To think I may have just hoisted my sister by her own petard?

[FelicityFlops]

My sister just messaged me to ask about feeding people for a buffet next week. I do not live in the UK.
Slightly as a joke I said I would be more than happy to come and help and was told I was welcome :-)
I responded that I would be happy to come over (it will cost around €1k) if her VERY comfy guest bed was available. No response so far.
Did I overstep the mark?

huh?

Eh?

That’s not what it means. But you’ve tickled yourself and that’s okay.

Im guessing theres a big back story

I Google "petard" and am none the wiser.

So you DON'T want to come over to help?

You don't understand the meaning of the phrase.

This!

I don’t think you are strictly able to hoist anybody else on their own petards - I’m thinking it’s a DIY activity only…

Confused by this. Are you expecting her to pay or something? It doesn't make any sense.

Had she asked you to travel over then obviously you’d expect to have your travel paid. Suggesting it yourself unprompted as if you just fancy visiting and mucking in, then asking for £1,000 not so much.

But it’s a weird thing to suggest doing if you had no real intention of doing it, especially by text when she couldn’t even deduce any kind of “haha” tone.

Shakespeare innit.

You don’t understand the phrase.

I don’t understand the thread.

You feel like you’ve been slightly cheeky towards your sister and are tickled by that?

You mean did you overstep by asking if you could stay in her VERY comfy guest bed?

I agree with pp you don't know what the phrase means OP

She’s probably not responded as it was an inane conversation that wasn’t funny and didn’t need a response

and yes, you have no idea what the phrase means….

Are you saying that she has shot herself in the foot by agreeing to have you stay in her place?
If not then you've mis-understood the meaning of 'hoisting one's self with their own petard.'

What I meant was, I asked if I could come and help out, was told yes and then said it might be a possibility.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoist_with_his_own_petard
@AnneLovesGilbert I think my sister thought I would politely decline.
No back story at all. If anything it would be a wonderful opportunity to meet various dogs, another great-nephew and my great-niece as well as to see my goddaughter and other relatives.
Oh and I am a pretty good cook :-)

What are you on about?

Hoist with his own petard" is a phrase from a speech in William Shakespeare's play Hamlet that has become proverbial. The phrase's meaning is that a bomb-maker is lifted off the ground with his own bomb, and indicates an ironic reversal, or poetic justice. Wikipedia

For those who aren't sure. It's a very old fashioned phrase.

What I meant was, I asked if I could come and help out, was told yes and then said it might be a possibility.
🤣🤣🤣
Explain where she was hoist by anybody's petard, let alone her own?

Yeah I really don’t think anyone gets this!

Cross posted with you. Have you just learned this phrase and are trying to find a way to use it? Because this isn’t it - it’s just really weird communication.

She probably has no idea if you're actually being serious about going to hers for a holiday or she might think you've turned a joke into inviting yourself to be hosted by her when she's already got a lot on.

If you've really tried to invite yourself then yeah, Id say she's feeling awkward. It would be like what I do with my friends at other end of country, if they're moaning about the kids "I'd help babysit if I could" and they go "kettles on now get in your car please" they aren't actually telling me travel six hours to help with their kids and if I then said "I will actually come if i can have your nice guest room" they'd panic I was actually planning on turning up.

I live on a different continent to my sister. We often joke about nipping over to each others houses to help with menial tasks.
We are the only people who find this funny.