To wonder why people on here have suddenly become so horrible to each other?!

[whyyougottabeanonymous]

I have been following a few different threads over the last couple of weeks and one thing that has really stood out to me is how people on here speak to and treat eachother!

I know we have always had a few regular antagonists but it seems like on the majority of posts people are being completely torn to shreds over things, being put down, being called names.

Since when did mumsnet become like this?!

I think it is such a shame to have some a toxic and negative environment being created by some of the users on here when people come on here to genuinely ask for help at times.

I agree with this. There's always a poster accusing someone of being 'hard work', no matter the situation.

It has always been like this, in fact was worse when the platform had a smaller membership base.

Renowned members with whom disagreeing with would result in an absolute pasting etc

I've been on mumsnet about 18 months and it's always been like that.

At least the constant swearing has reduced a bit.

I agree

I have had some good advice on MN from some lovely people at times, but overall I don’t think MN is good for my mental health. There was a time when I didn’t come on as much and I felt so much calmer.

The same applies to other social media sites too.

I agree - I’ve been here for years and whilst it’s always been quite spirited to say the least it does seem that the vitriol is becoming more normalised.

This.

I think it’s the political situation, and various crises we’ve had

People are taking it out on others on here as a way to deal with it

It used to be much more lighthearted and magazine-y - ie just every day stuff

I think as others have said its because they are behind a keyboard and they can be thier true selves.

Its a shame though that its a thing, and its a shame as a whole, we are part of a site that negatively effects other mental health. People pass it off as the norm for SM which is sad. We cant control what others say but we can do more to call it out when we see people being hounded or when people are being vile.
Wouldn't it be nice to be known as a site that at least people try to stamp out people being unkind,....i know its pie in the sky, but would be nice.

Despite what people say, it used to be a lot more civilised. Alongside the cuntery of some posts, people do not even seem to read the op properly. It actually drives me insane, asking for details that are spelled out in the op, the collective IQ of this site has swan dived.

Totally agree

I thought it came with Covid and then the cost of living crisis has made people more on edge. I have seen quite a few responses that made me think ‘do people not think about how they’d feel if someone said that to them?’ There’s still some lovely people and lovely threads though!

People like this really boil my piss! There's just no need, I bet they wouldn't dare say that to your face in real life. Nasty petulant keyboard warriors.

MN is known for being nasty. That's why I try and use other forums more as the level of hate on here and rudeness is something else. I am amazed how some on here say it isn't. I can't help but think they are just trying to justify their own behaviour.
Take everything here with a pinch of salt and for anything more close to your heart or sensitive, post elsewhere is my advice.

Which other forums would you recommend?

All forums change. I didn't like the 'Royalty' days but then more recently we had the Era of Professionally Offended which was totally joyless. Now we seem to be into the Era of Snappy Bastardness.

I wonder what's next? 'The Dystopian Era'? That'll be a barrel of laughs. The MN chicken will be the MN rat.

No I think you’re right there are some very determined nasty trolls on here atm

Snappy bastardness is the perfect description. Things are different, there's a definition arseiness in the air.

There's one of these threads every week - has been for the whole 10+ years I've been on here. It's not new.

Just because it’s not new doesn’t make it untrue.

Perhaps there are more snappy bastards because there are more people using the site, or perhaps it’s a concerted effort to shut down as many women’s voices as possible, or perhaps it’s just going the same way as other SM, who knows, but I’m definitely noticing an increase esp on the innocuous threads.

I think it used to be a lot nastier - but at the same time truthful. Now it’s not the thing to disagree - I preferred it in the old days!

Not the thing to disagree?! It’s the complete opposite - the snappy bastards are right in there with their antagonistic posts or trolling, and then often don’t even hang about to formulate a coherent argument to back up their keyboard bile.