To think this is too much for a year 6 prom dress

[Motherinapickle]

DD is in year 6. Her friend has got her prom dress from JJ house and DD wanted to have a look on there too so I agreed.

The dress she’s chosen is £53 and will cost £17 to post.
Aibu to think this is too expensive for a year 6 prom?

Her shoes and accessories are yet to be bought!

We can afford it but I’m conscious of not ‘spoiling’. She’s really kind and thoughtful and recognises that we’re privileged and has said so ( with no prompt from me when looking at the dresses). I know she’ll be grateful and take it for granted but I’m still hesitant.

aibu?

ps if anyone can direct me to junior bridesmaid dresses sites that are cheaper, I’d appreciate it very much!

The whole concept of Yr6 pupils dressing up in prom dresses is <bleurgh> to me and I would be advising my child they wear something they already had so we could spend the £50-£100 on something more interesting than clothes, but I am a gnarly old grouch.

I want to stick my middle finger up at this rubbish.

It's totally fine

But if you decide against it, Quiz are excellent for this kind of thing.

We had a Yr 6 disco and just wore jeans/shorts/skirts we already owned. We had a brilliant time, I can still remember it.

Kids are so fucking miserable these days and all this crap they are pushed into doing by mad adults is part of the reason why.

I'm irish and here we have a debutant ball and I spent 300 on my dress for it but I had a job and paid it off all summer.

We have got DDs Y11 and Y13 prom dresses from JJs House. They are beautiful dresses and well made. They are shipped from China, hence the postage cost, but arrive within 3 weeks of ordering and can be tracked all the way. There was a recent thread on the company, and most people had had the same experience.

My DD wore a second hand John Lewis dress for her Y6 leavers disco 7years ago - no Y6 proms round my way then!

And the comments about proms and prom clothing being unnecessary although I could have bet my life on their appearance are irrelevant.
The OP isn't suddenly going to have an epiphany and stop her child from going

Even America is not crazy enough to expect fancy dresses for a disco for 10 or 11 year olds. Prom nonsense doesn't start until high school age, which in America is 14 and up.

My daughter's year 6 leaving party is just a... party. They will wear normal, fun clothes. The pp who spent 120£ 20 years ago.. wtf

If you can afford a lovely dress I would buy one. I was always the child who had the wrong thing for every event because my parents didnt have the money/ didn't want me to grow up/ had weird hang ups about bloody everything. The joy of fitting in ,looking like everyone else and feeling fabulous is priceless. You could give her a total budget so she has to shop around to get the look she wants for the amount she has. That is a brilliant life lesson . I wouldn't bother with ordering from China. Google wedding dress warehouses. My DIL bought a fabulous wedding dress for a brilliant price from wed2B in Cardiff. They have a bridesmaids section. Franchises all round the country. Charity shops are fantastic for dresses, shoes, bags ,sparkly bits. Oxfam have wedding shops( often upstairs in their charity shops. They sell bridesmaids dresses too.

Who has a year 6 prom? My ds year 6 treat was pizza, ice cream and a film.

yanbu

Year 6 have proms now????!

At 37 I’m obviously getting old.

We had an end of primary school party party food and with a bit of a disco.

Being able to wear your own clothes was the fun of it.

1995 seems so far away now…

My mum bought her mother of the brides dress from JJ’s House. The dress was beautiful, really good quality and exactly like the photos on their website. I highly recommend them!

I got my wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses from there and they were lovely!

Meh! Perhaps they have a wedding or something to go to in the summer and the girl is going to wear it to that as well. Perhaps it's in a bigger size so that she can grow into it for other parties. Perhaps she has sisters so the plan is to hand it down

Or maybe the mum and dad just liked the dress and the plan is to sell it after the prom to recoup the money

I think it’s fine

I’d say if you can afford it and she understands the cost etc then why not..

I still remember feeling fabulous wearing my polka dot ra-ra skirt to a school disco in the 80’s

my parents weren’t wealthy and we didn’t have lots of lovely clothes but this felt special and I appreciated it

Charity shop ? Monsoon sales section often have occasion dresses at a good price, though some of the full price once would be cheaper than jjs

Year 6 prom? Surely this isn't a thing? Round here they have an after school ceremony and then head to the park with super soakers.

Why do posters insist on piling on these threads with all the "proms are ridiculous" comments?

The OP didn't ask for an opinion on the prom just an opinion on the cost of the dress/supplier.....

The iron is happening whether Mumsnet objects or not FFS

I think the price of the dress is fine but having it sent from China, when we are all so aware of the climate issues is something I would try and avoid if at all possible.

The more people join in the more pressure it puts on parents who just can't do it. When my DD had a prom (at 16 not 11) there was so much bitchiness at school about who had the most expensive dress, who had a limo, who had jewellery bought for them. Yes it is great for the happy memories but that is at a cost to the ones who can't do it, maybe don't even go because they are embarrassed. I know people will tell me that is just life and they need to get used to it but moving on to high school is a big step, is it worth it to make others feel left out?

We didn't join in, DD had a High St dress that didn't cost alot but she looked lovely and so did her group of friends who all did the same and all managed to get there on foot or in a parents car.

When GS left primary just before covid they had a bouncy castle, an entertainer, party food and it seemed much more fun for 11 year olds.

So I'm a bit bah humbug about the whole thing.

To what extent does your comment here answer the OP's question or add to the information value of the thread?

Is it none?

I don't think it's too expensive for a dress for a formal occasion, but I do think it's a ridiculous amount of money to spend on an outfit for a year 6 'prom'. My children would be getting an outfit from the supermarket.

My actual prom dress cost £10, admittedly 20 years ago, but it was in the New Look sale and that was for a private school May Ball. It's not necessary to spend so much on a child.

Get it if she likes it. If it’s anything like the leavers party for my DC, there were kids done up to the nines and also kids (girls and boys) in jeans and t-shirts.