Yesterday, my DH’s best friend phoned at 8am to say he’d become a father. There were congratulations given and the new dad was talking about the birth, name and weight.
The new mum had clearly had a very rough birth via c section and baby was in special care. New mum doesn’t have any family or friends in this area.
Then the new dad said how he was going to chill at home and get some sleep and go in to see his partner and baby at about 2:30. Having gone through a c section myself and being left alone in hospital for great lengths of time after the birth, I said “oh please go in earlier, it’s tough having a c section-you can’t move very much and she’ll need you to help her”.
DH’s best friend then replied by hanging up the phone. DH spent the rest of the day shouting at me for this comment, and when I tried to speak to my mother she said I was a gobby interfering cow. My mother has a long history of being abusive to me so I’ve learned to take a lot of what she says with a pinch of salt but My DH’s reaction has really upset me.
I genuinely was only expressing concern for the new mum. I didn’t feel like I overstepped the mark but everyone else’s reaction makes me feel like I’m a horrible person.
Was I unreasonable to make this comment? In hindsight I wouldn’t have done it, but it didn’t come from a place of malice, just concern.