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Burnin · 14/06/2022 14:21

Hi everyone ! Hope some of you are able to give me a perspective on this. I’ve always been around numbers of people, I talk well with them, make them feel welcome, try to make them comfortable, always helped them by going beyond of what I can normally do but most of my friendships (only with girls) ends up with them not liking me. I, personally believe, am not someone who hurts people deliberately ( have seen many people like that) or make them uncomfortable, I try my best of what could I do or give in all my friendships but at the beginning all is great but over the time I feel relationship getting weak rather bring strong. Also in my life I’ve seen many women turning stone cold towards me for no any reasons. It just makes me think that do I come across as a rude or non- interesting person to people or is it something else ? I have 2 or 3 friendships that are great but many of them had only made me feel unwanted or stupid because I do so much for them but in the end get their dejection. I am very spiritual person and normally stay away from bickering people or keeping a wrong intention about them but why does this happen to me ? Is something wrong with me or with them? Help me with your perspective on this ! TIA

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Burnin · 15/06/2022 14:17

@Spitescreen I’ve considered them as nice people who really needed help. After so many years it occurred to me that it’s not what I thought it is. Ofcourse while I was helping this mother, I genuinely felt she needed it and is a very good person at that time but now when I see the past she is not. I used the word bothered atm but not when I was actually helping her. I didn’t feel that way. Also you said it right what I did was my choice. I choose to be used or disrespected. It’s just makes me wonder now that why it happened like that? I believe it’s extremely rude on her part to not acknowledge my message.

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Burnin · 15/06/2022 14:31

@SpaceRaiders though I don’t know that much in detail but I read few things about NT, can’t relate myself to it. But I agree with you that to be kind towards myself first as I do with others. Also very important to know the boundaries.

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Sunnytwobridges · 15/06/2022 15:53

SparklingLime · 14/06/2022 17:36

😂 that really doesn’t appear to have any relevance to OP’s situation.

😂if you say so!

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