hi im not too sure where to post this one really, dd is almost 7 months old and since ive been pregnant ive had a few problems with my mum.
i used to have problems with her when i wasa a teenager, she used to say things to me like she hated me and that i was clean on the outside and dirty on the inside, and generally make my life unhappy.
although when i got into my 20's and brought a house etc with dh who was then bf, she seemed to be ok with me again, like she approved of me or something? i don't know?
but since i became pg i see more signs of the old mum emerging, such as when i found out i was pg told my mum and dad and pil, asked them not to say anything till 12 weeks i was about 7weeks i think when i told them, my mum had already slatted my sister in law for telling everyone before 12 weeks, which i believe is the mums right to choose,but you guessed it my mum decided to tell my other sil and when i was upset that she told her,mum never even apologised,
or even seemed sorry.
mum and dad went on holiday when i was 37-39 weeks so was not around when dd was born at 37 weeks.
they booked this after they knew i was pg and when the due date was.
had quite a shit time with 4th degree tear spinal and repair op etc
then last week at my aunts my cousin was asking me about the birth and mum pipes up thats just what happened to me when i had your brother [she did not have a 4th degree tear or need any type of op] but did have stitches as most women do.
i replied v quitely well i dont think that quite what happened to you.
am i being a bit over sensitive here?
and how would you handle her ?
she does try to put me down alot?
and never ever says sorry, for anything ever !
im guessing you will say stop seeing her but i have to really to see there rest of my family and there are times when she can be really nice
what you say about the 4th degree tear comment?
it has upset me quite alot
id really apprieate your views
ps i used to be kittenbaby