sorryimwashingmyhairthatnight ·
29/05/2022 16:11
Sorry if I waffle on a little here I just feel so upset today with this situation and even stupidly have cried which I know is ridiculous.
For context I'm quite a quiet non confrontational person and DH always tells me I should stand my ground more. Over the last 14 years I have been with DH his siblings (DH is the eldest) have lived with us, we have lent them money, we have had many good times but also lots of bad times and bad behaviour from them. I have always remained neutral and out of everyone have tried to be the peace maker.
Over the last 2 years DHs siblings have done some things that to me personally I couldn't just forget about. One took a large amount of money for work he promised to do on our home(I'm talking thousands - kind of our fault we shouldn't of have him the money up front but were somehow talked into it) the other caused a huge scene at a party that was very important to us and was a really really awful night. From this point I said without apologies I couldn't forgive them and so probably childishly I did remove them from social media as i was so annoyed plus we were all pretty much NC.
A couple of years have gone by and recently DH has bumped into them and said hi occasionally but nothing more I have not seen them at all.
recently MIL is saying to DH how she misses all of them being together and she is sad about the situation but the other 2 siblings are annoyed with me and recently said they wouldn't invite us to a party they were holding due to me removing them (2 years ago and with good reason) off social media. Absolutely ridiculous I know, I don't even go on Facebook often so they aren't really missing out on things but at the time for me it was a case of out of site out of mind due to just how bad these situations were. If at any point they asked me why they were removed I could more than justify it after their behaviour.
I'm so annoyed now that MIL and BILs are now turning this on me and saying they aren't happy having me around them.
I feel like screaming, I never got an apology for the substantial amount of money we lost and a party we spent a lot of money on being ruined, but now I'm expected to apologise and accept responsibility for the face we aren't all 1 big happy family.
I'm genuinely starting to doubt myself now after yet another chat with MIL who is upset and wants me to make the effort to make things right.
I've always let people walk all over me and I won't let that happen again! Please tell me I'm right to stand my ground instead of apologising for something that was caused by them.
Sorry for going on a bit but it's really getting to me now. DH agrees with me and says im owed an apology but doesn't say this in front of MIL so she just thinks im being an awkward cow.