to be devastated re: hold baggage gone missing

[molka]

It's my sister's wedding at the end of the month. She and our parents went back to Thailand to visit family and do a lot of wedding shopping. They've just flown back to the UK but their baggage has mostly not come with them. I am beyond devastated and don't know how to help. The baggage mostly consisted of traditional attire for the wedding (for the bride, groom, close family and friends who'd requested traditional outfits - all custom tailored) as well as other Thai decorations and items for the wedding. Things we can't buy here. Things that took a lot of time and effort to source and then tailored for each person.

Have you contacted the airline?

Don't panic. It should be delivered by the airline. It usually turns up after a day or two.

Beyond devastated seems a bit of an overreaction. Unfortunate, but lots of bags go missing every day, they are all barcoded and most are put on the next flight.

Rather than wailing and gnashing your teeth, you should be on to the airline to find out what they are planning to do to find the baggage and deliver it to you.

How long has it been gone? It usually turns up in a day or two.

Yes devastated is an over reaction in the grand scheme of shitty things that can happen.

Are the bags ‘missing’, ie the airline doesn’t know where they are? Or are they ‘delayed’, ie the airline knows where they are, but they are not where they should be? In the vast majority of cases, the latter applies. Speak to the airline and find out exactly what the situation is. If they are delayed, stop panicking. They will turn up in a few days.

Lost luggage generally gets delivered to the owners within a few days. Calm down, unless the wedding is today!

Sorry yes "devastated" is probably not the right word, currently just a bit shocked. Yes she has spoken to the airline upon arrival. Disappointed is probably a more appropriate term, really disappointed. Not sure whether to try to make alternative arrangements ASAP or hope and pray it shows up.

Where the items in normal suitcase or had they sent them through customs ?

Devastated? Friend just been told her cancers terminal wouldn’t be throwing that word around about some missing clothes that will probably turn up anyway

It’s a nightmare. Our bags got lost on the way to a job interview. Thankfully they turned up eventually!

I'm not surprised you're disappointed. It'll turn up OP.

Apologies - I didn't mean to offend anyone with terminal cancer (or otherwise).

Log it with the airline. Usually the bags will turn up eventually.... they are probably just delayed or there are some issues with customs - depending on the content of the suitcase.

In any case, the airline will be able to guide you.

Sorry OP, I think people are being a bit mean, sounds stressful. I’m sure your luggage will turn up, but the efficiency/stress may depend on the airline. BA were frankly awful, but KLM were great for us. But in both cases we got it back within three days.

Good luck, but I’m sure the wedding will be great whatever happens. X

No one has died, op. It's just stuff that really doesn't matter.

A relative uses the word devastated all the time for all sorts of rubbish. Very annoyed might be more appropriate.

My mum died of cancer 2 weeks ago.

I don't think your use of the word devastated is out of place. We use words to convey feeling and get effect.

It's quite normal to feel that way after spending days and weeks sourcing specific objects at cost and for them to disappear and not know if you'll get them back.

I actually think disappointed is a word that would under describe how you'd feel.

Please ignore the "my life is worse than yours" thread police.

I hope you hear soon what's happened to the suitcase and your sister has an amazing wedding.

Also, I don’t think someone having cancer (very sorry to PP’s friend x) means you are not allowed to be upset about this though.

There are plenty of people going through very hard times.
That doesn't mean you can't be upset about some very important and no doubt expensive gear that is missing!!

Maybe it’s just me but do some people often use very strong words for things that don’t warrant it and then claim they suffer from anxiety. Relative does it all the time followed by bursting into tears when we start eye rolling.

sorry OP but you have used the words devastated and pray over some clothes.

Baggage usually turns up after a while OP.

Also if she feels devastated at the moment, that is how she feels. There are pretty much always people in a worse situation than any one individual. That doesn't mean that OP doesn't feel her emotions.

Weddings are very emotional events.

Honestly OP just speak to the airline (or advise the family members who were actually flying to so so). They should be able to track down the bags.

Lost luggage is pretty common, majority turns up a couple of days later. If the wedding isn't till the end of the month plenty of time for them to find it and fly it over. No reason to panic yet.

It's frustrating but I've had it happen to me several times and it's always turned up within a day or two. I always take spare clothes and important stuff in hand luggage now, and make sure I have enough cash/access to cash to get toiletries etc. when I arrive, just in case.

Did they have a connecting flight on thr journey ? Baggage usually goes awol when someone has a connecting flight. It also usually turns up. It’s Just it never made it to the next flight on time.

did she have her name and address inside the case? When mine went missing (tags were ripped off in the conveyor belt) the Gatwick manager opened the case when she spotted it, saw the piece of paper with my name and phone number, address, called me and had it flown to my destination the next morning.