Do you stop your children from talking to children whose parents you don’t like?

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Or do you view it as odd controlling behaviour?

I'd view that as odd controlling behaviour and kind of insane

No of course not.

No of course not. I can't imagine doing that.

No, same as I wouldnt invite a child my child doesn't play with cos I'm friends with their parent.

Petty, annoying don’t like no, absolutely not.
“I’m not comfortable with the parenting that goes on at your house” sort of dislike then my kids are not coming over and, tbh, I’d rather they were not close friends.

Put a large barrier around them with bouncers at the only entrance with a list of whose acceptable. If the name isn't on the list their not coming in.
Get the bouncers to wear black tie so they know you mean business.

Depends on the reasons why you don’t like them I think...?

No but I find generally kids gravitate to like minded kids. My DC's have only actually made friends with one child who's parents I found hard work. It fizzled out pretty quickly as the dc was very bossy and told outrageous lies, more than the usual white lies.

Of course not, that’s entirely inappropriate and controlling. Obviously if it’s a situation like you’re not comfortable with the parent (like perhaps you don’t trust them/have seen them behave inappropriately) you might not allow your child to play over at their home unsupervised but that’s just safeguarding your child. I would never ostracise a child for their parents’ behaviour. Kids have no control over their parents.

No. But I used to not encourage the friendship if the parents were a real nightmare (bigoted / drugs / excessive drinking). I'm a lone parent and have enough to deal with without my dc's ending up with dodgy mates.

It really depends on the reason.

I'd have said no 6 months ago though DS friends DM is a nutter, they're under SS radar I feel desperately sorry for the DC.

An incident kicked off last week I wasn't directly involved however no I'm going to have to blank her.

It'll be stressful and confrontational.

This definitely happens within our school and circles. I haven’t stopped my dc talking to other dc but I also won’t invite certain dc to my house due to their parents.

No...i don't stop them...but usually they work out themselves that they don't like them ....generally after child or parents have started a shitstorm at school..

I don’t like the parents and it is unfortunate that the children are in that environment but I don’t stop mine from saying hello and having a chat leaving the school or at the park.

I just wanted to see if I was bu for thinking that they were really weird for doing this.

I suppose it depends what you mean by ‘don’t like’. If we weren’t close friends, don’t have much in common etc then I’d get along for the sake of the kids.

If there was more complicated stuff going on and lots of bad blood then I’d be wary of my kids being good friends with their kids, particularly if they’re young. I wouldn’t say that’s controlling, just realistic and protective of my kids.

Some people use their kids friendships to manipulate and control in a ‘you can’t be mad at me, your kid will be sad’ way. I’d want to protect my family from people like that.

In summary, impossible to say without context.

😅we do the same this is just children chatting in passing or at the park

Yes, where their child was bullying my child and the parents had done nothing to stop it.

Odd and controlling.

When my children have had school friends with dick parents I’ve told them that those kids are school friend. We have home friends, friends who are both school and home, then some who are just school friends.

No. My son is friends with someone whose parent I seriously dislike. I don't make them not talk to each other... but I also don't invite them to my house.

No but I find generally kids gravitate to like minded kids.

Especially if their parents steer them. We live in East London and there are a few groups of very middle class parents who pay lip service to diversity but it is noticeable that their children only associate with acceptable children from families who are Exactly Like Them. They literally stand out in the park for the startling uniformity.

Talking to, or being friends with? I'd not have stopped DD talking to little Jenny, whose parents are racist homophobes, but I would have actively discouraged any friendship.

By friendship I mean going to play at her house or being in the company of her parents kind of thing.

Good god no, they had enough social disadvantages as it was

I would never stop because I didn't like the parent, that is controlling.

I'd only stop them if there was a risk of harm.