To dislike people saying this about my son all the time?

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Pinkypolkadot · 08/06/2022 11:02

“He’s going to be a heartbreaker when he’s older”

”He’ll break some hearts when he grows up”

I know they’re meant to be nice sentiments and compliments, but I really find it uncomfortable.

Why is it a good thing that he would break someone’s heart? I’m also autistic so I struggle with these kinds of phrases.

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Cameleongirl · 08/06/2022 17:04

SurfBox · 08/06/2022 16:05

it's not really OK for women to say this about teenage boys either. You don't mention your son's age, OP - if he's a young child, it's not as creepy as if he's older

but this often happens on my fb, a mum will stick up a picture of her 14-15 year old son and there will be a load of comments from middle aged women commenting on how handsome and gorgeous he is with hearts etc.

@SurfBox It’s a fine line, isn’t it. Saying someone looks handsome is probably OK, but saying they’re a heartbreaker, etc. is slightly odd, IMO.

My friend knows full well that her son is exceptionally good-looking and he receives lots of attention. My DD
( who’s friends with his older sister) says it makes him really uncomfortable as she’s witnessed it when they’ve been out.

Anyway, that’s a tangent, but bottom line is that we should all be aware that remarks on a child’s appearance could potentially make them /their parents uncomfortable.

Moonface123 · 08/06/2022 17:12

Its meant as a compliment, nothing else, people mean it in a nice way.

SurfBox · 08/06/2022 18:26

but bottom line is that we should all be aware that remarks on a child’s appearance could potentially make them /their parents uncomfortable

yep agreed. I do think aload of women either on sm or in a professional setting shouldn't be gushing over the looks of a teenage boy or any child really though. It's just wrong imho when we'd criticise men for doing it.

CruCru · 08/06/2022 21:54

Wasn’t this a problem for the cast of Stranger Things? I remember there was some issue where Finn Wolfhard had some women going on about how attractive he was / is going to be, to the point of making him uncomfortable (I think he was about 14 at the time).

www.dailyedge.ie/finn-wolfhard-comments-made-by-model-3685221-Nov2017/?amp=1

Sortilege · 09/06/2022 00:13

IncompleteSenten · 08/06/2022 13:36

NTs say some weird shit, OP.
😁 It's very confusing and totally illogical I agree but they genuinely don't mean any harm by it and they don't think it's a bad thing.
I'd say try to be kind and remember that they think differently to us and what they say is often quite different to what they mean.

😂😂

user1473878824 · 09/06/2022 00:32

sotired2 · 08/06/2022 11:05

They mean he is good looking and will not inertially break hearts but will have lots of people with crushes on him and he obviously cant have relationships with them all.

This exactly. It’s not that he’s going to hurt people it’s that everyone will swoon over him and it’s just hyperbole that they will be heartbroken.

pigwood · 09/06/2022 18:22

Aww don't worry , it's a compliment . My son used to have a t shirt that said granny magnet on it . All just a bit of fun, so take it in your stride, he's obviously a very cute baby !

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