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AIBU?

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To go to the police with this trivial issue?

92 replies

GemsNails · 11/06/2022 11:25

I am a self-employed beauty therapist. Things have been hard over the past couple of years and there have been times when I have not been able to pay the rent or buy food.

Six weeks ago, I was offered a position in a salon. The business was owned by a woman who bought the salon as is, but has no beauty industry experience. She seemed very keen for me to come onboard and I spent a couple of weeks working on how we could remodel the salon and make it profitable. I have a lot of experience in this area and was very excited at this new opportunity.

I took my salon equipment to her salon and started work a few Saturdays ago. I worked 3 hours and we had one client come in who was very happy with the service. However, it was then quiet and the salon owner made the decision to close the salon as she didn’t think anyone else would be coming. She told me to come back next Saturday as this client had rebooked with me.

During that week, I contacted her to firm up details of the salary, etc. She ignored my messages and it became very apparent that she had ghosted me.

I then found a 4 week temporary job that I could start straight away, but was only during the week, so I could still work at her salon, in theory.

I told her that I had had to take the temp job as I had rent to pay, but could still work at her salon at the weekends until things picked up. She went mental at me for taking the other job and sent me a very long and quite abusive text message.

Since then, I have been trying to get my salon equipment back as well as my pay for the 3 hours and have asked her when it is convenient to pick it up. It’s a very long way and I need to get someone to drive me there as the salon equipment is heavy.

Most of my messages she’ll ignore, but sometimes she’ll send quite abusive messages back.

I thought we made some headway today as she texted me and told me she would be at the salon for 45 mins. I told her I was on my way and would get there as soon as I can. I was 2 mins late and she’d gone 😞.

She then texted me this long rambling story which didn’t really make sense about having another client and being late and it all being my fault. She was ranting and raving about me and what a terrible person I am 😢.

I have sent her so many messages about picking up my stuff. Most of which she had ignored. She is now saying she is going to dump all my salon equipment in the rubbish 😭.

Without my equipment I have no business. Without my business I have no income. It would cost me about £500 to replace my equipment and I just don’t have it. As well as that, I’ve had some of that equipment for years and it’s of great sentimental value.

I want to go to the police for help but will they see this as too trivial to help with? AIBU? Thanks.

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rnsaslkih · 11/06/2022 14:01

It’s not just withholding property, it’s withholding the tools of your trade and that is not allowed. Definitely contact police.

fyn · 11/06/2022 14:48

The police won’t be able to help you, you’d have to take her to court if she won’t return. Can you not ask a friend to book an appointment and turn up with them to secure the return of your things.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/leaving-a-job/resigning/solving-property-disputes-when-you-leave-a-job/

Crystalvas · 11/06/2022 15:00

ThatsGoingToHurt · 11/06/2022 13:44

Call the police and tell them that she is withholding your property and you need them to attend to prevent a breach of the peace (as she is batshit). I would call them well in advance and then you can arrange for them to be there when she is there.

i would reply to her that if she buns all your stuff you will seal redress through the small claims court.

Good idea.

FlorisFigure · 11/06/2022 15:16

She sounds like someone I know. Is the salon in a little village? And no, she isn’t batshit crazy. She’s jeffing insane.

Iamnotamermaid · 11/06/2022 15:31

The police can always decline to help you - but it is worth a try. She may already be known to them, you never know.

Aprilx · 11/06/2022 15:42

I am surprised at the responses because this looks like a civil matter not a criminal one to me. She did not steal your items, you brought them and left them on her premises. Of course you are absolutely entitled to get your property back, but I suspect that is something that you will need to pursue through the civil legal channels.

I suppose you could contact the police, perhaps if they are having a slow day somebody will go around and have a word. But I wouldn’t be surprised if they won’t get involved.

Thebeastofsleep · 11/06/2022 17:00

If you know when she'll be at the salon or when it will be open, you can request a police escort to prevent breech of the peace. Alternatively, write a 'letter before action' - templates available free online.

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 00:21

I contacted the police. They were so nice 😊. They are going to pop round to the salon and if she’s not there they’re going to the Tapas Restaurant (that she also owns) to instruct her to give me my stuff back or else she is committing theft.

I'm really amazed by how nice the police were. Thanks everyone for your encouragement to contact them.

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Hugasauras · 12/06/2022 00:24

That's great news! Smile

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 06:37

So the police intervened and I got my stuff back. The salon owner then sent a really vile text message to my husband. She said some really nasty things about me. I am so upset about it. And very angry. I feel like leaving her salon a Google review:

”This salon is a filthy, chaotic dump run by a crazy woman. I worked there for half a day but left because it was so dirty and unsanitary. I had to get the police involved to get my salon equipment back as any attempt to arrange to retrieve my equipment was met with vile abuse from the salon owner. And she never paid me for the hours I worked. I would recommend staying as far away as possible from this disgusting health hazard of a salon.”

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UrsulaPandress · 12/06/2022 06:41

That was quick.

DotBall · 12/06/2022 06:46

How did the salon owner know your DH’s mobile number to text him?

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 06:48

@DotBall he tried messaging her this morning. She didn’t get back to him at the time but sent the message after the police got in touch.

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FlorisFigure · 12/06/2022 06:52

Don’t send the review, she’ll sue you for defamation.

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 06:53

@FlorisFigure its all true though? Maybe I could swap the word ‘crazy’ for something else, but it is all true.

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Pippa12 · 12/06/2022 06:57

To be honest I’d just leave it now you have your things back. To be honest I always take reviews from disgruntled ex employees with a pinch of salt, no smoke without fire and all that. I’d wonder why you took a job at a dirty salon in the first place, which would then make me question your judgement.

Hugasauras · 12/06/2022 06:59

Take the high ground and don't leave the review. Block her on everything.

Glad you got your stuff back!

pompomseverywhere · 12/06/2022 07:04

Walk away from it now. You are understandably angry but don't lower yourself.

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 07:08

Thanks everyone, you’re right. I need to walk away from it all and block her. I’m just so upset about the things she said to my husband. Really awful things.

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IrisVersicolor · 12/06/2022 07:14

I’m glad you got your stuff back. But why would you be upset by the rantings of a madwoman? It’s not about you it’s about her.

MargosKaftan · 12/06/2022 07:14

Dont leave the review. Dont do anything that associates your name with her business. It'll be going to shit shortly by the sounds of things.

Billylilly · 12/06/2022 07:22

You got your stuff back, hold your head high and move on. Her opinion on what she thinks or says about you is so irrelevant - she’s a nutbag

NoSquirrels · 12/06/2022 07:25

Your husband knows nothing she said is true. You know that too. Move on, feel free, be glad you’re the better person.

Good luck with getting a new job!

FloydWasACat · 12/06/2022 07:31

Are you in the UK OP? I'm a bit confused about the timings. Very impressed by the quick response by the police though.

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 07:33

@FloydWasACat No, I’m in Sydney, Australia.

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