Would you be offended by this comment?

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You have too much time on your hands.

Just made me feel stupid and that my life is considered by someone as unfulfilling. But then maybe I’m reading into it too much?

I’d be offended, I think. What was the context?

Yes. “You have too much time on your hands” is never said in a positive way. It’s negging, passive aggressive and belittling.

I think actual context is needed here

Depends what prompted the comment. It is often said in jest, if I were talking about organising and labelling my kitchen larder and someone said that, I would think fair enough 🤣

It depends what context it was used in. Why did they say it to you?

What is the context? With some threads on here, posters have too much time on their hands so yes context is important.

Agree with the others. Context is everything

Usually negative, but could be joking or teasing depending on time and context.

Depends on the context. Could be offensive, could just be true.

Depends what you were doing.

Could even be a compliment in that you are efficient?

What was the context of the exchange?

Usually means, haven’t you got anything better to do.

Negative overtones (even in a "joke") to downright negative. However it can also be a sign of jealousy from whoever said it.

Context important.

FWIW it's been said to me at different times in my life. Sometimes I just ignored it but I've also used it to reaffirm I like my life the way it is or to change something. So even if the person who said it is being a d*ck, are you happy with your life?

Very occasionally this can be well meant. If for example a person is depressed or overly preoccupied with trivial things and could do with a distraction.
More typically its said defensively, if you do something to a higher standard than the person saying it, or they are envious of something you've achieved, or simply as a put down.

What @FAQs said.

This.

Some people do though!
During lockdown, a friend of mine became really anxious. So much so that she gave the children to her ex husband, as she couldn't care for them properly.
She is a very self-involved person anyway, but not once did it occur to her to do some volunteering, which may have helped take her mind off things.
She'd be phoning me constantly, when I was working, homeschooling, holding down the family home (I'm a single parent too) and I must admit - uncharitably perhaps - that the thought 'too much time on her hands' did cross my mind once or twice!

It’s usually said to suggest that somebody is thinking too much about something the other person thinks is unimportant. It’s a belittling way of saying your concerns don’t matter. Obviously it matters to you so just ignore it.

Do you think you have too much time on your hands OP? I only ask because I’d be inclined to ignore it if I didn’t somehow feel it myself.

Trouble is, unless the OP comes back soon the thread's just going to be full of people asking for context, or second guessing.

Depends. It usually means you're bothered over something trivial. It's not nice but I doubt I'd be offended.

I've had it said to me a few times.... Particularly as I work part time but it seemed to come from a place of jealousy. Others envied the fact I had spare time to pursue my own interests and as they are unwilling or unable to make this time for themselves they lash out.

Pay no attention. Excessive "being busy" is over rated.

As others have said, it totally depends on context.
as a “time poor” person, I could actually see a scenario where this is a compliment.

Sorry should have put more. So friend knows I struggle with my appearance and I likely have body dysmorphia. I honestly don’t talk about it that much, and only open up to friend for example when I had a panic attack and was late to her bbq or when she asks why I don’t date etc.

I just mentioned something I’d noticed about a change in my appearance and wasn’t sure if I was imaging it, so I asked her opinion and that’s when she said it.

She’s someone who likes to act like their job is extremely important and her social life is none stop. She’s gone out of her way to inform me multiple times her and her partner are busy every single Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Just think she belittles my life a little, because I’m single and my job isn’t as important - I do have a social life but I feel she competes to tell me that hers is better?

But my mind is warped so I’m fully ok with being told YABU - just please be nice and know that it’s not a subject I constantly go on about, it’s just something a friend would learn about me after knowing me a while.

I organised my sock drawer during lockdown so the coloured ends made a rainbow pattern.

That's a legitimate use of the phrase!

Hmm from the context it could have been her clumsy way of saying that you're over thinking it a bit. I'm not sure if your appearance has changed but if you spend a lot of time looking at a minor and only possible change, she might have a point.

However the rest of what you wrote about her doesn't seem to be the behaviour of friends from either side.