or a contingency plan, but I’d definitely be giving mine at least one of these things if they were walking home or to a pick up point independently. Ultimately the buck stops with me, their parent.

Did you miss she's at primary. The OP shouldn't be picking her primary aged daughter from a random unsupervised spot in the village with no phone or contingency plan

Did you miss the child leaves the schools premises to walk along a road alone to meet her mother in her car?

This is a new arrangement designed to give the child more independence. However, no safety measures were put in place- a phone and a ‘what to do in the event of’

Massive parenting fail

Put your complaint in a letter, not an email. Mark it as an official complaint. Ofsted ask to see these when they do an inspection.

Whatever arrangements the OP had with her daughter in an emergency or whatever is NOT the point. The school absolutely should not have let her leave until they had confirmed that her parent of emergency contact was aware. It is an appalling mess up on their part and you need to speak to the HT

Cotton wool rules!

Massive parenting fail

Well even if it is (and yes a "in case of emergency conversation would have been good) it is also a massive school fail as they should not have allowed the child to leave when they had cancelled the after school club where the child would normally be, without checking that the parent knew about the cancellation. And as the child is at Primary School the onus is absolutely on the school to not let her go until any arrangements have been checked!

OP you haven't said if this is proper wraparound regular afterschool care, or a hobby/sports club running for a set number of weeks in a block. Because if it's the latter I'm just wondering what the arrangement is for that particular day of the week when she ISN'T booked onto a club (most school have rotations of particular clubs)

I'm just wondering at what point your signal might have picked up the message that club was cancelled.........so did you leave work and go to the shops or something expecting that she was at club and not checking your phone at all once you had signal? Or was that particular day an after school club EVERY week of the school year?

Ina LOT of jobs you're not allowed use of your phone whilst at work....but a message can be left at a workplace main tel no

Hi all . Had my 14 year old daughter come home from school tonight very upset. She was pulled out of class today, and had questions repeatedly fired at her, regarding if and what she eats . And what she does when she gets home from school and who she speaks to. The result of this is my daughter asking if she is under weight does she look skinny or funny and generally feeling after answering yes to being fed. That she was repeatedly asked over and over again like she wasn't believed. She has had bullying trouble before and has no confidence in the schools pastoral team which has resulted in her not wanting to go to school .

Mine got told today that she should ask to be taken to the gp to check for diabetes!! She sat out of PE as wasn’t feeling great as she’s on her period and quite heavy. She’s also autistic and slightly over weight. But not sure the teacher should be diagnosing diabetes. She was actually tested last year for bloods and came out low in iron but definitely not diabetic.

I have no idea why they suggested she should be tested so I can't comment on that but just for information purposes the fact she was not diabetic least year does not mean that she isn't now.

Diabetes symptoms
Toilet - going for a wee a lot, especially at night.
Thirsty - being really thirsty.
Tired - feeling more tired than usual.
Thinner - losing weight without trying to.
Genital itching or thrush.
Cuts and wounds take longer to heal.
Blurred eyesight
Increased hunger.
These symptoms can affect anyone - adult or child. But some are more commonly experienced by people with type 1 diabetes, and can come on really quickly.

https://www.diabetes.org.uk/about-diabetes/symptoms

Yeah she has none of those symptoms. She was feeling a bit tired and hormonal. And doesn’t particularly enjoy PE anyway. Teacher made a judgement based on nothing.

I would be spitting feathers