Aibu to carry on seeing this guy?

[Heelsoverhead]

I've been seeing someone for 4 months now. Not long but it's all gone really fast and we've even talked about moving in together soon. We've met each others families and we get on so well.

We live about a 2 hour drive apart but he's been staying with me nearly every weekend since we met I spent a week off work at his place. We speak on FaceTime most evenings.

He was a little dishonest with me when we first met, he didn't tell me initially that he had a baby., he was honest with me about this once he realised how into each other we were and that things were serious. His dd is 5 months old now but his ex won't let him see the baby. He broke up with her before the baby arrived because he just wasn't in love with her anymore and she was controlling and she's still bitter about it. She lets him see the baby then changes her mind. She sounds like a complete psycho.

Now his ex has actually found me on social media, she's sent me a message telling me that he's still been sleeping with her regularly, that he claims he still loves her and is having unprotected sex with her. She says he's been messing her around and now she's supposed to have found out about me.

I don't know what to believe but my boyfriend said she's a complete liar and that she tries to blackmail him into staying overnight with her to see his dd, he's stayed on her sofa and nothing happened.

I really do love him, he's such a lovely guy he'd do anything for me. I've been looking at transferring my job to his town to move in together.

Thank you, I'm so sorry for posting a reverse but I need to show her these replies.

He's good looking and charming and so intense. He's sleeping in my parents house at the weekends and then shagging his ex during the week, it's as clear as day.

One thing I learnt whilst dating was - never date a man who calls his ex a psycho. It's usually him that's the problem.

In this instance, I kind of understand you posting a reverse.

It's sad how seemingly intelligent, savvy women end up having their instincts mangled by these arseholes - I know, I was one of them. Sadly it may be the case that your sister will only see the light years and a depleted bank account later.

Good luck with your sister. At least she has someone looking out for her.

Then message the ex, & get confirmation that she's not an ex - that your sister is in fact the other woman. That he's living there through the week & sleeping with her. That he pays fuck-all for the baby, & makes no effort to arrange a contact schedule.

I would lock my sister in the basement before I'd let her keep seeing this man, she needs an intervention.

How old is your sister? This guy will fuck her mind up and take what he can from her. What do your parents think of him?

She still won't see sense from this, you know this right?

She has fallen for his lies and his love bombing. She won't see sense until she loses her home and is a single parent with one or more kids, left confused as to how this happened.

Show her this, but I don't expect her to use her brain to be honest. I expect a thread from her in a few years time, crying about how she was duped and she didn't believe her sister because she was a fool. Most you can do is watch the fallout really as it happens, which sucks so much.