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AIBU?

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To go to the police with this trivial issue?

92 replies

GemsNails · 11/06/2022 11:25

I am a self-employed beauty therapist. Things have been hard over the past couple of years and there have been times when I have not been able to pay the rent or buy food.

Six weeks ago, I was offered a position in a salon. The business was owned by a woman who bought the salon as is, but has no beauty industry experience. She seemed very keen for me to come onboard and I spent a couple of weeks working on how we could remodel the salon and make it profitable. I have a lot of experience in this area and was very excited at this new opportunity.

I took my salon equipment to her salon and started work a few Saturdays ago. I worked 3 hours and we had one client come in who was very happy with the service. However, it was then quiet and the salon owner made the decision to close the salon as she didn’t think anyone else would be coming. She told me to come back next Saturday as this client had rebooked with me.

During that week, I contacted her to firm up details of the salary, etc. She ignored my messages and it became very apparent that she had ghosted me.

I then found a 4 week temporary job that I could start straight away, but was only during the week, so I could still work at her salon, in theory.

I told her that I had had to take the temp job as I had rent to pay, but could still work at her salon at the weekends until things picked up. She went mental at me for taking the other job and sent me a very long and quite abusive text message.

Since then, I have been trying to get my salon equipment back as well as my pay for the 3 hours and have asked her when it is convenient to pick it up. It’s a very long way and I need to get someone to drive me there as the salon equipment is heavy.

Most of my messages she’ll ignore, but sometimes she’ll send quite abusive messages back.

I thought we made some headway today as she texted me and told me she would be at the salon for 45 mins. I told her I was on my way and would get there as soon as I can. I was 2 mins late and she’d gone 😞.

She then texted me this long rambling story which didn’t really make sense about having another client and being late and it all being my fault. She was ranting and raving about me and what a terrible person I am 😢.

I have sent her so many messages about picking up my stuff. Most of which she had ignored. She is now saying she is going to dump all my salon equipment in the rubbish 😭.

Without my equipment I have no business. Without my business I have no income. It would cost me about £500 to replace my equipment and I just don’t have it. As well as that, I’ve had some of that equipment for years and it’s of great sentimental value.

I want to go to the police for help but will they see this as too trivial to help with? AIBU? Thanks.

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Ostryga · 11/06/2022 11:28

100% go to the police, you have all the messages to prove what she’s said. Sadly I don’t think they will actually do a lot.

Next step will be to go to small claims court to recoup your money. It’ll cost around £50-£70 to do, but should hopefully put the frighteners up her so she returns your equipment.

Hugasauras · 11/06/2022 11:30

I'd tell her that you are giving her till 5pm to allow you access to remove your equipment or you will be contacting the police. And then do so. Even if they can't do much.

GemsNails · 11/06/2022 11:35

Thanks ladies. You don’t think the police will accuse me of wasting their time?

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Lizzieismagic · 11/06/2022 11:37

It is theft. Of course they will be interested...

Hugasauras · 11/06/2022 11:38

Just them contacting her would probably do the job. I doubt she wants a police car turning up at her new salon.

IsadoraQuagmire · 11/06/2022 11:39

She has your property and owes you money. You're perfectly justified in contacting the police.

SpindleSheWrote · 11/06/2022 11:39

GemsNails · 11/06/2022 11:35

Thanks ladies. You don’t think the police will accuse me of wasting their time?

No, it's theft, which is a crime.

SoupDragon · 11/06/2022 11:42

Hugasauras · 11/06/2022 11:30

I'd tell her that you are giving her till 5pm to allow you access to remove your equipment or you will be contacting the police. And then do so. Even if they can't do much.

I would do this.

if you are worried that you might be wasting the time of the police, just the "threat" of contacting them might be enough to get your equipment back.

GemsNails · 11/06/2022 11:42

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your replies.

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Moosake · 11/06/2022 11:50

Yes go to the police

GemsNails · 11/06/2022 11:50

To be honest, I am a bit scared of her. She comes across as quite unhinged in her messages. All I’ve been trying to do is collect my salon equipment and the money she owes me and she is being so obstructive. My temp job has finished now and I have no income without my salon equipment.

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GemsNails · 11/06/2022 12:30

A long shot I know, but are there any police officers here who could tell me whether it is likely my problem will be taken seriously? I am scared the police will accuse me of wasting their time.

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Hugasauras · 11/06/2022 12:34

They won't accuse you of wasting their time. I used to work for the police and believe me, this is not a time-wasting issue. Call 101, that's what it is for.

EsmeSusanOgg · 11/06/2022 12:34

HMRC are probably the people to contact. They look at minimum wage claims etc.

ChanceNorman · 11/06/2022 12:38

Personally I would write off the 3 hours pay and put it down to experience and a lucky escape.

Regarding getting your stuff, why are you messaging her repeatedly to arrange a time?
She has a salon - is it shut down or open for business? Just go there. Get a friend to call the main number and enquire about availability or book an appointment. Go there with someone as back up at a time you know she's open and take your stuff.

happinessischocolate · 11/06/2022 12:45

Get a friend to call the main number and enquire about availability or book an appointment. Go there with someone as back up at a time you know she's open and take your stuff.

This is what I was thinking, if she then refuses to allow you to take your stuff then contact the police.

I once had to collect stuff from someone who had threatened me, the police told me to go and then contact them if there was a problem when I got there.

HollowTalk · 11/06/2022 12:58

I would definitely talk to the police about this.

HumourReplacementTherapy · 11/06/2022 13:05

Talk to the police. If they don't appear interested say that in that case you will have to take matters into your own hands to retrieve your belongings and will be going at X time. That worked for us as the police arrived and we got our stolen property back.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 11/06/2022 13:09

Why don’t you just go to the salon and collect your stuff? Why are you messaging her?

SystemOverloadedNameChange · 11/06/2022 13:11

I would tell her that if she doesn't allow you to collect your equipment you will contact the police. If you incur any losses due to damage or her disposing of your equipment then you will take her to small claims court.

NoSquirrels · 11/06/2022 13:13

The police won’t think you’re wasting their time.

SolasAnla · 11/06/2022 13:16

ChanceNorman · 11/06/2022 12:38

Personally I would write off the 3 hours pay and put it down to experience and a lucky escape.

Regarding getting your stuff, why are you messaging her repeatedly to arrange a time?
She has a salon - is it shut down or open for business? Just go there. Get a friend to call the main number and enquire about availability or book an appointment. Go there with someone as back up at a time you know she's open and take your stuff.

Good suggestions here⬆️

Call the local station and you are looking to prevent a breach of the peace, ask them if they have a preference on the timing as there could be a local public event which needs extra manpower etc. which could delay their response time.

Ohtoberoavingagain · 11/06/2022 13:38

Please contact the police. If they don’t have anyone on hand immediately they’ll tell you so. I think it’s the type of thing where you make a firm appointment time with her and the police will turn up as well to prevent ‘ a breach of the peace’ I.e. her kicking off.
Call 101, or if you have a local, open police station go there, show them the texts. Then send her one message saying when you will collect your items.

ThatsGoingToHurt · 11/06/2022 13:44

Call the police and tell them that she is withholding your property and you need them to attend to prevent a breach of the peace (as she is batshit). I would call them well in advance and then you can arrange for them to be there when she is there.

i would reply to her that if she buns all your stuff you will seal redress through the small claims court.

Doginthewindow · 11/06/2022 13:56

Get a friend to book an appointment (fake obviously) with her, and go get your stuff..