This is such an interesting thread.
I grew up in poverty (single parent - two bed council flat with five of us, income support, worse state school in the country) - I pushed and pushed and when I turned 32 I accepted a job that seen me earning well over 'three figure'.
That was the end of my dating life. Men could simply not handle it. I have no idea whatsoever why, I am so down to earth fundamentally. It seemed ithey had an idea of what my salary could be - but when they found out it was hugely over that glitter left their eyes. Maybe it is not about that. But my singleness has directly correlated with how successful I have been on paper (my character and looks have not changed) - also I am slimmer and look after myself more now (better clothes and hair etc). I am not arrogant given my humble beginnings and I have not 'changed' - but the way people have reacted to me (men) has definately changed. It makes me so sad.
I highly doubt a man earning over 200k in his 30s would be sitting on Bumble crying about how he had been dumped and been single for 2-3 years. Maybe there are men like that but I highly, highly, highly doubt it.
I would never in real life bring this up to any of them. Since I started to be this successful - I have been sexually assaulted, cohersed, gaslit numerous times, ghosted, dumped. When I was younger and from a 'vulnearable' background I had no issue whatsoever getting men intested in me. So make of it what you will. Is it a coincidence that men now see me as merely an object to over power and be disgusted by?
I am not alone with this phenomen - as my Sister has known several similar stories which is comforting and makes me feel less alone. All the woman she knew (4 or so) of them just held their hands up at my age - gave up - and had children alone. This seems to be the only demographic of woman I know socially that choses to be single mothers by choice.
I have to say that now I purposely dumb myself down with men socially, in shops etc as it really is just easier to fall into the narrative now. And I would not even bother bringing it up to a guy because they do not get it and have been socialised that we 'over react'.
Any way theres my TED talk. Fundamentally OP I know what your getting at but fundamentally OP it will be DP expierences that make him realise. Like the book 'I no longer talk to white people abour race' - theres no point until they (men) expierence it themselves. I also do not blame them as such - woman and men are socialised very differently. I suppose I wonder if I am a bit like the 'short guy' - many woman would not date a man shorter than them as we want someone to tower over us and make us safe - men as socialised to be 'better providers' - I often wonder if its something to do with that.