Our daughter recently got engaged to her long term boyfriend of 12 years. They're both in their 30s, working, and have been living together for quite a few years. My husband and I are both retired so no more money is coming in. We do still go on holidays, but don't have anything like as much money as we used to have. We happily paid for private education and private healthcare and plenty more for all our children and were happy to do so but AIBU to think that by now we've done our bit and our daughter should pay for her own wedding?
AIBU?
To not pay for my daughter's wedding?
WhereDidTheYearsGo · 30/05/2022 18:57
HeddaGarbled · 30/05/2022 20:24
Your family had private education and private healthcare. You’re not struggling along on a state pension, are you? Unless somethings gone drastically wrong with your financial planning, I think you should offer them a couple of grand as a contribution. They need to know what budget they’re working with right from the off, so they can plan accordingly.
Sswhinesthebest · 30/05/2022 20:35
I’ll certainly help buy a home, but a wedding is up to my kids to sort. I might contribute some, but that would be my wedding gift and how much would depend on how flush I am and how much I’d put into their house.
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