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Original poster

To be nosy and ask if anyone is a Police wife here?

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Macbeth8 · 31/05/2022 22:25

My DH has taken on this new career path.
Hes had to do a 17 week training course which includes most weekends! He will hardly see us for the next four months. Sad
Weirdly, met a woman at dds art club whose husband is a Detective..got talking to her and her words being a police wife is extremely hard! She then went on to mention all the affairs they have which is rife in the force!
This really hit me..Im already feeling low/worried. Not to mention I honestly feel like a single mum and its only been 3 days since hes gone away 😢
AIBU to think bad thoughts now about his new career?

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Macbeth8 · 06/06/2022 18:53

@Sparkles8912 what is your role?

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Overthewine · 06/06/2022 20:06

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WildFlowerBees · 06/06/2022 20:12

Police wife of 15yrs, you'll be fine. I listen to dh if he needs to offload on a bad day. Be understanding, it's a tough job and a tiring one. I'm incredibly proud of my dh and being with him has given me more of an appreciation of what our police really do. Good luck!

Debbiedoodah · 07/06/2022 05:37

Macbeth8 · 06/06/2022 18:52

@pinkpupZ

Sad to say this but my DH is already like what you described way before starting his PO career.

Hmm, doesnt look good for me. He has always been a bit kf a chauvinist slash sexist and a touch controlling and aggressive.
I think if anything this role is going to make him worse 😔

What sort of things does he do?

LongLiveLiz · 07/06/2022 05:54

Join the Force
Get a Divorce

Butterwine · 07/06/2022 06:48

Sorry, OP but my husband (police officer) left me earlier this year for his working partner in the force, and my brothers wife also left him last year for a fellow detective. It is rife, and they are never happy!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/06/2022 06:53

I was for a while. My DH did the training and his probation and his mental health was taking a nose dive. It was awful for DD1 and me as well because we barely saw him. I’m really glad he quit (his choice). I’m now quitting my job that takes up all of my time.

Original poster
Macbeth8 · 07/06/2022 14:17

The 17 week training hes on now from college of Policing only pays for the trip back home every other weekend therefore he is not back every weekend.
This has touched a nerve with me mostly as I know if it was vice versa I would be back even on the weekends that weren't paid for. It would only be circa £25-30 to go back and fourth so dont see why he cant

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ssd · 07/06/2022 17:15

I think you need to start thinking of the future @Macbeth8. Your relationship sounds like its not the best for you long before he joined the police and now he has its put the lid on it. I can imagine a strong marriage would be ok but yours sounds all one sided.
Good luck Flowers

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