Snapchat streak with an ex

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I split up with my ex nearly 3 years ago after being together for 6 years and have a DS age 3 together. He cheated on me with his current partner and now they are expecting a baby. I completly moved on, I've been dating and had couple of relationships myself but nothing too serious. Despite the fact that ex cheated on me we get on and i see it as being mature. Even thought breakup was really though and i felt betrayed at the time but looking at it from where i am in life now i think it was for the better.
We've always used snapchat as main communication form to send pics and videos of DS, even when i found out he cheated on me i carry on sending him pics and videos of his child (ex was asking for it as well) so our snapstreak got quite high as we have been doing it everyday for few years. His partner is fine about it as well, no problem there.
I've been seeing someone for 6 months now and i've been honest about it but he literally said that its him or my ex and the snapstreak so my question is have i completly lost touch with the reality and AIBU or is he overreacting a little bit? There is completly nothing between ex and myself, i do not find him attractive at all which i told my current partner and snaps are ONLY of our child.

I don't even know what a snapstreak is.

Are you 15years old?

Snapstreak is number of days snaps been exchanged for with certain person....you are welcome x

It seems churlish to jeopardise a relationship over a snapstreak, I thought that was the sort of thing young teens hot excited about.

2 seperate things.

1. Anyone that issues ultimatums like that is a controlling dick. Ditch this one
2. It's a bit of an odd way of communicating with an ex and reeks of immaturity as you seem to be most concerned about maintaining your streak. Switch to something less chatty and informal to put better boundaries in place for the sake of you future relationships.

Got.

haha no but feels that way 😂we are in our 30s

I’m glossing over the Snapchat bit because it is unreasonable to expect you to not keep in touch with your child’s father if you get on well enough.

But just use WhatsApp or something like that? You sound a bit invested in having a Snapstreak, which I only know about because social media is part of my job and I cannot imagine anyone over the age of 17 caring about that.

I’m not sure it’s necessary to keep up a Snapstreak but maintaining a good relationship with an ex when children are involved can only be a good thing, and keeping in touch when the other has the DC is positive.

I would be questioning your new DP’s motives and would he be expecting you to change other relationships to.

I don’t know anyone in there 30s who uses Snapchat…
I guess his issue of the fact that Snapchat is generally used for communication that leolel don’t want evidence of.
maybe just WhatsApp him the photos of your child

Doesn't Snapchat delete photos after you send them? Aside from the point but surely if you WhatsApp them, ex gets to have an album of photos of his child.
Current partner is a controlling immature twat.

Oh for gods sake, your boyfriend is being ridiculous, but you aren't being much better banging on about a bloody Snapchat streak

Thats exactly what i was thinking. I am not bothered about the snapstreak it just happened i just dont like the fact that he is giving me an ultimatum

Also when I saw the title I thought your ex had streaked at an event and sent you a Snapchat of his nudity

The snapstreak, while a little juvenile, is not the issue here. The problem is this new bloke getting jealous over something so petty and thinking he can dictate to you. You and your ex maintain a good relationship for the sake of your child, and that won't change no matter what method you use to stay in touch. If you whatsapped the same amount of messages instead your new BF is saying he wouldn't have a problem? I call bullshit.

I've been seeing someone for 6 months now and i've been honest about it
Your phrasing is odd. Taking & sending pics of your own child to your child's own father isn't something that demands 'honesty'.
It's not something you need to 'confess', & it is certainly not something you needed to seek permission for.

but he literally said that its him or my ex and the snapstreak
He's a controlling fucking weirdo. Ditch him immediately.

so my question is have i completly lost touch with the reality and AIBU or is he overreacting a little bit?
If you think a bloke ordering you to stop sending pics of your kid to your ex is just "overreacting a little bit" then yes, you have totally lost touch.
It is disproportionate, controlling, & frankly scary.

If you complied with this batshit order, what do you think will be next?
This man is BOUNDARY TESTING YOU.
www.jennisspace.com/the-shark-cage-metaphor-spotting-potential-abusers/

This man will devour you if you choose to keep seeing him.
Dump him by text today.
"Hi Dave, about your request that I stop sending pics of my kid to his dad - I've had a think about how insane it is that you imagine you can forbid from doing anything at all, let alone with my own kid, so I'm going to take you up on your kind offer to split. Don't contact me again, I'm not interested in you or your control freakery."
Then BLOCK him.

Please come back & confirm you've done it.
This man is a nightmare waiting to happen.

My DP is in daily contact with his exW about his dc, it's never occurred to me to consider it a problem.

Massive red flag with the new boyfriend, he's testing his control IMO if you concede you're basically telling him you're a push over. Men often think a woman on her own with dc is desperate to be in a relationship and will put up with any kind of nonsense and be grateful.

Know your worth.

You need to start new relationships with very clear boundaries, he needs to fit into your established life with your dc (with some compromises you're comfortable with) and not the other way around.

Maybe start a new thread to get the support you clearly need

Maybe i you'd mentioned that?

This thread has taken a weird turn...

Two things ..

The first and main thing is your boyfriend sounds controlling and I'd tell him you'll communicate about your son in whatever way best suits. If he doesn't trust you why is he in a relationship with you?

But secondly, and less important to your main issue, why not just use WhatsApp? I thought the idea of SC was that it deletes once you've viewed or read (I guess making it easy to cheat which is probably what your boyfriend is thinking not that I think he's right).

My question is why use snapchat? The photos are deleted after viewing so that seems very odd.

I think he is probably getting more than photos of his son isn't he?