Should I have done something earlier?

[PetraBP]

DD now 7 was potty trained just before she turned 2.

Quick learner and no fuss.

We kept the pull-ups on at night and she’s never been dry.

I assumed she would just grow out of it, start to wake up dry and we could stop using them, but she hasn’t.

All the advice seems to just leave it and she’ll be dry in her own time.

I’ve never spoken to her about it as I’ve not wanted her to feel bad or embarrassed about it. I’ve never really thought much about it until recently. We’ve just sort of drifted into the situation.

Should I have done something earlier?

Is there anything I could do now without upsetting her?

Should I just leave it or is there a risk that she will go into adulthood still needing them if I do?

Oh dear.

Just an update on the more water thing.

It does seem to have stretched her bladder but now she’s wetting most nights and managing to make her pull-up leak as a result!

Back to square zero! At least the pull-ups held all her wee before!

bangs head against wall

I’d get Drynites. They might be more absorbent than the Aldi ones.

Don’t sweat it- she’s what, 7?

The increased drinking is to actually stimulate the production of the hormone that makes urine be concentrated overnight.

I now keep getting targeted adverts on here for “ID Comfy Junior” pants which I’ve never seen in shops.

Does anyone know if they’re any good?

Perhaps now her bladder has stretched a bit, you could try limiting the amount of water she has in the evening.

Ask for referral to the nocturnal enuresis clinic. The will check everything is functioning properly and give good advice. I have an older teen that still does it but refuses to take the desmopressin prescribed. I berate them now as old enough to take steps themselves to prevent it happening, but at seven, they still have no control. They are all different, sometimes it's something that they cannot help. There could be an underlying issue or they could just be late stage development for it. Best of luck.

Just an update. Having apparently stretched her bladder by having her drinking more water, and after some initial success, we seem to have gone back to being wet every night and leaking through the Aldi pull-ups.

I’ve switched to Dry Nites which seem to hold everything.

I thought we were on the way to night dryness but sadly not 😭😭😭

My daughter used to have a wet nappy every morning and it turned out she was actually dry all night and it was her having her morning wee in them. Started waking her up a bit early to go to the toilet and she's generally fine now (with the occasional accident).

Honestly like I said up post - at your daughter's age I'd just wait it out. I spoke to a GP who said it's mainly to do with hormone that kicks in that concentrates the urine so they don't need to go in the night.she said for some children this hormone won't kick in until they are adolescent. It happened for my son when he turned 9 and she said that's not at all uncommon. I wouldn't waste time trying to train her or buying bed wetting alarms etc. It'll happen naturally soon enough. In the meantime stick with the pull ups and don't stress.

Yep. She’s still wet…

every

single

night.

Unless anyone has any radical solutions I’m just going to keep her in pull-ups and hope it resolves itself.

I don’t want to risk my sanity or hers!

Thank goodness for the availability of age appropriate pull-ups!

I’m sure when I was her age the prospect of having to wear what is essentially a nappy would have been totally humiliating if I’d had this problem- thank goodness they don’t look anything like nappies now!

I probably won’t update any further unless anything changes, but thank you all for the tips.

Just an update since last time I updated this several months have gone past.

We’ve gone from being wet every night to being wet three or four nights a week.

So heading in the right direction.

Another Mum from school who confided in me that her DD who is a friend had the same problem has been a massive support (as well as now regular sleepover buddy!) It seems that the problem is slowly wearing off for her DD too. Is 7/8 some sort of magic age when most kids who still wet the bed start to stop?

I was worried at the start of the summer as my daughter was headed towards 6 and still wore pull ups overnight. She was sometimes dry still in the morning, but not reliably so. She toilet trained with no issues at about 2 and a half, and like you I always thought being dry overnight was hormone related and she would just grow out of needing nappies overnight. I þhen started to worry it wouodnt happen!

We used a sensor that woke her at first sign of wetness for a few weeks, and then she started to get up herself to go to the loo if needed. We then stopped using the sensor and she still got up on her own, and we haven't had a wet pull up overnight in a long time, so are about to ditch them.

This is the sensor - I did so much research and this was by far the best available - just cut a little hole in the pull ups and tucked inside. Not cheap, but did work.

DRI Sleeper Eclipse Special Package - Wireless Bedwetting Alarm for Deep Sleepers with Extra Alarm Base for The Parents Room amzn.eu/d/9U2Jq64

....and I should say that I think the issue was largely just that she was such a deep sleeper that she wasn't recognising the feeling of needing the toilet, or the feeling wasnt enough to wake her without some sort of prompting/training, or was ignoring it in favour of staying cosy and warm - she now usually gets up somewhere between 5 and 6 am for a wee then goes back to bed.

Positive progress @PetraBP, it's great to hear that things are moving in the right direction for your DD. It's also reassuring to hear of the support you have from another mum at school too.

I am still in the same position as you with my DS who is 7.5, I'm still using pull-ups for nights in the hope that he will hit some magical age (hopefully soon) where the hormone he needs to produce kicks in and we can ditch the pull-ups. I may look at the alarm sensor, that others have posted about, but for now I'm going to give it until his 8th birthday (in the spring) and reassess things then.

Thank you for updating, it really does help to know we're not alone in this and that others are going through it too.

We’re down to one or two wet nights a week now with DD8. Usually Friday nights and one other random night per week.

The question is now whether we should go cold turkey and ditch the pull-ups.

DD has begged me not to make her give up the pull-ups in favour of absorbent bed mats as she said she doesn’t want to wake up with wet PJs as that would be horrible.

It seems wasteful to have her in them every night when they’re only wet 1/7 or 2/7 though.

Moving in the right direction though.

Any suggestions? Should I just not buy any more and make her go without?

TBH we just reused them when they were dry.

She could wear a pair of knickers first, which would keep the nappy pants clean and also may help wake her as she starts to pee as they'll feel wet.

I did wonder whether that would be hygenic, but ordinary pants inside could resolve that. Thanks for the tip!