to think forgiving cheating is mature?

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Hear me out.
I've been thinking about this for a while. No, not because my husband is cheating on me. But because I find myself thinking. Look at Victoria Beckham. So her husband slept with that silly woman and Victoria Beckam didn't LBT, she carried on and kept having a family with him and had another son the year after.
Now, instead of attending Brooklyn’s wedding to headlines of ‘VB meets estranged husband DB at son’s wedding, tensions high, etc. Etc. Etc.’
She attended with her husband as a family unit.

So, to think this is better? To think that had she left her life would have been worse?

What do you think of forgiving cheating?

I could never forgive a cheater. They’ll burn in hell at the end of the day

I don’t think that kind of blanket statement works. Ending or staying in a relationship when one or both parties have been unfaithful are equally valid responses — I don’t think either is ‘better’, as long as it’s freely chosen.

Forgiveness can be mature. It can also be an immature.

I've forgiven things I really shouldn't because I had a fantasy that we could have a better relationship if I just moved past it. It's absolutely never worked the way it does in my head. It took far more maturity to accept reality - no amount of turning the other cheek was going to make anything better and even if I regret I'll never have those relationships I wanted, I can be happy without.

We also have no idea if forgiveness is actually involved in a celebrity situation or if they just came to a different amicable enough solution - they wouldn't be the first. You don't have to actually forgive someone to be able to be in a room with someone with no visible issues. I've managed to be in a room at family events with people who've been horrifically violent to me - I hadn't forgiven them, I just handled the situation as best I could and minimized the time around them.

I think the complete opposite. If you forgive a cheating spouse I think your an idiot (sorry not sorry)
You would only be staying for the lifestyle (the Beckhams). Your partner obviously has no respect for you, and imo once a cheater, always a cheater

You cannot compare Victoria Beckham to the average cheated on spouse. The vast majority of husbands are not David Beckham.
I think tolerating staying married to a great looking, multi millionaire, who otherwise is palatable is not the situation most cheated on spouses face.
She keeps several houses, cars, jewellery possibly worth hundreds of thousands if it more, the brand name, the kids, etc etc.
It is a fact that a lot of couple view their relationship as a brand.
Far easier to tolerate someone when you can spend every weekend in your own luxury pad with or without your kids. Not having to share one car, kitchen , bathroom etc.

Yanbu. Not everyone is incapable of change. And it depends very much on the circumstances. I myself cheated during a mental health breakdown. I told my husband the very day. He forgave me. I have never and would never do something like that ever again. Our relationship meant so much more than something I did when I was out of my mind and I am forever glad that he understood that.

Wow.

Maturity doesn’t come into it. It’s about trust. I couldn’t stay with someone I didn’t trust whether I was 19 or 60.

Fuck being mature

I had more self respect than taking my ex husband back after he cheated on me because I deserve better.

Is he her ‘estranged husband’? Also, would she have forgiven him so quickly if he was working a NMW job compared to earning £300k a week…think not 🤔

There's actually loads of reasons for infidelity and I think to really look at the reasons behind it before making the decision to stay or leave is a brave one.

Which one?

Daaahlings, one could say 'fuck love and trust etc.' and huzzah! for billions their brands generate.
Marriage is a legal contract and has historically had very little to do with love etc. and everything with securing the ever-increasing assets of family/dynasty.
She or any woman in her place, can fuck around as much as she likes, just be way more discreet about it.

Victoria was hardly scraping by on a nmw job when they got together, she had her own successful career and wealth too.

Yabu to think millionaire celebrities are in any way representative of normal society or role models for a healthy relationship.

To me, it’s unforgivable. Does that make me immature? No.

It's entirely possible to be mature enough to have, maintain and assert your own boundaries by getting out of a relationship with a cheat. The maturity aspect would be how you handle, own and carry out your decisions, not necessarily what those decisions are.

I don't think it can be as black and white as never forgive a cheater. So many things happen behind closed doors and in a relationship that it really has to be based on each relationship and the individuals involved. I don't think it is easy to forgive but I also don't think it is always as clear cut as you cheat and it should be game over...

Your simplistic thinking is quite immature.

I hope you agree that the "silly woman" Rebecca Loos had an affair with the "silly man" called Dave Beckham or are you a misogynist?

@youdroppedthis how do you know your husband isn't cheating?

There are many women who stay for the money and fame as she likely did. She can't sing and her fashion company loses millions every year.