To assume I have been dumped

[Dumpedagainfml]

Am I jaded or am I reasonable?

I had a long first date with a guy last weekend
we texted a bit
last heard from him on Thuraday night
I texted this morning ‘hey morning’ and a funny picture of being on holiday

I have not heard from him - he seen the message
I automatically assume he is ghosting me. Is this normal or am I so jaded?
if I dont hear from him by tomorrow I will assume its a one and done date - aibu to assume this? And just delete his contact.

I am not needy in a sense but I just would rather know one way or the other? i find this irritating flakiness beyond annoying - I am currently on a bus and every single person has their phone in their hand. Honestly. Two seconds ‘looks great - enjoy your day’. aibu.

Just posting with some sympathy OP because I've just been ghosted by someone I really liked. It's the first time it's happened to me and I actually thought I was smart enough that it never would! Wrong! It's awful and I'm so upset right now but whatever... I guess some men just think it's an acceptable way to behave these days. Sending you a hug ❤

Set your bar higher , would just move on. If you want to be friendly still , don't block, just have lower expectations. 9

Not sure why my fat fingers added a 9... hey ho...

No I would r waste my time. 'Calling him out' indicates you have some sort of interest.

No I meant a message to him calling him out… in the sense like he SHOULD say

’no interest romantically but we could be friends. Sorry.’ There its not hard is it.

so send him something like that
im not meeting him again
this is the 2nd time I have been ghosted this year. First time was after i dropped him off at airport😂😂😂 bumble honestly fucking cess pit of time wasters

After the first date did he want to arrange a 2nd? I think this is key...forget the words or texts (as you said it takes 5 secs to text someone) look at his actions.

@screwcovid, Unfortunately looking younger doesn't safeguard you from the sweetie shop mentality of OLD. Throw yourself into activities rather than focus on OLD, way more likely to meet decent men.

Aye but I was interested?? Until
today and he ghosted me

Tell him you met someone else on the bus.

Here he didnt actually. Ahh
he did text after and texted quite a bit
but nil
plans for 2nd date

so I should have known

😂😂😂
love it

I did OLD for 2.5 years from 45 onwards. Honestly most were a hilarious disaster. BUT I remember compromising hugely if they were vaguely nice and i really, when ii look back, had zero success and my most succesful flings were people i met out and about. However! And a huge However! I met the love of my life through Tinder. I was showing a friend how to use it and accidently met my current boyfriend. I can tell you now it was fireworks from the off and telling each other we were in love a month or so in. We are still mad about each other 2 years in. He is about to move in to blend with my kids and I have never NEVER, been happier.

This guy is not right for you, for whatever reason. Hang on in there and you will meet the right fit.

Lovely story so happy for you !!!

I wouldn't text him anything
What would be the point?

With you sister but the older I am getting and the more I learn the more I want to let them know how annoying they are

I know its a long shot but could he be leaving me to my own devices because I am on holiday?

(clutching at straws) any takers??

I agree with the PP who said he's keeping you hanging.
I expect him to get back in touch when he's been given the runaround. He's probably busy Sweet talking others right now.
I wouldn't block him. I would count the days he has kept me waiting, double them, then yes - tell him I met someone on the bus 😂

If you are abroad probs don't wanna spend on a txt. Just leave it now and get on with your hol you'll only feel a tear if you txt again and he ignores that too. Could be loads of reasons he's not txt.

The text "accidentally meant for someone else" is what 16 year olds do!

Don't give him any power or pull.

Just leave it and him to his miserable existence where he's bemoaning "there's no decent women out there"

Delete his number, delete his texts and any other communication, delete him on the OLD app/site and move on

He is just not that into you!

Either he was hoping you'd be an easy lay and you weren't and don't want to be or he simply didn't fancy you that way at all.

He's handled it badly that's his problem don't make it yours.

I had a "date" the other day, upon meeting him in real life didn't fancy him, told him as kindly as possible and thanked him for meeting me -
Grown up sensible way to handle things. Sadly too many people who are apparently adults can't handle such things in adult ways! Also I'm bi and I've had similar issues with women it's not just men that pull this crap!

Stop wasting time and emotion on him move on.

You're not everyone's cuppa if you were you'd be a mug! Cliche and naff but true

Don't go down that road, you'll just end up hanging around waiting for him.
If he's made you feel insecure after one meet up then he just isn't the one for you.

"Feel a twat" not tear

No, he’s just not thinking about you. He didn’t arrange a second date…he is probably arranging dates with other women about town.

Yes, he’s a douche. Is there anyone else vaguely interesting online to chat to?

I think you’re going about this the wrong way. You’ve had one single date with this guy but you want the banal texting back-and-forth of a LTR – “hey morning” and a pic isn’t flirting or active communication like setting up a second date, really, it’s just filler. Some people, me included, don’t do filler! It’s banal and boring and I’m busy. He may well be one of those.

You’ve had plenty of opportunities since the date to suggest a second day/time/activity but you haven’t, he might equally be head-scratching thinking, “She’s showed no interest in a second date but I’m meant to be interested in her holiday photos?”

I hate the not knowing. Like yourself I'd rather they said something instead of ghosting if they don't want to take it any further. As others have said, even if he gets in touch now (without a good reason for the delay), ask yourself if you can be bothered with such tardy communication all the time. I wouldn't be happy with no communication for 2 days and a read and unanswered message for hours.

Its shite isnt it

Icing on the cake it was my birthday yesterday - nil happy birthday message 🫠🫠