So he texted me back last night at seven because he had been working??
stick or twist??
Nah throw him in the sea! Too little too late - I suspect what's happened is he thought he had someone else on the hook, that hasn't panned out and he thinks you're securely on the back burner
I'm single long term, but when in relationships wasn't fussed about daily communication I date on occasion inc old as and when I choose but I treat it as a casual thing and don't take huge offence or get stressed when there's no response - not answering is an active choice.
Yea I think it lacks class/manners but if that's what they're like then bullet dodged yea?
That's what dating is and always has been for. To see if there's interest, a connection there: if there isn't that's not necessarily anyones fault just no match and you move on.
I think the advice to not focus on one person is good, I think you may also need to work on your self esteem op as nobody's behaviour should make you feel so insecure.
I'm at a place where I prefer being single I like my own space and schedule etc but it's nice on occasion to go out to dinner or for a drink and maybe have some sex but I am clear about my interests and expectations, I watch my personal and sexual safety and therefore interact with people the way that suits me.
Maybe you need to consider what you're looking for, what your preferences are and if OLD is your profile and the way you present yourself and the way you interact with potential dates aligned with that?
Also are you assessing the profiles and presentations of those you're connecting with correctly?
There are certain phrases, words and general ways of presenting themselves which indicate whether someone is wanting something casual, or something more serious and I don't just mean what they overtly admit to but also more subtle cues. There are numerous old threads on here can be very educational on such matters - and there are other forums too inc on the old sites themselves (which can be a handy way to find and get genuine insight into what they're looking for) - more than once I've come across someone I was chatting with and thought they were ok only to see on forum posts them bitching about women about their lack of success - basically the mask slipping! Which provides 2 pieces of info -
1 they're a sexist entitled dick!
2 they're not too bright with it!
And don't get too invested that way heartbreak lies. Don't give too much of yourself away until the relationship is established keep it light and fun.