Would you be offended by this comment?

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You have too much time on your hands.

Just made me feel stupid and that my life is considered by someone as unfulfilling. But then maybe I’m reading into it too much?

She’s not much of a friend I think.

"I have the same time you do, do you mean I have more free time than you? Yeah, I do, and it's great"

The big thing I'd say is that it's not really up to her to decide what you should spend your time on. Obviously she'll have different priorities from you, that's natural and perhaps a part of what friendship's all about. But it's not really for her to decide what's important, to you or to the world. If she can't be sympathetic about your worries and concerns, then I'd say let her become a less frequent friend. And be sure to be busy sometimes when she suggests a meet up.

Also, I wish people on this thread weren't quite so dismissive about your concern. I keep thinking a mole. Others may not see the significance. but you'd definitely be right to check this out with your GP if it is changing at all.

Please don't let something this person said make you feel stupid. And follow your own dreams and goals.

Spot on.

I used to work with someone who would always say to me "I don't know how you find the time". This was normally in response to me telling her about a hobby I have.
Similar family set up, did a similar job to me.

It was jealousy I think because her dh did fuck all to help with her ds or housework so that's why she never had any spare time. Used to annoy me though as she once intimated I was doing my hobby in work time!

Op I think you've not got a very nice friend.

Unfortunately OP, you have an issue than manifests in concern about something people take a pride in not caring about.
There's a conceit about (mostly pretending) not to care what we look like, as we're supposed to be constantly focused on more 'worthy' things.
If your condition manifested itself as excessive handwashing for example, few people would suggest an excess of time was causing it.
If your friend is unaware of your BD, she may be more understanding if you tell her. If she's already aware, she's very insensitive.

I think this is more about how you perceived her saying this.
Although I agree, it is not a phrase used in a courteous manner usually. I do think perhaps this is more to do with how you feel as a person than what she said. She probably felt like it wasn't something to waste time worrying about. However, to you it is a big deal.
I would firstly, stop thinking about what other people are doing/not doing/achieving/not achieving. It plagues your mind and nothing positive really comes from comparing youself to others.
If you feel like life isn't where you'd like it to be, set yourself some goals that have a timeframe, are achieved and realistic. Work on what you WANT from life. You'll keep busy and will be happier in the long run.
Good luck. 👍

I think she means if you found something else to focus on you'd get distracted, ect find a hobby.
Might be worth discussing with your GP. How you are feeling. X