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AIBU?

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To go to the police with this trivial issue?

92 replies

GemsNails · 11/06/2022 11:25

I am a self-employed beauty therapist. Things have been hard over the past couple of years and there have been times when I have not been able to pay the rent or buy food.

Six weeks ago, I was offered a position in a salon. The business was owned by a woman who bought the salon as is, but has no beauty industry experience. She seemed very keen for me to come onboard and I spent a couple of weeks working on how we could remodel the salon and make it profitable. I have a lot of experience in this area and was very excited at this new opportunity.

I took my salon equipment to her salon and started work a few Saturdays ago. I worked 3 hours and we had one client come in who was very happy with the service. However, it was then quiet and the salon owner made the decision to close the salon as she didn’t think anyone else would be coming. She told me to come back next Saturday as this client had rebooked with me.

During that week, I contacted her to firm up details of the salary, etc. She ignored my messages and it became very apparent that she had ghosted me.

I then found a 4 week temporary job that I could start straight away, but was only during the week, so I could still work at her salon, in theory.

I told her that I had had to take the temp job as I had rent to pay, but could still work at her salon at the weekends until things picked up. She went mental at me for taking the other job and sent me a very long and quite abusive text message.

Since then, I have been trying to get my salon equipment back as well as my pay for the 3 hours and have asked her when it is convenient to pick it up. It’s a very long way and I need to get someone to drive me there as the salon equipment is heavy.

Most of my messages she’ll ignore, but sometimes she’ll send quite abusive messages back.

I thought we made some headway today as she texted me and told me she would be at the salon for 45 mins. I told her I was on my way and would get there as soon as I can. I was 2 mins late and she’d gone 😞.

She then texted me this long rambling story which didn’t really make sense about having another client and being late and it all being my fault. She was ranting and raving about me and what a terrible person I am 😢.

I have sent her so many messages about picking up my stuff. Most of which she had ignored. She is now saying she is going to dump all my salon equipment in the rubbish 😭.

Without my equipment I have no business. Without my business I have no income. It would cost me about £500 to replace my equipment and I just don’t have it. As well as that, I’ve had some of that equipment for years and it’s of great sentimental value.

I want to go to the police for help but will they see this as too trivial to help with? AIBU? Thanks.

OP posts:
Pottedpalm · 12/06/2022 07:35

ChanceNorman · 11/06/2022 12:38

Personally I would write off the 3 hours pay and put it down to experience and a lucky escape.

Regarding getting your stuff, why are you messaging her repeatedly to arrange a time?
She has a salon - is it shut down or open for business? Just go there. Get a friend to call the main number and enquire about availability or book an appointment. Go there with someone as back up at a time you know she's open and take your stuff.

Good suggestion

MixedCouple · 12/06/2022 07:36

I would contact the police and see if they can be there when you collect your equipment.
Also you can report her to so many agencies and even take her to court for this.
Hope you get your things back

Pottedpalm · 12/06/2022 07:40

Ah, see you have sorted it now.
Agree, walk away and don’t have your name associated with her’s.

SeasonFinale · 12/06/2022 07:40

MixedCouple · 12/06/2022 07:36

I would contact the police and see if they can be there when you collect your equipment.
Also you can report her to so many agencies and even take her to court for this.
Hope you get your things back

She already did

FloydWasACat · 12/06/2022 07:40

Ah, that makes more sense. I was imagining the police going to her house at silly o'clock this morning, thinking 'ooh, they are efficient'!

Good for you OP, it's good to hear that you got it all back.

5zeds · 12/06/2022 07:49

You didn’t leave because it was unsanitary and would have continued working there if you’d got more clients so the review wouldn’t be honest. Just wak away.

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 07:59

It WAS filthy. I had all these grand plans of transforming it into a beautiful - and successful - beauty salon. But I know I would have been fighting with her continually over the need for sterilising and keeping things clean. Not to mention the amount of crap she was storing in the salon. There was old furniture, two defunct coffee machines, old shoes, clothes, a broken washing machine and mountains of crap in the bathroom. Which was also filthy.

I guess I saw it as a challenge and invested so much time in planing and sketching out the ‘new’ salon. I bought templates for branding and spent ages looking for more staff, at her request.

Oh well, you live and learn.

OP posts:
HJ40 · 12/06/2022 07:59

Wow, I was going to say I wanted to live where you live with police like that, it given it's Sydney, I definitely do 😀

Veryverycalmnow · 12/06/2022 08:01

Glad you got your stuff back. Good luck with your business and hope you'll steer clear of this kind of situation happening again.

Starbeach · 12/06/2022 08:11

Ask the local psco if they can come will you

limitedperiodonly · 12/06/2022 08:13

I love a happy ending

carefullycourageous · 12/06/2022 08:57

The wages are trivial, the equipment is serious - and it is theft so YANBU to report this to the police and get their help in getting your stuff back.

carefullycourageous · 12/06/2022 08:58

Sorry, I didn't RTFT - I am pleased you did get your stuff back!

Nishky32 · 12/06/2022 09:00

Aprilx · 11/06/2022 15:42

I am surprised at the responses because this looks like a civil matter not a criminal one to me. She did not steal your items, you brought them and left them on her premises. Of course you are absolutely entitled to get your property back, but I suspect that is something that you will need to pursue through the civil legal channels.

I suppose you could contact the police, perhaps if they are having a slow day somebody will go around and have a word. But I wouldn’t be surprised if they won’t get involved.

Look up the definition of theft.

Nishky32 · 12/06/2022 09:03

Nishky32 · 12/06/2022 09:00

Look up the definition of theft.

Actually don’t- just seen it’s in Australia 😂

so glad you got your stuff back @GemsNails

Cocowatermelon · 12/06/2022 09:07

Good outcome. Block her on your phones so she can’t keep messaging. Don’t leave the review, you just want to cut all contact with her completely now that you have your equipment back.

MissMaple82 · 12/06/2022 09:18

Thus us theft! I'd go straight to the police right now, they are not going to think you are wasting there time, at the very least they will contact her to arrange something, you may even get police escort, but don't count on it. You can't sit back and let this woman destroy your livelihood a second longer, she's had ample opportunity. She sounds unstable, I'd tell them about the abusive messages too

MissMaple82 · 12/06/2022 09:19

The police will help, they helped me get property off an ex

pompomseverywhere · 12/06/2022 10:05

You sound like you have all the skills to open your own salon one day without a mad woman in tow.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 12/06/2022 10:14

Walk away.
The moral high ground is a very powerful position to be in.

GemsNails · 12/06/2022 11:27

pompomseverywhere · 12/06/2022 10:05

You sound like you have all the skills to open your own salon one day without a mad woman in tow.

Thank you 😊.

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AMBE123 · 12/06/2022 12:46

Glad you got it sorted, always good for mumsnetters to mention which country they are in if the advice needed relates to anything legal.

In the UK that would not be theft but police would attend - if they had officers available - if it was to 'prevent a breach of the peace'.

Glad that your Aussie police were happy to 'have a chat with her' and get it sorted.

Good luck with your future salon!

BigChesterDraws · 12/06/2022 16:16

It would cost me about £500 to replace my equipment

I didn’t know they used sterling in Australia.

Nishky32 · 12/06/2022 18:20

AMBE123 · 12/06/2022 12:46

Glad you got it sorted, always good for mumsnetters to mention which country they are in if the advice needed relates to anything legal.

In the UK that would not be theft but police would attend - if they had officers available - if it was to 'prevent a breach of the peace'.

Glad that your Aussie police were happy to 'have a chat with her' and get it sorted.

Good luck with your future salon!

It would be theft in the UK

Nishky32 · 12/06/2022 18:23

Nishky32 · 12/06/2022 18:20

It would be theft in the UK

Sorry, could be theft in UK

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